It really saddens me to see so much criticism and hatred against “sikh” Punjabi girls in this forum from our own brothers.
Most of the posts end up with sikh guys blaming girls as not respecting our culture, becoming easy targets for non-sikh and rejecting sardars etc etc.
It is very disheartening reading the picture you have painted of them based on your “extensive studies” and it has compelled me to write a few things...
First and foremost if you are truly following sikhi then you will be aware that ANY GIRL (not just Punjabi or sikh) are supposed to be viewed as your sisters or mothers.
Sikhi does not encourage that you go around hitting on girls and have gfs before marriage- it is a form of lust, it is kaami and it is one of the 5 chors- full stop.
I see posters advocating sikh guys go find girls from other backgrounds and religious beliefs.
Really, are you that desperate for girls and relationships? (Don’t forget that if you are amrithdhari then you have to marry into an amritdhari/gursikh household).
Consider for a minute that maybe you’re wasting your time, effort and resources chasing the opposite sex and are forgetting why we were put on this earth for.
You are chasing after a body which will deteriorate and rot in the ground one day and forgetting that which will always be eternal.
Have some faith – waheguru will put the right girl at the right time for you, try to trust in him.
Now most of you’ll say that u want to get to know a girl before getting into a commitment and insist that you won’t do anything physical, that your motives are pure (whatever way you choose to justify it).
You complain that so many ‘sikh’ girls turn you down because of your turban and beard – question yourself which girls are you asking in the first place.
Yes I agree there are SOME Punjabi girls that do and say the most disrespectful things against sikhi just as there are some punjabi boys. BUT don’t confuse ‘Punjabi’ with ‘sikhi’- they are two different things.
Just as you toss aside ‘mona’s’ as being non-sikh these are the female version. Turn your attention away from these superficial girls and just maybe you’ll be able to see a ‘sikh’ girl. (btw sikh girls probably won’t easily go out, anyways)
From the posts that I have read that discredit sikh Punjabi girls – most of the posters themselves admit to have non-punjabi and non-sikh girlfriends, which leads me to believe that it is form of validation and justification strategy more to themselves and to others.
Others think they are doing parchar of some sort by dating non-sikh girls supposedly teaching them about sikhi, when in fact most of them will be the reason why sikh values will be diluted in the future when their kids have mixed beleifs or no interest in sikhi.
You pride yourself that in many wars Sikhs with turbans saved girls from being raped and slaughtered – are you their descendants where you are now throwing dirt on our own sikh sisters?
Don’t worry about what the other public’s views are of sikh girls, you should not share the same view. You are not doing anyone any favours posting about crap others are supposedly saying; actually your sexist views may be pushing these girls further away.
Some even go to the extent to question if Guru Gobind Singh Ji gave sikh females too much respect? – it’s unbelievable that guys with such backward thoughts are taking our religion into the future. Learn to appreciate women- this is sikhi.
If you pride yourself as being sikh – then make sure you follow and live the life of SIKH rather than bending sikh rahet to suit you.
Understand true nature of sikhi at its core and lead by example – let your actions be what defines you.
At the end of the day if you keep complaining about non respecting punjabi girls, that’s what you will end up seeing.
Instead of complaining about such girls why don’t you celebrate the true singhni’s and singh’s out there?
You need to increase your tolerance level of ignorant people and learn to be a better Sikh yourself.
I repeat lead by example, show others so much love that your charisma attracts others to you rather then chasing after or trying to change others.
Interested to read others views- girls and guys both.