Masturbation:

[Guest Gupti]

You could just pm it?

I am not brave like you to admit in public what I may or may not do behind closed doors. But there are most definitely health benefits to this activity for both males and females. Type masturbation health benefits into google and you will see all the links. Even married people who have a partner masturbate so it's not such a taboo activity like our Sikh society makes out. In fact I would say Sikh people are closet masturbators but they don't want to admit that they have ever done it. Haha.

In my opinion you are better off for masturbating because you are the best person for working out yourself and knowing your body. For me that was the number one benefit because it cleared up a lot of questions I had. Other benefits are stronger pelvic muscles, reduced stress, better cardio system and flushing out the system has been linked to reduced risks of prostate cancer. Most of these are probably only small differences and you could probably get the same result from daily regular exercise.

My personal preference is to do it to discover yourself and then stop once you've worked it out because after a certain point it becomes a waste of time. Once you hit the 'time waste' stage I would say that you need to stop.

Stopping can be tricky but reduce it slowly rather than stopping abruptly. This is because abrupt stops can lead to cravings. I speak from experience and it's known that masturbation is like a drug because you get a huge release of endorphins equivalent to taking drugs and slowly they fall in your body and then you have the urge to do it again to 'top up' the drug levels. But if you reduce slowly the levels will fall at a tolerable pace allowing you to quit successfully.

So in summary - it's not a bad thing that you did it but if you want to stop because it's taking up your time then start reducing slowly. All the rest of the advice on this forum about getting up at amritvela, exercise, thinking of a ghost lol is not going to work. Only reducing it slowly is going to help you because of the 'drug' effect. All the best.

[Guest Jacfsing2]

It's not worth it. The so-called benefits are outweighed by the negatives. I'm not arguing it's unnatural or you'll go to hell for it, lol, but physically and spiritually you'll feel amazing for not doing it. But if you're always thinking about lustful things and it's proving to be a distraction (in terms of a mental struggle not doing it) rather than something of benefit to you in other areas of your life, then nobody can stop you I guess.

I'm not encouraging that it's the right thing to do, all I was saying is that if someone posted hard facts it should be allowed to be said. (I'm still trying to fight it, but I know only throughout GurPrassad will I be able to win).

[Tryingtobeagoodsikh]

Hello. I'm a 15 year old sikh boy. I don't watch porn but I masterbate to pictures of girls in less clothing. Is it wrong??

[Balkaar]

Hello. I'm a 15 year old sikh boy. I don't watch porn but I masterbate to pictures of girls in less clothing. Is it wrong??

Veerji,

It isn't somehow more ethical to masturbate using a picture of a woman wearing a gorgeous floral-patterned summer dress, than to pleasure oneself to an image of an unclothed woman.

You know I used to entertain exactly that sort of logic myself, for a time. But eventually I found that the slightly less immodest images could no longer do it for me, and I 'graduated' to pornography . These images you are using at the moment are to pornography what cannabis is to heroin/cocaine. A so-called gateway. You'll never be content with them forever. Best to dissever yourself from reliance upon any sort of sexually-oriented material altogether.

[Tryingtobeagoodsikh]

Verrji I am the opposite of u. I stated to watch porn then I reliazed it was wrong. So I started looking at girls in short dresses and stuff.

Also ok Sikhism do u get punished from God for masterbation?

[Guest Guest]

Why would God punish you for touching yourself lol. That's ridiculous, no God won't punish you but you may see why indulging in kaam is a no no in gurbani

[Balkaar]

Verrji I am the opposite of u. I stated to watch porn then I reliazed it was wrong. So I started looking at girls in short dresses and stuff.

Also ok Sikhism do u get punished from God for masterbation?

I don't know that masturbation is something God will punish you for veerji. If you become obsessed by it, this is kaam, an excessive fixation on matters of sex and one of the Panj Chhor.

However I don't see that there is any harm in masturbating occasionally. If you stop doing it entirely you will begin to have wet dreams where your semen will come regardless of any measures you take. The result is messy and irritating. Kaamic thoughts cannot be avoided. If you stop masturbating altogether, they will simply manifest themselves in your dreams. I think therefore that it is better to masturbate sometimes, on your own terms.

[Tryingtobeagoodsikh]

Thank you. I will try to reduce my masterbation lvl

[Guest 1234]

Not eating pyaaz(onion) and garlic does help to control masturbation.

Few of my friends did not eat onion and garlic during navratra so asked one of them why they didn't eat ? so they had no answer.

Then I googled it and found out that onion and garlic and some other fruits actually increase your sexual desire.

I can say that this is tried and tested and you can try the same avoiding these things actually help you if you really want to control the desire , and obviously you need to remember god and do not be alone as said by members.

[SheikhYoBooty]

Hello, I wanted to know how someone could control masturbation and lust. I'm currently having this problem and would like to stop.

Maybe stop watching so much porn Jacoff bro? Good luck Veer. It was brave of u to admit your masturbation problem.