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its just so hard to live with my husbanfs grandmother. she is only here for her benefit and wants to use us. always causing fights trying to cause turmoil. i wished she would just leave. but she rather stay here forcibly and cause drama. is worse becuz ppl think she is godly just wait till you live with her its all about the money. i dont trust her and i bite my tongue i dont like her influence on my kids either. why doesnt she die

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its just so hard to live with my husbanfs grandmother. she is only here for her benefit and wants to use us. always causing fights trying to cause turmoil. i wished she would just leave. but she rather stay here forcibly and cause drama. is worse becuz ppl think she is godly just wait till you live with her its all about the money. i dont trust her and i bite my tongue i dont like her influence on my kids either. why doesnt she die

Lolz good old grannies. You see when one gets older some get possessive as they feel left out. Where is she suppose to leave to?

What do u mean about the money? She has a right to it doesn't she after all it's coz of her u have kids too. Sorry to sound uncaring but she won't die until God wants her to. And the way to sort it is to have s word with your husband about how you are feeling. I think she's feeling pushed out as maybe she was the one everybody respected and obeyed. She needs to feel she's not being taken over her role, that's why she is doing it, as she probably feels she has lost control of her family, so her way is to defend herself by fighting back.

Obviously only there for her benefit. Hor kithe jave? Like where you want to send her? And what does she want money for?

Use you for what? It's normally the grannies saying this to the younger ones. You should talk to your husband about it, be nice to her and if she is doing drama don't let it get to you. Do the same drama and run around after, jida zee TV drama ch karde, fer putt putt karuge.

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her role was a very bad one

causing alot of marital problems and fights in his parents.

when he have let her do things her way it has always been a mess. she is too old and she is not honest with us either. we r not after her money. she loans money from ppl when she doesnt have to and expects us to pay up which is causing my husband to have enormous stress he is working really hard. so i dont appreciate her being here.

i have no problem taking care of her but as i says in Gurbani with age your asaa increase also

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" she loans money from ppl when she doesnt have to and expects us to pay up which is causing my husband to have enormous stress he is working really hard. "

Has she been checked for dementia by the doctor? When was the last time she had a health check at the doctor?

I think this should be the first step, book a doctors appointment and get an interpreter for her too, so she can discuss anything that maybe causing these problems, first rule out any medical issues.

Maybe get some help, does she go to Gurdwara or anywhere where there are people of her age to interact with? This will take some stress off you too.

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If I may pls I would like to add-

The way she behaves is her karma and the way you respond is yours. So respect her and keep your distance at the same time be as kind as possible. Kindness breaks even the strongest stones. Everyone has to grow old one day. Who knows your future daughter in law might find you grumpy so to prevent that please keep your karmic cycle clean. If she is doing bad its between HER and Waheguru not you and her anyways.

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If I may pls I would like to add-

The way she behaves is her karma and the way you respond is yours. So respect her and keep your distance at the same time be as kind as possible. Kindness breaks even the strongest stones. Everyone has to grow old one day. Who knows your future daughter in law might find you grumpy so to prevent that please keep your karmic cycle clean. If she is doing bad its between HER and Waheguru not you and her anyways.

Wise words ji.
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Wise words ji.

Just from my experience. Noone is good or bad its just the situations. I might be good to someone but I am sure to some I might sound like I am a terrible person. Love and kindness can move mountains. When someone hates you be so kind that your creator is proud he made you.

To the original poster - when you call someone a bad person you give a tight slap at creators face because you did not like his creation. Love everyone. Life is short to hate or get angry.

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Just from my experience. Noone is good or bad its just the situations. I might be good to someone but I am sure to some I might sound like I am a terrible person. Love and kindness can move mountains. When someone hates you be so kind that your creator is proud he made you.

To the original poster - when you call someone a bad person you give a tight slap at creators face because you did not like his creation. Love everyone. Life is short to hate or get angry.

I think people are at perfect liberty to say that certain individuals are bad. Child-rapists for instance. Calling them out on their wickedness is hardly the same thing as slapping the almighty.

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