Jatt Ramgarhia Marriage Issue

[Sanny]

Sat sri akaal. I am a sehajdhari sikh and so do my colleague whom i want to marry. My family who claims to be a jatt family without owning a piece of land ia strictly against my marriage as the guy belongs to a ramgarhia family. My mother is amritdhari. My mama is supporting my mother against my wedding. He himself claims himself to be sikh. He trims his hair and beard. Both of them says that every human is equal but not when it comes to getting married. I am going through tough times . guy's family is all willing to accept me. But my mother and my mama threatens me that if you will marry him either we will kill you. Or my mother will kill herself.

[buddasingh]

Which country are you in?

[Kira]

You're mother should be reminded off the vows she took during her Amrit Sanchar. She's a daughter of Guru Gobind Singh Ji, she has the same caste as him lol. In other words she is caste-less. If she's obsessing over something like that I would consider talking to the Panj Pyare about it, or someone in you're local Gurudwara.

[dallysingh101]

It's sad that we still face stupidity like this.

[Kira]

It's sad that we still face stupidity like this.

Welcome to Kalyug, please take a seat while an army of symbolic demons start slowly rotting your mind and soul.

[buddasingh]

I ask which country you are in as your options may depend on that. Threats of harming you or oneself are way out of line.

Do have more reasonable family members that can get involved?

Do you have a medical doctor with whom you can confidentially share this? Be aware that the doctor may have a duty to share the information with authorities if s/he feels that there is a real risk of harm to someone.

[Mann-Sahib]

Hi Sanny

My advice to you regardless of which country you are from is to marry this guy as long as he is of good Sikh character - caste is irrelevant. If the Jat family you come from is so full of ego you should ask them to actually investigate the humble beginnings of the Jat caste - Jat only became land owners when joining Sikhism under Banda Singh Bahadur - otherwise were peasants!

Marry your boyfriend and dont look back, be happy... This caste rubbish has to end!

[dallysingh101]

I ask which country you are in as your options may depend on that. Threats of harming you or oneself are way out of line.

Do have more reasonable family members that can get involved?

Do you have a medical doctor with whom you can confidentially share this? Be aware that the doctor may have a duty to share the information with authorities if s/he feels that there is a real risk of harm to someone.

You got to be careful with this one!!

You know goray might whisk her away to some 'sheltered accommodation' miles from home. These places are often hotspots for sexual abusers who know that the women within are isolated and vulnerable.

What a bewakoof family, see how deranged this jaat-paat thing is. Threatening to kill your own kid or yourself over it!!! What the heck!?!?!

I tell you what, women and men like your mum and mama need to get slapped about. I feel for you. This is mental.