Hey Ajeet! I personally like reading your lifestory...its quite entertaining. Although most of the time its you getting mad at your wife.
Dont you know you are supposed to treat her extra nicely? So that if she finds out about your orientation, she wont hold it against you nor leave you.
Also, now your goi g to be a father. So please dont make a household where the parents are always angry with each other or putti g each other down. Its sad for the kid. Also my mom used to be one of those ppl who blames people for any kind of tragedy. Like the tire got flat, it was because you drove it over some thorns, weeks ago. And if you get sick, its because you had icecream 5 weeks ago. And if you had an accident, because you ate at the aunts house that does bad magic. Its really annoying. My dad is the opposite. He wont blame you but try to find solutions to the problem. Like i get in a car accident, my mom panics, yells how could it happen, can you run away from there? I was like No my car is smoking and someone probably called the police. And she goes, oh why r u so stupid, couldnt you have driven off before? My dad calls says, ok u had an accident. Dont leave. Stay. Police will come, tell them what happened. Use a tow truck to get home.
Ofc when i get home, he will grill me about what happened and how i can drive better.
Basically, I am saying when your a parent, dont be one who always blames and panics and yells at the kid. Instead be calm, offer solutions, and later on find ou what happened and where the kid went wrong. I feel like you have the panicking personality, which is terrible and makes a horrible home atmosphere. Work on it.
Also, why dont you go take a hukamnama everytime you have a crisis? Lots of people I know do that here.