I agree far more with the second statement friend and to me it impacts the first.
Could not a man confess to his soon to be wife, that in this kalyug he suffers Kaam and that even more difficult that it is of a homosexual nature?
But that as a Gursikh, he does fully believe in the Sacred Dharmic Kirpa of Anand Karaj? And gay or not he can still have children as seen.
To what degree is the heterosexuaity of an Anad Karaj between a Singh and Singhni if it is done according to Gurmat and truthfully?
What if the gay Singh has done his best to adhere to Rehit his whole life..stayed a virgin..practices everything and loves Vaheguru. And when married does everything to fulfill his Seva as a householder and a Sikh?
And then we have a straight Singh, and not saying that Singhs tend to be any of these things, I hold you in the highest esteem, but say he drinks, gambles, beats his wife, had sex with prostitutes or foreign women before marriage?
In Gurbani I do hear the Guru to advise the life of a Sant Sipahi Celebate that serves the Paanth or the Sant Sipahi Householder, but nowhere do I hear the Guru say anything about gay.