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It is said a picture paints a thousand words. But that is not necessarily true. There is one word that we jaap that encapsulates everything in the universe and time. Scientists look for the single theory that connects everything, this word is the single fact that connects everything together.

It's hard to understand your whole tale, but there's a reason many Sikhs feel employment is slavery. Wherever you work, try to save up money and become financially independent. Perhaps open your own business. A Sikh (or any man) can never truly be free working for someone else.

Pen Jee, do not torture yourself by looking into the past, rather look forward with hope and faith in Him. God is always sad bhakshankhar, provided we learn from our mistakes and do not incurr in them. You want to wipe all your dark past, right? Then, recite His Name with love and devotion as per Bani, then you shall cleanse yourself throughly, not only the karmas of this life, but as well as all the karmas we have committed since we stepped into this false and temporary creation. Pen Jee, just love Him with all your heart, and He will take care of you. My blessings and best wishes for you.

losing virginity and stuff can happen to anyone, as well have 5 vikaars kaam krodh lobh moh hunkaar. It is not your fault that our parents have decided we should all marry later than our grandparents generation and lose control! however since you want to better yourself, one way you can do this is follow Guru Nanak's principle of having a grihast jeevan, a life partner. I presume you had boyfriends before, so to better yourself do not take anymore casual partners and only look for a future life partner. There was a girl I knew who had 2 exes and posted on a sikh forum that she got raped by both. she ended up taking Khanda amrit Pahul and marrying a Singh. There are also cases of girls that have been used by Pakistani guys and even some that have escaped after being trapped in Pakistan. Then some of these girls have taken Khanda dee pahul and married Singhs!

It's done. You seem contrite. Stress isn't good. It's not as if you're doing it now. Yes, it's not ideal. At least you aren't trying to claim what you did was empowering and wonderful for Sikhi, lol. Be the best person you can be, and keep marching onwards. Be a great wife and a loving mother. Expand your mind; don't fall for the bull5hit in Kalyug, and perceive your Guru to be always ang-sang.

she may also have ex partners, adding even more to the baggage. but if she did this stuff many years ago, hopefully it is out of her system and she can now improve her thinking. we all start changing as we grow up. I have no issues with people eating meat and have never seen any gurbani which says that not eating meat is preferred. however since this forum doesn't allow meat discussion i cannot go more into, otherwise use private message or another forum

No need. Only if she wants. This has happened before she meets her husband. I don't know about you, but I would hate to be judged by someone for a mistake I made before I even met them...

Waheguru

Veer ji... Thanks a lot for the motivation..

Without brahmgian everyone is in a endless cycle of maya. So the best thing is to walk on gurus path and incorporate sikh tenets according to your pace. As long as we continue on the path guru sahib will keep us close and wont allow anything to happen to us

You have a beautiful soul.. Being vegetarian, honest and treating everyone equally is not easy these days.. you are doing great.. Yes, Kaam (lust) in one of the 5 vices and Many of us are doing it these days... but not many are aware of it... Waheguru ji love their children.. you are trying to be a better human.. It is Waheguru's Kirpa that you have realized what is wrong and right... it is Waheguru's kirpa that you feel bad about certain things and it is Waheguru's kirpa that you want to be better human Please don't go so much into your past.. Enjoy your present...No more regrets and only a grateful heart with Guru's Kirpa..

Big questions. Just continue to walk towards the Guru and He will look after you. Keep learning and bettering yourself. There will be relapses along the way, but keep going. That's all any of us can do really.

Hmm.. how does that answer my question veer ji? I am happy with a dog and birds around... lol.. Sat Sri Akal to Hyena from miles away...hahaha

Thanks a lot veer ji.. Yes that is what I used to think.. Guru Gobind singh ji had his baaz .. Talking about oneness, we are all connected.. So how can we say one form is lower and other is higher.. Of course I am not with my dog 24 hrs per day.. I go to work.. I do all the required tasks at home and in between I spend some time on things that I enjoy Thanks a lot for the beautiful lines at the end.. Hasandhia Khaelandhia Painandhia Khaavandhia Vichae Hovai Mukath Waheguru Mehar Karey

Thanks for your reply SAT1 ji.. I agree that slandering does effect our karams and daily life. I used to enjoy this gossip and Nindeya. I used to say oh look how that person reacted or did things in certain situation... like I was enjoying to make big deal out of nothing. It was there like someone was being nice, rude, etc.. It was not a lie but I used to enjoy it with extra masala.. It is interesting how similar things happened to me and only then I realized that no one has an easy life to live. Criticizing others, their actions just for the sake of our entertainment is a sin. Finally, I have learned my lesson and still I need to remind myself here and there when I start getting into Nindeya. We should have compassion for everyone and when it is comes to the slanderers, I would say better to stay quiet. Eventually they will get the message and won't do nindeya and chugli when we are around It will get better and better as long as we remind ourselves to make this place better for the future generation

JKVLondon .. Thanks for the reply... This is what I try to do, just leaving the group to save myself from Nindeya as much as I can.. however it is not always that easy.. Yes, I am older than my brother and I have made the arrangements so he can leave from his in laws finally... Anytime I try to explain, he ignores me..won't look at me.. and will start looking at his phone.. and obviously I get mad and can't control my temper then I don't want to be rude but any time I try to tell him that it is not very nice and right what he does..he laughs at me and tells me '' don't put others down to feel any better'' even though this is not my goal. All I want is him to be responsible for the sake of his wife and his future.. I have given him cash several times... big amounts.. even I let him use my credit card.. when I feel sorry for him because sometimes he won't eat properly and all.. My biggest concern is that now he is married but still he doesn't have any stable job.. I want to help anyone in need if Waheguru is making me do that sewa but I dont want them to rely on me for the rest of their lives... There are some relatives that are involved in it.. should I tell them that he took big amount of money from me and haven't returned it yet? Or that will be chugli too..The issue is not money... I know more I give...more Waheguru ji is giving me.. and it is not me who is doing this all...Waheguru is the one who is doing all this sewa/work.. Just want to know if I am the one making my brother so lazy or it is him.. Now sharing this here also makes me feel that I am getting into Nindeya but I really needed to clarify the differnce between Nindeya chugli and living right life according to our Gurbani.. Really appreciate all your feedback sangat ji ..