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  1. This is best dealt with in a separate topic (trust me lol)
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    Marriage Concerns

    Honestly, I've found that in some cases, Hindu girls are way more respecting, open to compromise and serious when it comes to marriage and Sikhi. A good friend of mine (who's like a younger brother to me) who is an Amritdhari Singh is currently in talks with a Hindu Panjabi girl. And from what he's told me about her, she's awesome, and this will probably go ahead. Whilst I agree that Anand Karaj should be between two Sikhs, it may help to be a little flexible (if at all possible), and in doing so, bring another person closer to the Guru...
  3. These people are the same peados who dislike any story highlighting peados. Don't worry about these closet nonces.
  4. One other thing I've found is people don't take this process seriously enough. You need to put time and effort in to this and stop dragging things out. Whether it works out or not is fine, just stop wasting time. We're all "busy", we all got "things to do". Don't leave people hanging.
  5. Kuldip Manak: Inqalab Zindabad: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ekyrUs9Bwso Kuldip Manak: Jail cho farar: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9_URkcCZkLg
  6. It's an amazing piece of adhyaatmic gyaan. Now, whether it's in accordance with gurmat is a matter of opinion. Personally, I find nothing wrong with it
  7. Big questions. Just continue to walk towards the Guru and He will look after you. Keep learning and bettering yourself. There will be relapses along the way, but keep going. That's all any of us can do really.
  8. Historically, kashera has not always been white. Some Nihangs have worn blue, brown, or even closer to green. But mostly it's white.
  9. You wanna ask them? But valid question though. I'm not sure people think this through
  10. Sant Giani Gurbachan Singh Ji Khalsa Bhindran Wale once said that "If a thirsty person does not get clean water to drink, they will drink dirty water.". This was said alluding to why people follow fake deras/baabe etc. And in this case it would probably apply here. Because she wasn't presented correctly with Sikhi, she went to get her spiritual fulfillment somewhere else...
  11. There are Amritdhari guys out there. Trust me, especially in the UK. There are many problems when trying to find someone (I'm 33 years old). I recently got in contact with an Amritdhari bibi through a Gurdwara website. We both fit each others criteria, and she's about a year and a half older than me (she'll be 35 in a couple of months). I'd actually seen her profile in other places as well, so was nice to get things started. However, as soon as we got talking, she told me her mother still believes in caste (Jatts, of course), and while she herself doesn't, because of her parents she can't progress the situation. Now, I'm not going to go in to my usual rant about caste, but, the girl is almost 35, give it up already!!! If everything else matches, then why not go for it? And this is not an isolated case, most Jatt parents are like that. They may not know anything about religion, but they know they want a Jatt . On a more general note, I understand everyone has their own personal criteria, shaped by their own understanding and experience. I'm Amritdhari myself, yet most Amritdhari girls I have come across are completely immature and live inside their own bubble. And it's sad, because initially I wanted to get married to an Amritdhari girl, but I very quickly became disillusioned when I started talking to them. They know nothing about life or marriage. Of course I'm not saying all are like that (obviously), but most that I've come across are. And it really does sadden me to say this. To those that would beat the drum of "never compromise", understand that marriage is all about compromise. Of course don't compromise your Sikhi (not saying that at all), but if you want to get married (and you want that marriage to last), do the mature thing and learn to compromise. In the end I'll just say marry who you want, because it's a decision you'll have to live with for the rest of your life...
  12. This kind of stuff is nothing new. People convert all the time. And tbh I'm ok with that. If you independently read and learn about another religion and want to change your core beliefs at heart, then good for you, go for it. But, if you brainwash, trick, coerce or for your religion on others (as some Muslims and Christians have done and do), that's where I have a problem. Ideological differences and debates are fine . No need to crap on someone else's beliefs...
  13. Continue to do righteous karam without desire for the fruit. This is dharam. This is hukam.
  14. Sikh married couples need to start having more kids. At least 3. You need (on average) 2.3 kids for a nation/community to continue to flourish. Muslims on average are having (I think) 5.2 kids per couple.
  15. Sikhi is an ideology and way of life which transcends ethnicity, so I'm not entirely sure what they're trying to achieve here...
  16. They're not silent, just very very subtle. http://www.gurmatveechar.com/audio.php?q=f&f=%2FGurbani_Ucharan%2FBhindran_Taksal_Santhya
  17. Whilst I agree, when you trust someone, you don't see the betrayal coming. And of course, everything is "easy" in hindsight, but when you're in that situation (like the OP) it's a different case. But yes, lessons to be learnt. If you don't have the guts or the intention to see it through, then don't start anything. OP - sort this out before you destroy this guy. And tbh, whilst I agree you should give examples from Gurbani etc., the main thing that's going to convince them is your resolve and solid intentions. That's all there really is to it...
  18. He trusted her. She promised him. He asked her point blank if she was happy with this, if she wanted to marry him, if she loved him, if she would convince her parents. She answered yes every single time. So if she betrays him at the most crucial point, what the hell is he gonna do?
  19. This happened to someone I know. He fell in love with a girl. They were an exact match for each other. He was Tarkhan, she was Jatt. They were together for over one and a half years. She never told her parents about them two being together. Her parents wanted her to marry a Jatt, his family didn't care about caste. In the end, after more than a year and a half of love and wanting to get married and planning a future together (kids etc.), she got introduced to another guy who was a Jatt. And instead of standing up for her relationship she had with my friend and saying the truth, she broke my friends heart and stabbed him in the back to save her own skin. She's now going to marry this new guy, after destroying my friend. Much like your guy, my friend risked it all to make it work. It's been almost a year since she betrayed him, but he's still suffering, and she didn't look back even once to see how he was. This is the problem with people today. They want to play grown up games and "be in a relationship". But when it comes to actually standing up for the relationship, they chicken out and back down, even if it means breaking another person's heart. Because, who cares right? As long as you save your own skin... To the original poster, I'm not having a go at you, but this does happen. If this boy is exactly the type of guy your parents would want (except the caste of course), then you got a chance. The only real advice is to tell them the truth and stick to your guns. I've seen this situation so many times, and I can tell you that you can 1000% make it work. But you gotta have the balls to stand up for what's right. Otherwise, much like my friend, you will destroy this guy. I really hope this works out for you, because I tired of seeing good people get heart broken. Wish you all the best .
  20. Animals won't betray you like humans would...
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