Trying to see the opposite gender prior to the same and see waheguru in them in all is quite a hard thing to do. Maskeen said it beautifully, kaam has all four mixed together, kaam has anger, greed, attachment and pride. Turning kaam into Naam ras isn't impossible though. Great post, I hope anger is posted next!!
btw when did you change your name from random singhni?
P.S you posted two of the same videos.