Kizza Kaur

hes bin suspended now tho....

thats what im saying, im saying that just because sikh supreme helped out one gal, dont mean that he shudn help out other gals. one or ten dont matter, every person counts. im not saying that sikh supreme or anyone else should give up on anyone. and i think its good that you'v got the attitude where u dont give up on people, thats the way it should be in my opinion.

thats what the situation should be, in a perfect world. but we are not living in a perfect world. me personally, i belev that a person should only be selective when it comes to personality. choose someone you are compatible with, as in personality wise. ur not and should not be marrying a person for their looks, wealth, status etc. all these can be taken away in a flash, but a persons personality is the one thing that can make or break, in this case a marriage. and your right in my opinion, marriage is a partnership, and a person should consider only their prospective partners personality. but i guess everyone has their own veiws on this, different things are important to different people, so to each his own.

thats all anyone can do

i totally agree wiv ya and now i can see where your coming from, cos u tried to help a gal out but she ended up doin again. i get what your saying now, but what i wana say is that just cos that one gal didn learn from her mistakes, dont mean that another gal wont. mayb anova gal (hopefully ther wont b another gal) will learn from her mistake and appreciate what u done for her. dont give up on gals who have messed up. u gotz some good points of veiw to share

im not most girls, im me, so i can only speak for myself, and i would be willing to forgive and forget. i would prefer my husband to be a <admin-profanity filter activated>, but as i say, we dont always get what we want, and so must be willing accept a person for who they are and not on who they were. i totally agree with you on the whole what you reap you sow. the past does catch up with you, i totally agree, but then thats Gods way of punishing us in a way, its not for people to punish others, thats for Big G to do. God dont hold a belna to our heads, not one that we can see neway, so when we do mess up, itl kinda dictate the future. to me, the past is best left in the past. i mayb wrong, or mayb im confused, but thers a difference in tolerating something, and not judging others. i dont tolerate this kinda act, but i wont judge that person. i think in general i totally agree with you on certain tings sikh supreme, but my approach to tings are a lil different to you.

oh right, my bad!!! if that guy sorted himself out, and was leading a good clean life, then yes i would consider him. why should a person be forver judged on their past? its the present thats counts. if he's leading a good life, has accepted that what he did was wrong, and would never do it again, then thats good enough for me. judge the person on who the ARE, not on who they WERE. thats just the way i think, mayb its wrong to some people, but its just the way i think.

hahahahaha!!!!! u tryna imply i go clubbing and that?!!!!! wow im surprised, thats the funniest ting iv heard all day, a person shows abit of concideration for others, and people start implying they drink and go clubbing, i supose the next ting ur gna say is that im a slag aswell? oh and you wana chat about self-respect, il tel u i have self-respect, i get asked out all the time by muslims, but iv NEVER gone out wiv em, and would never go out wiv em, that gud enough for you? just because i think we shouldnt give the death penalty to gals who do this, dont mean that im not firm in this. if my daughter did this id kick her <admin-profanity filter activated>!!! nah but seriously, i belev sikhs in general should be brought up as individuals, and to take responsabilty for their own actions, but that dont mean that we cant be their for them when they fall. like i said, its all about blood, and family (sikhi is ur family), a person who has the attitude you seem to portray, shows conditional love. as in, you'l only love someone if they are good and live up to ur expectations. to me this aint right. you love someone through thick and thin. and when i say love, i mean the love between famly, friends etc.

im going to agree with you to a certain degree, but i dont think that it is right for people to judge others for their mistakes. some mistakes have greater consequences than others, but at the end of the day, its a still a mistake. we're all human, and we all fall now and again, but how are we to pick ourselves back up if we're constantly being put down by others? who can we turn to? yeh ok so is was stupid for the girl to go out and tek tings far with the muslim guy, but i think there's more to this. we're not robots, we have all feelings, and sometimes these can lead us astray, but when we're in it, we cant see it, and we cant see that we're doing something wrong, because it feels right at that moment in time. yeh sinner, every action has a reaction, thats true, but like i said, hard times can make a person do something that they wouldnt normally do, stress etc play a major role. having said this, i think this penji has some real guts, i think she is someone who has learnt the hard way, and sometimes although its hard to accept, its the only way a person can learn, and im saying this from personal experiences (and before anyone says, no i havnt bin out with a muslim guy). And I believe strongly in that no matter how much we turn our back on Guru Ji, Guru Ji WILL NEVER turn their back on us, so who are we are ‘sikh brother and sisters’ to think that we are SO big and SO clever and SO clean to do turn our backs on someone who has fallen? Think about it, and for Gods sake get off your high horses. lekha dhena plays a big role too, we don’t see it, and we cant explain it, but it happens, and it does in some ways and to some extent dictate what happens to us. my point is, some people on this site are very quick to judge others, but i think they should take a step back, get off their high horse, and think about what their saying, because your not talking about robots, your talking about HUMANS. Someone on here was chatting bout how muslims take care of their own, how they take care and look at for their sisters (as in other muslim gals), well don’t people on here think that our brothers should be on the same for us? And I don’t just mean ‘oh if you go out with anyone il break ur legs’. That aint helping, that’s threatening. Sikh gals need to feel their protected, not under surveillance. Trust me, it isn’t a nice feeling. and the title says that we're (girls) are sikhisms worst enemy, well we are if we go to such extremes. Sikhism to me is about strength, strength of character etc, and an act like this shows only weakness. Sikh gals need to know who they are, they are the daughters of a religion and race of warriors, in both the literal and philosophical sense, we need to remember, embrace and uphold this. But us as Sikhs need to remember that we’re all BLOOD, so what kind of a family disowns one of their own? sory, this post was abit tooooo long, but it just gets me about the way people are quick to judge and disown others.

me mams the bestest mam in the world!!!!!!!!!!! love me mam to bits, and i thank Big G for blessing me wiv an angel for a mother. she a gud strong person, who has been through some very very very hard times, but she still comes out strong. she my role model. taught me loadsa tings....and i ent just talking bout how to make the roti and dhall sabji!!!!! daughters learn alot from their mams, they jus gta learn to appreciate what their mams do for them!!!!!! thankfully, me and ma mam get along great, we a team, im her strength, just as she is mine. she the one thing ima cry ova when i get married!!!!!!! but then thers ma dad....... now therz a completely different story!!!!!! (best left for anova tym!!!)

Hapily Burfday to ya, may Big G bless ya etc etc etc...!!!! ENJOY!!!

Hapy Burfday GOD BLESS YA :TH:

oh right!! ma bad!! well u say that ur amritdhari, so u can use that as an excuse to start chattin bout what bein amritdhari means to u. u can then go onto tings like drinking, smoking etc, and then u can ask him his veiws on the matter. if mayb u can get him talking about drinking and being amritdhari, but make it sound like he is 'teaching' u by giving his opinions, then ther is no need to bring in someone else to sort him out. if he talks about it to u, then u mite b able to understand why he drinks, and then u mite b able to find out how u can help him. itz like itz beta to seem like u wana no his opinions on drinking, than to make him think that ur preaching to him. but stay calm, i understand that u mite wana get all angry wiv him (especially if he starts getting all hypocritical), but the key is to stay calm. all the best.