autiegirl1980

please add 6 hours Mods Note: 6 hours added waheguru ji And one hour added for jaswinder veer ji

3 more hours, please I had a really hard time getting to sleep last night and decided to just sit in the quiet and meditate on waheguru's name. It helped me relax, but not quite enough to sleep right away, however, I slept better last night than I have in quite a while :o. mods note: life is better when you live in His rememberance. 3 hours added bhena ji

2 more hours Should have been more, but dental work made me very sleepy Mods note: bhena ji you are amazing, I wish I had as much kirpa as you. your 2 hours are added. I also added an hour for jaswinder veer ji

Oh thank you! Well, in that case, I would like to ask if you can add another 5 hours or so on there for me? I've been doing that a lot over the past 2 days Some before it too, but I am really not sure how long it was. Mods Note: 5 hours added Waheguru Ji

Forgive me, as I still do not know quite all of the terminology, but I am curious as to what exactly needs to be done for it to count in this

Hmmm, I wasn't thinking of it quite like that. I was just confused as to how it was being viewed overall, wasn't really understanding, so needed it put into perspective a little bit better Thank you.

Forgive me for being naive, as I am still learning. But, I'm not sure I understand what is so wrong with the line system. I mean, I do understand that the act of serving everyone itself is important. I suppose I'm having difficulty distinguishing the original way of doing things... from just working together. For instance, when I make meals at my house, everyone helps. It's very rare for just one person to be cooking and bringing it to everyone, as everyone wants to help one another out. If I am cooking, then usually everyone is fumbling over one another to help out, lol. My daughter usually helps put the plates together, and my son sets them on the table, then we all go sit together to eat. I don't force anyone to do this, we just never have been ones to let one person do all the work (unless it comes to cleaning the house, lol, then the kids have a million reasons why they cannot ) Now, I do realize it's not a matter of what goes on in the household (the topic of this thread, I mean), but I do know that when those things do not happen in my house, then everyone tends to demand more from me, rather than being grateful for getting a plate at all. ...and of course, I would do it regardless, but it would wear on me over time, that is for sure. I don't do it just to be thanked, I do it because it is my job as a mom, of course, and because I love them. But it is different when it just comes to be expected rather than seen as something nice. It becomes a demand rather than actually wanting to do it, and seems to lose some of the meaning behind it when that happens. I am not sure I understand how people going to stand in line to help reduce footwork for the people serving is such a bad thing. It seems to me they are simply helping one another out, which is a good thing, right?

Thank you so much to everyone :D

Thank you so much I just wanted to make sure it was okay, because I do think it is very important to do things the right way. That helps tremendously :D

I posted just a couple of days ago about issues with my mother, and the possibility of becoming a Sikh. The more I read and learn, the more I am drawn to it. Last night, I stayed up for hours on end, just reading posts on here-I got up to page 70, lol. My children have been asking questions about the beliefs and all, and today when I was doing laundry, they found 2 very long scarves and wanted me to try to tie turbans for them. So I decided to take a shot at it to see how it went. Surprisingly well, actually. They absolutely love them. My son said he would be willing to wear one every single day, that it is the most comfortable thing he has ever put on his head. My daughter thinks she is absolutely beautiful in it The material is all wrong, lol, and technique needs a lot of work, but they love them. They know about the views of most around here, which is what has been a hindrance to me, I am admitting... I'm frustrated with myself for that. They just don't care. They said "but we aren't those people everyone is mad at, and they are not either. There is no reason to think otherwise, and we must show them the difference." I am so proud of them right now! ....and learned so much from them in such a small statement, which I should have known already, of course, and did know. But, hearing it from the kiddos just really reaffirms what many lose sight of as they get older and there is more pressure to "fit in". I don't know, though.... I want to know, is it wrong for us to wear them and all? I mean, I know it might be a silly question.... but if we are still in the learning process, and have so much more learning to do, is it okay? Or is it just... not right for them to be wearing them until we have adjusted and changed things around in our lives to allow for us to live the Sikh lifestyle to the fullest extent? I don't want to be setting bad examples to anyone. I just feel that something like this should be taken very seriously, really, because it holds a lot of meaning. If we are going to do it, I want to do it the right way... how early in their journey does one do these things? Is it just whenever it feels right? Is there a requirement one should meet first? lol-I feel just so naive, but eager to learn. I hope I'm not bombarding you all with questions and driving you bonkers. If so, please feel free to tell me. I feel like a child again, like I have found something just so wonderful and I am so incredibly happy, yet overwhelmed at the same time with all of the new information.

hmm... It could have just made a big mess in general.... either way, over here it will, lol. People here are only happy if they are complaining a lot of the time it seems anymore

It would have been great for him to go, despite the fear of what people think, in my opinion. I mean, contrary to a lot of those statements, you would be surprised how many here really are close minded to other religions/lifestyles, and don't take the time to look into them. I suppose maybe some of them could have been enlightened through this, taught something at least. A lot would not have listened, I'm sure, but it would have been a great opportunity to show respect for others and acceptance in general. In fact, the action itself, and reasoning behind it, gives people MORE reason to be suspicious-I've already heard it starting up around here. "He isn't going because he doesn't want us to find out", "He won't go because he's Muslim". People will not be pleased with either decision... it would be nice if he would do it just because he wants to. I don't mean to sound critical of him, but considering the lifestyle of the Sikhs isn't based on how others think of one physically so much, but should be more in actions... his reasoning really bothers me Sorry if I have offended anyone, I do not mean to, and I don't mean to be passing judgment on him. I have a tendency to really want the true reasons to things like that, and over analyze, and this reasoning itself doesn't seem to make enough sense to me.

Unfortunately this is nothing new with him.... he goes back and forth on decisions on a daily basis it seems, lol. I don't care for how the media portrays what is going on though.... honestly, I think he is just afraid of the Muslim claims popping up again because his approval rating is already so low over here now as it is. I don't really know what to say except... I'm sorry about our president? lol. I was actually hoping that maybe he would follow through with this one, so that we could say he at least followed through with something he said he was going to do.

Thank you very much I will look up some of them. I have been playing them in the background anyway, as they are just beautiful and calming anyway-I'm sure it will just make them that much more when I find the ones with the words to them so that I know what is being said, lol. My son listened to some as he fell asleep last night and said it was the best sleep he has had in a long time.

Oh for sure That is where I'm starting, but this one just feels so right already that I'm anticipating future things, more or less. I do plan to learn everything I can, or at least a lot, as the knowledge is likely endless before doing too much. I want to make sure I understand things to the best of my abilities before diving in.