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  1. I don't want to sound harsh here, but if your old enough to engage in sexual intercourse then your old enough to marry the girls whose purity you took...

    Actions have consequences, one day that girl if she marries another guy he will find out.. Solution deal with the consequence and marry her...

  2. This is exactly like feeling about pocessions, for example Mr A just brought a new car, Mr A was very excited almost in love with this car people had to wash their hands just to touch it... As time went on he got bored the car became old and tired, Mr A was like is that it?

    Things in life a temporary we must realise this and not get attached to possessions family not that it's not important god doesn't say abandon family and posessions he reminds us that these will fade and don't forget the creator of the universe before it's too late. Love will fade why don't you just concentrate on important things in life because if your family won't agree why cause heartache?

  3. I have never seen one bollywood film in my life I have had some so called Sikh 'friends' come up to me and say I'm strange because of this fact, rather I replied I'm not strange, you are weird for watching such filth which iv heard... What is with such dramas that people watch I don't even understand Hindi... I think it's mostly those show off type girls that get excited when watching bollywood films almost like a tradition..

    If your a Sikh you shouldn't even be watching these movies full stop. Contains nothing but hindu related business.

  4. How can anyone even like this video, the number of likes on it on YouTube is high quite shocking..

    Iv seen this video before, someone said it's in America, I'm not sure where but in daylight in front of everyone he is obviously touching women and these naive women don't question as to why he is touching them.

    Disgusting weirdo!

  5. Everything in life is a risk... it's all about thinking in your mind what you feel is the right thing to do.. Finding your own partner is risky as you wouldn't know that persons intentions or what might happen especially if you are seen with the person and it gets back to your family that would look like you were hiding and keeping lies.. I would suggest you talk to your family about this and ask their permission to find your own potential partner if you don't want to go through te traditional route. However also be sure that the person you find their family know about it.

    I'm not saying that finding your own partner is out of the question but traditional ways are much safer as families know best so in terms of that sense they might know about the family background, what kind of people they are.. Some families allow 'modern' ways others simply prefer traditional..

    Be careful though if you choose the method of finding your partner be sure not to fall into any traps.. hey everything is in gods hands

    Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

  6. That article should be enough to realise as individuals of what effect lust has on society. I think high % rate that more men will engage in lust looking at other women in the wrong way simply to do with characteristics.. It is seen that a woman has more to lose than a man. it's about control keeping the eyes the direction they should be in and not the direction they shouldnt be in. We all have choices some people don't they are the chosen ones from a young age to be exploited for sex what can be worse than that? developing HIV in children and young teenagers because they are forced and don't have a choice, a voice... we take too much for granted in this country yet we can't control urges of sexual desire try looking into a Childs eyes whose effected with HIV due to forced and being sold for sex..

  7. I can understand the difficulty in that, if a couple got married and they were NOT amritdhari at the time but one partner after marriage wanted to take Amrit and the other did not that's where the problem would lie. This would change everything because now we have two very completly different people one has become pure and taken Amrit and the other chose not to, so how can a sexual relationship take place this would be like water and electricity together. Plus why would you want to have sex if it's not engaging in that activity for children? I know some people can't control such feelings but it's quite disgusting really, when one learns that everyone out there is like brother/sister apart from marital partner one cannot even begin to think about lust. Lust is wrong but turn it around to use to get a child but don't get addicted. It's like with food the more you indulge the more you want the more it looks appealing to the eyes the more you want, but if you refer to science actually engaging in sexual activity has an impact on health same way the other 4 vices Guru ji tells us it's linked with science and has a huge effect on health.

    Kaam will cause you to do things a Sikh is forbidden to do = effect on religion... if kaam takes over one can engage in sexual activity with many people before marriage= effect on health diseases..

    Everyone has there own way of dealing with it but really the problem lies within yourself and not society it's up to individuals to tackle it and see the world as all gods creation all brothers n sisters together to achieve the same objectives in life...

  8. If everyone follows Guru Granth Sahib Ji teachings we wouldn't have problems. The world is becoming worse because individuals choose to make it worse, the environment, relationships, families etc. arranged marriages set a purpose to avoid sexual relationships before marriage and to remain in a respectful way give respect, recieve respect.

    Your situation simply shows that you wanted a relationship with a girl because before you were different and now you changed for the better. Now ur wife doesnt like what you became because she prefers the person you used to be, now you must realise that your views clash with each other based in terms of religion. How can you live a life with someone who wants the exact opposite of what you want. You can't force someone to be who they are not that's up to Guru ji to lead people in the right direction bit if people don't listen then it's their lost and another gain elsewhere.

    In regards to family that's tricky parents should alwaysstick by their children if they are doing good, let's face it what can be more rewarding than being a Singh? Of course people have opinions but if your parents don't support you then really who are they? This is all just an illusion families friends wives/husbands we just need to pass from this world but how can we do that if we dont get support from our own families? Simple read gurbani to guide you through difficult times and if your wife don't want you because of what you believe in then shame on her, it's her loss it's not the end of the world... Explain to your family it's a bit hard to communicate if the other simply communicate the opposite causing problems just like your parents.

    Tell each and everyone of them to respect who your are and deal with it if not show them the door they can't deny that!

  9. That video just looks like a club atmosphere with people dancing and singing. promoting various types of wrong doings and anyone with any sense would know that, that sort of behavior is not right. Those who perform such acts should know in their own minds that this is wrong but still carry out these practices.

    You want to dance go to a mandir! no disrespect Intended here but that's what is done in a mandir not gurdwara.

  10. The above is true only a Sikh can marry a Sikh in a gurdwara unless the person has converted to Sikhism and has taken Amrit then it's allowed.

    Many gurdware allow inter religious marriages and they shouldn't but society just turns a blind eye and accepts while ignoring the basic principles of sikhism. This is a mock when clearly the person getting married in a gurdwara who isn't a Sikh, carried out the anand karaj without realizing the true importance of it. So why do gurdware committes allow this might it be money I wonder?

    I see many gurdware creating massive halls for weddings, but really shouldn't we be focusing on using these 'massive' halls for the youth to educate lost youth out there? Instead of confusing people it's ok to marry someone who is not a Sikh in a gurdwara :s

  11. The family should be name and shamed on tv!

    I agree!!!

    Does anyone remember that video that was aired on raaj tv where the anand karaj took place in the party hall and everyone got exposed on TV?

    Just to add how can families not know the importance of taking the sacred saroop of Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji anywhere other than the Gurdwara complex?

    Those granthis that carry out such an act should be exposed for doing beadbi and sacked on his duties.

  12. Ok kool :D

    Just to add I thought jhatka meat was a Hindu ritual? regardless of what went on we are not living in war times... vegetarian food is widely available.

    ''Sitting on a cushion, a distinctive seat, a chair, a stool, a cot, etc. or in any distinctive position in the

    presence of the Guru Granth or within the congregation is contrary to gurmat (Guru’s way)''

  13. Some peoples views on here are Foolish and laughable to say the least.

    Firstly, when Baba Nanak went to Mecca, he faced his feet towards the Kaaba. This was not just because the kaaba is a rock or an idol.

    He was trying to make a point that God resides everywhere so who cares where we point our feet. He was trying to say that respect for God comes from within, not without and that when he is recognised to be every where in Everything, that's true respect.

    Who said I was judging anyone? I'm creating an opinion on the issue which you clealry don't agree with fair enough...

    So let me ask you is it ok for us to point out feet to Sri guru Granth sahib ji because god is everywhere while we sit down in darbar sahib?

    Does it really matter if we have party halls in gurdwaras because let's face it god is everywhere? So if we have a party hall at another location where meat and alochol is served that's considered right? But how if god is everywhere?

    Who said anythig about granthis drinking alochol that's yu coming up with that statement not me but maybe we shouldn't judge until we get the whole truth and proof and maybe if you know why not expose bad people who are a threat to re panth?

    Yes respect to Guru Granth Sahib Ji is deserved, but to see the Guru in everything and everyone, ie. the elderly lady or man sitting at the back on the chair, is the best deed.

    I give respect to my Guru while sitting on the toilet, I see him in the <banned word filter activated> in the toilet, in everything and every one. When the Guru Merges with god, he becomes All pervading like the One.

    You judge elderly people who wish to come and meditate in remembrance of Him, who sit on chairs because they find it more comfortable, yet you ignore Him every second in those very same people. That's not respect and it makes you a hypocrite.

    It is no crime for a perfectly able person to sit risen above Guru Granth Sahib Ji if they felt comfortable and it helped them go into meditation or deep samadhi and to silence the mind, for that is our aim in life. Faced with the choice to live another janam in Kalyug/ without bhagti or to sit in the Gurdwarra comfortably doing naam simran and going into samadhi, I would happily choose the latter- and the Guru would be happy with His student, for She would have passed his test.

    I go into samadhi whilst on the toilet as I find that comfortable- is someone going to slander me? When I go into samadhi in the Gurdwarra, people think I'm sleeping, does anyone really think I care? Sometime the amrit flows spins my chakras and makes my body make sudden uncontrollable movements, like I'm dancing- people stare, but do you think I care? Sometimes I lie completely flat on the floor in prostration to God in the Gurdwarra, people stare, but I really don't give a rat as**.

    Guru Ji said On this path to give our heads to Him and pay no attention to public opinion. Everyones path is unique,

    Anything that leads to the silencing of the mind is good- Silencing of the mind is the death of the Ego- it is the highest seva on earth for without Ego we are God himself- Ego(Mind) is what seperates Us from Him.

    This is what Kalyug has come to, judging those who come and pay respects to the Guru by hook or by crook even if it means sitting on a chair at the back due to illness. This is also where many Amritdharis have fallen and become egotistical and deluded(not all, just a hel* of alot)

    Why not go and judge the many granthis who pocket gurdwarra money and spend it on getting drunk down at Glassy Junction, or those boys and girls who come to the gurdwarra just to pull, or those amritdhari boys who diss girls and slander (Sachkandhs most serious and punishable crime) in the Gurdwarra but keep up the external show, instead of disabled old grannys and grandads who just want to remeber God in these Darkest Times?

  14. I totally agree with mandela's views on this subject.

    I don't like how some gurdwara sahibs have benches and chairs in the main hall for example Baba sang gurdwara smethwick and Soho road gurdwara it looks highly insulting. When it's less busy you get young people sitting on chairs/benches, whats the future chairs line by line in the darbar sahib? If someone is really disabled they will be in a wheelchair I understand about the disabled issue, but really how many are there in our community who cannot

    sit on the floor? It's ignorance it's nothing to do with

    discrimination people don't even sit for long 5 minutes at the most.

    Personally when I see the chairs/benches I find it insulting and intimidating when every other member of the sangat is sitting on the floor we have people behind us sitting higher I found that strange when they can clearly walk why not just sit on the floor, sitting on the chairs makes them seem inferior to others, more people come and sit to gossip.

  15. I am a girl but I thought I'd help you and answer.

    It depends though, sounds like you have had a few bad experiences through meeting girls in the UK and that's probably why you came up with the conclusion should I marry a girl from the UK or India.

    To be honest I think it's personal choice, whether you think that you would be better off with a girl from other country and what or how you want her to be. Not all marriages are sucessful both in the UK or India it's just how you feel best suited.

    I'm not married so I can't really offer my experiences.

  16. Seen the YouTube video on the first page images and what I saw was shocking! Women were drinking water while that fake guy had his feet in the bucket! I mean seriously did you see the pile of money they had behind him?

    Disgusting!!!

  17. I have a job interview, I'm not like everyone else I have a shy side especially around people I don't know and I fear that this will let me down, somtimes if I'm put under pressure my words don't come out. Since I found out about the interview I have been having nightmares about it and can't sleep properly.

    Does anyone know what to do and what not to do.

    Thanks

    Waheguru ji ka Khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!

  18. It is one thing judging and another telling the Truth. The correct thing to do if you thought you would need to abort if you had a baby would have been not to have sexual relations in the first place. Aborting is killing full stop, It is murdering a life that God has sent into the world, as long as it is there in the womb no matter how small, it is a life. There are places you could have gone if you had a baby that would be able to help you and give you advice. If you could afford a trip to India you could have gone to a country with womens shelters etc.

    I understand you have had pain, but there is no justification for abortion at all, souls spend millions of years trying to gain this precious human life, to take one away once it has reached here is wrong. Noone is strong enough for life, every single person you see and speak to is in pain, it is Kalyug, many religions agree this is darkest age ever known to mankind, but it is like this for a reason, it is in our darkest moments that we turn to and call on God.

    Actions have consequences, if she is old enough to have sex and produce a baby then she is old enough to suffer the consequences as obviously she was fully aware before commiting this sin. There are people out there who can't even have children, and this girl decides to abort because she can't live with the shame of telling her family, I'm not being crul it's reality she deserves to have the suffering and now she shall live with it. The guy she has been with is just as bad if not worse..

    No more comments to add.

  19. Ahhha thanks Mandy for summarizing to th thread writer what is is Jerry springer show o Maury lmfao ahhhhha okha Loka da her sis husband likes her does her Sis know this cuzz it. Doesnt seem he's a trust worthy husband

    Thanks! No problem, although I lost my way through understanding it so I thought forget this can't read anymore my head hurts LOL.

  20. Have you had sex before marriage then aborted your baby to cover it up! Whats wrong with you?

    Shocking!

    since i found out that it was wrong, that i was too nice obviously and seems like he misunderstood me maybe, i never contact anymore my brother in law. because i am afraid of him. and only met my sister outside her home.

    i also think it is stalking. but i wish i dont need to stalk. i was not 3 days on airport to stalk him. i just have to leave my country, because my family should not know anything and i want live in that country because it was wat i thought few month ago. it is in my mind. and i was not in his or near to his town first. airport is far away. its just the only big town which i know there. and near to him i was because near to his town are a lot towns, i was 1.5 hours far away from that town looking for room, only because that sounds relative big city or more famous city near to the big city. but that days i was not able to leave the circle of big city, because no money. hm.

    i think sad is sad. i think i would be like every other typically european <banned word filter activated> if he told me its over and i would say ok. no problem. and then after few days have another relationship. whats that?

    i cant get back my baby because my baby is dead. abort. i never called my husband baby. he only called me baby even one week ago. same before. he called me baby. then he said cant go on. then again said baby. and blame me that i would always change...whatever i dont want to blame him. whatever he talk bad about me its ok.

    why lie?

    i didnt know it before. i only knew it for a weekend, then abort.

    and thats why i am end of nerves. because he promised me to marry in december. and now he changed. now i am used. i can think so. but i dont want. so i decided never have someone else. because i meant wat i promised.

    its just hard. becaused i wished a family. then i found him. then i loved him. and now. i will be lonely whole life. i mean no own family.

    surely there are more important things. but those things i didnt learn, even i didnt learn love. as i grown up in bad society and i didnt get love in my childhood. i wanted to give a good family. care for lots of kids and husband.

    if the people around me ask me for help or telling me sad and bad things i always worry and give my best to help.

    but now i feel weak and sucked only. i never thought about a thankyou or a return, i just helped. but nowadays i feel not strong enough anymore to help. i still help, because i dont know how not to help and to unfriendly as peole around me are unfriendly...but nowadays i start thinking like it is unfair. what is wrong? why only i am like that. am i alien. maybe i am a totally mental psycho handicap person, but didnt realized. maybe i see world with different eyes and now i waked up. because that pain is so hard, that first time i woke up. i dont know. i said i am confused.

    and now even i have to leave my father. my sister and brother. because they should not know what happend.

  21. She told her boyfriend that she might be pregnant it was a lie he got worried which makes me believe that she is not a virgin anymore.

    I'm not summarizing no more waste of time grow up girl!!! Get your head out of the sand! And stop fantasising about Romeo And Juliet lifestyle!

    There are bigger problems our community are facing like IMPORTANT issues of Beadbi of Guru Granth Sahib Ji.

    Wake up!

  22. Let me summarise it...

    She is in a relationship, with her boyfriend. She refers to him as her 'baby'

    She has said or done something to upset him and now he won't talk to her.

    She went to her sister for help on this issues and this 'baby' didn't like that. She said it was just everyday talk

    nothing to do with the guy in question. He felt neglected lol

    when she spoke to her sister. He doesn't like her sister

    what a superise.

    They met in March happiest day of her life apparently.

    she gave her mobile to him the next day, he is possesive he wants to control her (urm why she going out with him?)

    Turn away everyone the 'baby' got angry because her brother in law called on her mobile and he was drunk and shouted why are they always talkingto you? You not talking to me?

    :o her sisters husband loves her

    I believe this girl is an illegal immigrant or her sister is.

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