Just wanted t o say a big thanks to all those who posted, it means a lot to me that people take the time out to listen. I have a lot of questions about Sikhi things that sometimes keep me awake at night I am hoping that you (my brothers and sisters ) will in time help me to answer some of these questions. I remember when i went to Soho Road Gurudwara at 4 am to ask them for Amrit for my dad who we were told wouldnt make it thru the night, the Giani opened the door and told us to come back in the morning that was the first time my heart shattered, I try to forget these things but they play on my mind.....I work with the community mainly serving communities that are disadvantaged this to me is like sewa even though i do not visit a gurudwara i feel at peace with the world and myself.. Once again thankyou so much for your kind words..