I feel we will have problem when we attached ourself too much with the spouse. pls remember this line from rehras " janan pita lot sut banitaa koay naa kis kee dharia " Mothers, fathers,friends,children,and spouses--no one is the support of anyone else. why worry so much. Our wedding we walk round the guru, we both get married to the guru. dont expect much from anyone. do ur duty best , be the light house and leave the rest to guru.
satnam