Not2Cool2Argue

1 hour ago, dallysingh101 said:

The trilogy is brilliant. I felt it got better in each book. 

 

It's a fantastic book. And shows how corrupt the whole foster care/guardianship system can be. 

On 3/16/2023 at 6:55 PM, LifeIsBeautiful said:

Honestly try helping people, help the homeless out 

This is terrible advice. Most homeless are drug addicts and/or have  psychological issues. Even people with degrees, experience and government resources are both able to help people with such serious conditions like addiction and mental issues, and you expect the average householder who has so much on his plate to waste his limited time effort and money on this?

Akali deejai Daan. Better to help where your help will make a difference. There is a website that lists the most effective charities in the world

On 3/7/2023 at 11:43 AM, ChardikalaUK said:

The song itself is a rip off of this old Hindi song

 

 

Are you sure? The theme is different. Music, lyrics, taal nothing is similar

On 1/9/2023 at 9:19 AM, Guest Singh255 said:

Dear piyaare Sangat Jeeo 

I have a humble request to ask - how does one get out of suffering the consequences of slandering a saint. My background and story is complicated and so I will try to explain it in as much detail as possible in hopes that someone can help me. 

I am a 26 years old male who has been trying to practice sikhi, since as long as I can remember as a child. 

 

Since the start of this janam I have came into this world with a deaf ear (left ear). I suffer from mild to moderate hearing in my only functioning ear (right). This has lead me to believe that I may have slandered people in the past (possibly even a saint) to get this punishment. As a result of my past actions I struggle with life - my relationships are never at peace, my educational success is never good (I got 6 U’s at A levels), I got a 2:1 at university but after 6 years of studying and got a penalty for plagiarism. Even with a degree I work at a factory Wharehouse that gives me inconsistent shifts (3days work out of 7) which has lead me to be poor and miserable… 

ਸੰਤ ਕਾ ਨਿੰਦਕ੝ ਰਾਜ ਤੇ ਹੀਨ੝ ॥ ਸੰਤ ਕਾ ਨਿੰਦਕ੝ ਦ੝ਖੀਆ ਅਰ੝ ਦੀਨ੝ ॥ 
Sanṯ kĝ ninḝak rĝj ṯė hīn. Sanṯ kĝ ninḝak ḝukẖī­ĝ ar ḝīn. 
The slanderer of the Saint has no kingdom. The slanderer of the Saint becomes miserable and poor. 

I have no friends I speak non of my cousins as no one wants to associate with me, everyone talks behind my back including my family (close and far) doubt me, they believe I’m a failure, a loser, tehy call me stupid and goofy, untrustworthy and unreliable. I’ve suffered a car accident at 21. I was brought up in absolute violence, as my parents used to fight over their marriage. I have no hope for the future as nothing ever goes right for me. These are just some of the issues I face in my life, there are plenty more… ਸੰਤ ਕਾ ਦੋਖੀ ਸਦਾ ਅਪਵਿਤ੝ ॥ ਸੰਤ ਕਾ ਦੋਖੀ ਕਿਸੈ ਕਾ ਨਹੀ ਮਿਤ੝ ॥ 
Sanṯ kĝ ḝokẖī saḝĝ apviṯ. Sanṯ kĝ ḝokẖī kisai kĝ nahī miṯ. 
The slanderer of the Saint is forever impure. The slanderer of the Saint is nobody's friend. 

All of these issues have led me to realise that I have slandered a saint in my past life somewhere and I am suffering as a result. Sukhmani sahib says to slander a saint is the worst sin of all, I believe it. 
 

sukhmani sahib says: ਸੰਤ ਕੇ ਦੋਖੀ ਕਉ ਨਾਹੀ ਠਾਉ ॥ ਨਾਨਕ ਸੰਤ ਭਾਵੈ ਤਾ ਲਝ ਮਿਲਾਇ ॥੪॥ 
Sanṯ kė ḝokẖī ka­o nĝhī ṯẖĝ­o. Nĝnak sanṯ bẖĝvai ṯĝ la­ė milĝ­ė. ॥4॥ 
The slanderer of the Saint has no place of rest. O Nanak, if it pleases the Saint, then even such a one may merge in union. ॥4॥ 

I really do feel that I have no place of rest. 
 

it also says: ਸੰਤ ਕਾ ਦੋਖੀ ਅਧ ਬੀਚ ਤੇ ਟੂਟੈ ॥ ਸੰਤ ਕਾ ਦੋਖੀ ਕਿਤੈ ਕਾਜਿ ਨ ਪਹੂਚੈ ॥ 
Sanṯ kĝ ḝokẖī aḝẖ bīcẖ ṯė tūtai. Sanṯ kĝ ḝokẖī kiṯai kĝj na pahūcẖai. 
The slanderer of the Saint breaks down mid-way. The slanderer of the Saint cannot accomplish his tasks.

As you can see from my personal life (education and work) my affairs don’t get accomplished. 
 

I really do believe I suffer like this… ਸੰਤ ਕਾ ਦੋਖੀ ਇਉ ਬਿਲਲਾਇ ॥ ਜਿਉ ਜਲ ਬਿਹੂਨ ਮਛ੝ਲੀ ਤੜਫੜਾਇ ॥ 
Sanṯ kĝ ḝokẖī i­o billĝ­ė. Ji­o jal bihūn macẖẖulī ṯaṛafṛĝ­ė. 
The slanderer of the Saint bewails like this - like a fish, out of water, writhing in agony.  

as nothing goes right in my life. 
 

sukhamni sahib also describes the reason for my deaf ear… ਸੰਤ ਕਾ ਦੋਖੀ ਬਿਗੜ ਰੂਪ੝ ਹੋਇ ਜਾਇ ॥ ਸੰਤ ਕੇ ਦੋਖੀ ਕਉ ਦਰਗਹ ਮਿਲੈ ਸਜਾਇ ॥ 
Sanṯ kĝ ḝokẖī bigaṛ rūp ho­ė jĝ­ė. Sanṯ kė ḝokẖī ka­o ḝargeh milai sajĝ­ė. 
The slanderer of the Saint becomes deformed. The slanderer of the Saint receives his punishment in the Court of the Lord.

 

As you guys can see, I have reason to believe that I have slandered a saint in my past life and I am in a janam where I am suffering the consequences of it and there seems to be no escape. I practice Gurbani as much as I can, I am inconsistent due to my suffering as if I’m suffering I reduce my bani. On average over the last 10 years I do my nitnem at minimum, sometimes though I go weeks without doing it. I listen to a lot of Gurbani shabads include: har jio nimaania tu ma’am, tohi mohi mohi tohi, rogi kar parbh kandoh rog, Lakh kushiyan pathshiyan, kar bande tu bandagi, vin boleya san kich jandha, man tu jot saroop hai apna mool pachan and many more. 
 

if you guys have gotten this far reading my post thank you, my question is how do I erase the sin of slandering a saint, it feels as if there’s no way out for such a sin. A apologies for my poor grammar and structure of this post. Please feel free to ask for clarification if needed.  Please enlighten me sangat jeeo. Waheguru ji ka khalsa Waheguru ji ki fateh
 

 

At the end of each astpadi itsays how to be forgiven. Usually it says if a sant forgives you, you will be forgiven.

So try to find a sant. Do ardaas to find a sant. If you can't find one, bhai pinderpal singh said you can choose one of the historical ones. He chose sant ishar singh ji rara sahib wale. Then you read about their jeevan and try to think about them and try to learn lessons from their life.  Basically revolve your life around the sant.  So that you should dream about them.  And then if you ask them for help, they will help. 

Also satguru is all powerful. So try to do chalisa at amrit vela, sukhmani sahib paath. It should help. Visit baba deep singh gurudwara

On 2/17/2023 at 11:29 AM, weareallone said:

How much per acre and where is the CHEAPEST agricultural/forest land in Punjab today (to buy for tree planting/nature protection project)?

General areas and ballpark prices will be helpful so that I can narrow the search.

Ps. If someone knows any non-selfish property dealer, please PM me their details 

 

 

Normal Jameen prices are 20-25 lakhs per Killah.

Buy near a pind and not near the main road

13 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

So basically don't fight back because it might ruin your life chances. I'm glad not all apnay thought like this, or we'd just be known as outright docile slaves. A stereotype that exists amongst many western goray to this day. And I notice, it's people who come from family backgrounds that were subordinate to colonial rule, that are the ones who usually do this apologist thing. 

That's why their forefathers will never be admired and remembered like those that didn't. Maybe it's a man thing? Most noncowardly males would admire those who fought back, even if it cost them,  against those who bent over and took it.   I guess it's the difference between alphas and betas? 

Most of our ancestors with families were like this. During the misl periods it was mostly unmarried men running to the jungles. And most families were afraid that they sons would join in. Same during 1984, most panjabis are still so scared of khalistani Sikhs that they might entice their young ones.

I don't think it's an alpha, beta thing. If yiu have daughters and young children, would you really want to leave them fatherless. You've seen the haal of the Shaheed singhs children in 1984. A granthi singh told us that in a certain area of panjab, dastaar wearing women were considered to be characterless women. Because as they were wives of the akj babber khalsa, they would constantly be harassed and picked up by police. And they ended up doing anything to survive, to feed their families if you get my gist.ofc no one would want to help them for fear of being associated with khalistanis. 

Also a military person has noticed revolutions mostly happen when there is more single men in society. 

Or something really truly humiliating must have happened to increase hatred of invaders over fear and survival.  Or faith and bairaag is strong due to dharmic upbringing.

Also it's not easy to join a revolution. To avoid surveillance and find the rebels. The blog mentioned that her father was on the black list foe his whole life, could not apply to any govt job. Always under surveillance. Family land also usurped by govt. 

6 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

I don't know what mental acrobatics you've performed to link these things? Hari Singh Nalwa taming an adjacent region that historically attacked his own native land and indulged in wholesale murder and taking away humans as slaves, is a world away from some white colonialists, travelling thousands of miles away from their homeland, to nations who have never been any threat to them, and then attacking and subverting them doesn't equate.   

Ok. That was not a accurate comparison

 But again what is wrong with being a guard or prison warden or police officer? Also how are we different than these ancestors? We also work for the British govt now. And if some youngsters want to join the British army or police, there's nothing wrong with it. What's wrong foe supporting or giving or life for the society that supports you? I know ur gonna say that imperial war against the middle east and badly handled grooming cases by the police. But that does not mean all police officers were complicit or even guilty. It's not always easy to tackle real life problems like poverty and trafficking with limited resources. Also with politician scared of race relations and their votes. 

What is your opinion on bhai subheg singh and shahbaaz singh ? They worked for the mughal government. 

Try website vidhia.com

It has many pdfs. Can't say what level they are..

On 1/30/2023 at 12:19 AM, californiasardar1 said:

 

The same Sikhs who are proud of the "Sikh regiment" and the Sikh "shaheeds" of the World Wars.

I don't see what's wrong with this.  Being a guard or a prison warden is a honorable job. You think natives couldn't be criminals? Even Hari singh nalwa had to hang multiple ppl daily in peshawar as a message to the native criminals. 

On 5/7/2020 at 1:03 PM, genie said:

Would be interesting to know how the british imperialist colonialists treated the natives of punjab and how sikh raja's of nabha,faridkot,jind, patiala, karputala treated their subjects from eye witness accounts.

The best ppl to know would be our elders. Someone did write a blog about how their father attempted to join one of the independence movements in college and how his whole life was destroyed.  Because at that time the British empire essentially ruled all of Asia. The father attended a secret meeting. It was busted.  He managed to get away but a list of names was leaked.  Was picked up by the police. Multiple times so parents shipped him out. But he had to work labor jobs his whole life because he Was banned from school and he could not attend any university anywhere as Britain owned and credentialed. 

Man it must have been so cool to live in those times.  There were so many movements going around.  Communism, independence.  Nazism , science was exploding, 

Youtube? Google?

Also websites like gurbani seva

ikatha.com and sikhnet

On 8/26/2022 at 11:40 AM, Guest anon said:

Hi, im also a 26 year old women residing in Brampton and am going through something similar. my phone is also hacked. do you want to discuss this in a public setting, we can meet? 

 

thanks 

You can call your phone company and have all data deleted remotely.

Do you know about pantheism? Good is his creation.  Souls are just small parts of the Great soul. So everything merges back into 1 small atom. It's in chaupai sahib. Jab udkarakj Kara kartaara parja dharat tab deh apaara. Jab aakharh karat ho kabhoo.Tum mai milat deh dhar sab hoo

Keep it up. Ups and downs happen.  But you are judged on your effort on not giving up. Welcome to the khalsa brotherhood

On 11/30/2022 at 1:45 PM, Guest Avigilon said:

I live in Canada, but I am not a Sikh. I was wondering if it is a good to allow my 9-year-old nephew Dylan to go to a Sikh boarding school called the Gursikh Academy Bahadurgarh which is located in Patiala India? The reason for this is because his best friend Bhupinder Singh is attending this school and he misses my nephew. Bhupinder’s parents asked if I could send my nephew to this school to join his friend Bhupinder and they offered to pay my nephew’s plane ticket and tuition if he goes. But my problem is that this particular Sikh boarding school is very strict that requires all students regardless of background to follow the Sikh code of conduct and abstain from cutting their hair. I am not sure if my nephew would able to handle that.

Ask your nephew. Also mention that he would not understand the teachers or other kids as they will speak panjabi.  Food will be different.  Might even get travelers diarrhea. Ans there is also more mosquitos and chances of dengue and malaria.

So I would ask your nephew and his parents.  And also see if Dylan is resilient and of a hardy constitution.  

Would Dylan not miss his parents or his friends in Canada? Or become homesick? 

It would be great if Dylan went and learned panjabi and got to travel at such a young age and c experience a different religion and culture and land.

But would he be able to handle it? Just ask him do you want an adventure? And tell him adventures are not fun but are exciting. There is danger and trouble and terrible odds. But it's never boring.  Look in books adventures are usually  disease getting lost almost dying and fighting wild animals to dangerous ppl etx

Gurfateh

A gursikh who follows harkhowal told us that it's sehaj the maarag. Don't focus on chakaras just do simran and they open up. 

But if you want to do Chakra meditation, do sant gurbachan singh method. Where you do divide waheguru into 4 parts. Say WA at the naabi/umbilical area HEY at hirda/ heart area and GU in throat area and RU between eyes. While you say it, you should feel the vibration at that area.

But it's better to not worry about Chakra and just do simran.

23 hours ago, Guest MoorakhMugdaJanamPya said:

WJKK, WJKF

I am a moorakh for falling into kaam and I have dug myself into a pit of faithlessness. This started a few months ago where I tried no fap and it somehow turned into a search for proof of god. I couldn’t find any proofs and should have known there is none because waheguru never lets his hand be shown to people who don’t look for it. I almost became atheist before realizing that calling the gurus mentally Ill or liars , the same jot that sacrificed their 4 sahibzade, sent their father to dehli to protect someone else’s dharam, the same jot whose institutions started in their first form still feed thousands every day, is so bleak. I try to let go of kaam but I fall back into this pit of “there’s no proof of god so just keep watching porn and <banned word filter activated> off”. I need help building my faith back and getting out of this weird pit I have dug myself into. I need help finding sangat to keep me away from this pit. Thanks.

You are right that sangat is your only cure. Because logic does not seem to work with your mind. Also tell your mind, what will watching gandh and living a nihilist negative atheistic life do anything for anyone? Isn't it better to believe in something positive, as it will stop you wasting your life.

So where are you located so we can help you find sangat.

Also discipline and action can also save you. Thoughts alone will not. Read posts by someone named Sat on here. They say get up at 5. Do 1 hour simran and japji sahib. Then go to work. Then work out for 1 hour. Then rehraas sahib and listen to 30 mins of kirtan. Then go to sleep early. Do this for 1 week. Avoid internet. 

Instead of sangat of people, you can do sangat of guruji. Which is by hanging out with guruji. Which occurs by listening to kirtan, looking at God's creation (going out in nature) and listening to katha and reading gurbani.

Check out dodra samagam website and akj.org for places to attend sangat. Use Google maps to find closest  gurudwaras. 

21 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

These "gods" were royalty of a land / continent that was destroyed in a deluge. After what was a cataclysmic incident that destroyed that particular land,the survivors of this one sunken continent migrated to various places across the world, one of these groups being the tribe that set up home in the Indus Valley. The tales of the exploits of these beings were passed down through generations through oral storytelling. Eventually (I'm talking thousands of years), Valmiki and Vyas (of the Mahabharata) retrofitted these "ancestral memories" to the land of their birth, i.e. India / Bharat. So, these devte did exist, but they weren't Indians as much as Thor wasn't a Viking, etc. Where-ever the aforementioned survivors migrated to is where the local tribes drew upon this collective mythos from this now lost continent, and then imprinted their own customs, culture, and racial "makeup" (from their "new" home) onto those distant figures. Even something seemingly as unique as Japanese mythology has the same core personalities and events common to nearly all ancient peoples and cultures, because it all eventually stemmed from one central location. This also, I think, might explain where the various cyclical yugs (Sat, Dwapar, Treta, Kal) were actually in evidence. It's all in the Occult texts of the 18th and 19th centuries. There have been past-life regressions where those in the present who believe in this theory have described their various lives on this land that was swallowed by the sea. They describe what sounds suspiciously like the Pandavas and Kauravas royal clans and their vendetta with each other as well as the earlier events of the Ramayana. Others who've undergone even harsher regression routines begin to describe their previous lives on other worlds before their incarnations on Earth. All this was done under the guidance of Hindu rishis, etc. It's very interesting.

Where can I find more info on this. So far I've heard about this intergalactic stuff from matias stefano 

On 9/30/2022 at 4:59 AM, Guest Gupt sad said:

 

I'm afraid that when she and my brother will have children, she'll start refraining them to wearing some colours, or doing stuff (she won't let her niece wear red colour (??) Because baba said it makes her angry).

 

 

Don't worry about the children. As a respected and fun uncle you will have more influence on them than their mother and her superstitious beliefs. Also the kids will be growing up in the west, attending gurudware which will make then more like us westerners. Also when hanging out with the future kids you can build tolerance in them by inocukating them against the pandit stuff. Like pandits think they can predict human behavior from planets that is the fake study of astrology. Don't disparage the mom though when discussing these things. Just say our Gurus have taken us out of this mess of fear and connected us directly with the source. And say we are lucky to be born in the age of science. We can look for explanations etc

Keep the peace in the family. Your brother does need to speak up. But the rest of the family should not. So just let it be. We don't need broken homes or high divorce rates in the community. Sabar is a good quality. Let the mother do the hard work of nurturing the kids. Then you take over the kids mental, spiritual education.  Also don't teach the kids to go against the mother.  Teach the kids to humor her.  Like she wants you to wear a red thread on Tuesdays, how funny.  Try it kids what's the harm its useless.  

Panjabis are our biggest asset.  They are good at making money and having kids.  Most of us in the west ain't getting married or have depression or 1 kids max before we done because we have lame jobs or are not willing to work hard.   Let the panjabis multiply, we can recruit kids from that during camps etc

Go to a doctor and have tests done. Seems like a hormonal issue.  You are not producing Testosterone is my guess . Hopefully due to a reversal cause like tumor in your pituitary gland. Or your body making to much of another hormone like prolactin.  

On 9/5/2022 at 7:27 PM, Guest Anonymous said:

mental health +guilt/shame/anxiety + accepting hukam

So, i was wondering what parts of SGGS ji and Bani speaks on mental health as well as dealing with shane and what not.

To elaborate, i have bpd and as such have trouble detaching shame/guilt/etc from my past actions/situations/circumstances. As i try to incorporate Naam more and more into my daily life, i become more and more educated on/aware of/conscious of past behaviours/their consequences/behavioural cycles that i had/have or regurgitated from family and loved ones. Thus, as i learn more (thanks to Waheguru ji ofc), i find myself hurting and feeling shame for the actions i had taken/ways i behaved and treated others when i was at a lower level of consciousness. I did a lot that a Sikh isn’t supposed to before finding my way back home to Sikhi and often am not sure how to move past the past and not hate myself for it. 

Just wondering if Sangat has any advice.

Gurbani speaks soo much on this topic. All the shabads about how i have a thousand faults and sins still you forgive me. Your kindness is more vast than my sins. How God protects anyone who dares to come to his Sharan. How countless sins eradicated from doing simran. Look at rehraas sahib. Jap tap Sanjam dharam na kamaayia...

Just tell yourself that your Guru is more wiser than you're stupidity. Also look at bhai gurdaas jis vaaran. IK CHARAN SHARAN GUR EK PAINDA JAI CHAL, SATGUR KOT PAINDA AAGAI HOY LETH HAI. Also Bhagat bani: HUM SAR DEEN, DAYAL NA TUM SUR. Forgive me the mistakes in writing these pangtis  Go dive into the ocean of gurbani to learn the true meaning of gratitude, self love, and forgiveness.

Why can't your brother do IELTS? Why does he need to be married? Tell him to go work in Mumbai or Dubai and support himself and his mother like a man. Where is his anakh? Why are visas and women the only way out? 

It's sad panjabi boys who have never left panjab or seen beaches of India, want to go to canada...