MsShergill1991

I am curious, how people feel about female Sikhs who have long hair but are not Gursikh. I have been trying to grow my hair for a long time, but because I am getting older it is taking a while. I am usually one of the girls in my class with the longest hair, but it is not down to my knees long only down to my hips. I was wondering if anyone has anyone ever been told that you should keep long hair only with you are going to become a Gursikh? I always get teased by other Sikhs about me not eating meat and keeping long hair, but it has nothing to do with my religion it has to do with my personal beliefs, since I was a little kid I never liked my hair to be touched my a scissor and I still not do, I only trim my hair so it does not get any more damaged and ruin the rest of my hair. What are your thoughts?

I think you have to try to be her friend first and her sexual partner second. A key to a successful marriage is communication. If you are able to talk about anything with each other than you will become comfortable with one another. Take her places that are not to romantic and are not too crowded but allow you two to have a great time as well as get to know one another better. Think of it as a new friendship that you hope to one day turn into a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. She has to feel comfortable around you and everyone else, such as your family, friends and coworkers. She will slowly come to you must be patient.

People have many explanations as to why things are created on this planet, some believe in God(s) and some do not. It helps us to feel secure and to have hope as well as something to believe in, such as religion, which is man made so that is another argument with them altogether. Believing in God gives people hope that they are working towards a better life, such an after life or a good future, the belief in God allows me to talk to him when I have no one else to talk to and makes me feel secure. If you ever come across an Atheist ask them questions such as why do they celebrate holidays such as Christmas and Easter when they have religious meaning to it?

I suggest that you get to know your in-laws better before you get married, so visit your fiances house a couple of times, help out when you are there. Even ask him and his family some questions. Make them aware that you are nervous but are willing to do whatever it takes to be a good daughter-in-law, also let them know that you are not against being married you just want everything to go right in order to have a successful marriage.

I am sorry to hear this, it sounds as if your family is converting, especially your parents. If you can convince your other family members than maybe they can talk to your parents and get rid of this guy. Have they been going to the Gurdwara with this Baba if so then that may change things, maybe the sangat will say something to them.Also how does your brother feel about this, if he disagrees with this lifestyle than maybe you can convince him to live with you as well, if this happens than your parents should see that it is breaking their family apart and they may stop. Stay strong, everything will get better.