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  1. It is possible that there are nervous system problems involved. It is possible for a muscle to become "switched off" resulting in poor mind/muscle connection (the ability to focus on and squeeze a muscle while training). Chiropractors and kinesiologists will be able to help by making adjustments of the neck, spine and by massaging trigger points to activate the muscle. If your biceps are not activated, then it is possible other muscles are overcompensating and causing pain or stress elsewhere in the body. It can cost £40 a session upwards, but rather spend it on treatment than supplements tha
  2. Dear Sangat Ji, I am a frequent reader of this site but I seldom post, and am for the first time ever starting a new thread. I do so because I feel that we can perhaps openly examine as a community some of the root causes of many of the challenges that posters present here, especially in the Gupt section. I post here instead of "Whats Happening" as there may be those who wish to contribute but not reveal their identities. The topics that keep coming up over and over include: Women and issues with hair (and the fact that it affects their chances of marriage) Youngsters and romantic relation
  3. Look into Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. It is very effective at dissolving emotional charges. The more free you are of the extreme emotional reactions (or distractions), the more likely it is that you will be able to focus on your journey.
  4. Living a life of Rehit is not the path of least resistance, it is the harder path. As such, individuals will embrace it to the degree that they feel that they can manage, and with Mahraj's grace will do better over time. Common sense would be to encourage those who wish to walk that path, and respectfully disagree with those that don't. Ultimately ones Rehit, or lack thereof is between the individual and Mahraj. Ultimately it is nobody else's business (unless of course the individual tries to misrepresent Sikhi, in which case an intelligent discussion is the way forward). Too often people you
  5. Beware of putting anyone on a pedestal. The people that we make our heroes are often the same people that we end up resenting. If you find admirable qualities in your friend, then I would recommend finding and developing those qualities in yourself. I would also encourage you to see the downsides to this person, to keep them human in your eyes and appreciate the person as a whole, including their faults and weaknesses. Otherwise, the day inevitably comes when our heroes disappoint us. We then resent them and ourselves for what the lesson costs us. Infatuation and putting anyone on a pedestal
  6. West London Singh hit the nail on the head, nice to see some pragmatic and practical advice! The original poster is right to be cautious in an era when half of all marriages fail. Better to know that you are making a commitment to someone that you can relate to. Also, who says you have to move in with anyone's family? There are no hard and fast rules anymore, the world is a changed place and extended families under a single roof are now often impractical and ill advised. If you can get on with his family, great! If not, be honest about what worries you and ask what the exit strategy is if th
  7. I was once told that you don't do deals with God as you have nothing that he needs. While it is commendable that you did your Jaap, and it undoubtedly will be of benefit to you in this life and beyond, it may not be wise to consider Mahraj to be bound to a deal that WE are doing and setting the value (amount of jaap) of. I don't say this to discourage you at all, and again, well done for your discipline, but your educational success is a completely different issue. I can relate to what you are going through. I too sat up all night studying. I studied with people who I considered smarter than
  8. If you are both in your early twenties and are coming to the end of your studies, then what is there to worry about? Being Amrit Dhaari doesn't make you any less human, and your feelings are part of a number of biological mechanisms that are designed to help you find a partner that you will produce strong, healthy progeny with. It really is that straight forward if you look at the basics of it. It seems your parents approve of you as a couple, and you approve of each other. I'm struggling to see what the problem is here. Some people meet the person that they will marry when they are 16 (I kno
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