jkvlondon

It is not about the environment , its about eroding the choices of the poor and middle classes about being able to afford travel both within the country and abroad . Look at the private companies who own and price train fares , the prices are high as or higher than airfares . Bus companies do not cover rural routes in a normal way , many neighbourhoods do not have transport links anymore .

If the poor cannot afford to maintain a car it affects their job opportunities , social lives and necessary trips.

11 hours ago, Suchi said:

Many real farmers are very upset that the farm laws have been revoked as they had started to earn alot more under the new laws.  So it will be up to the state govts to bring them back if they wish.  And MSP was never removed. 

 

 

 

 

 

your many farmers are being fooled by the temporary windfall before their demise , such shortsighted people are the cause  of India's enslavement and the mess the country's youth are in . MSP was never honoured as experienced by ALL farmers across the nation, thus the call for proper MSP rates , stop trying to claim the exact opposite of reality. Ask Biharis what happened to them and why they came to work on Panjab's farm because three years ago they agreed to the temporary raises scheme then found after all the state mandis shut down the prices tanked and they lost everything

20 minutes ago, MisterrSingh said:

Ulleh?

no not ullu compliant ...that's some major bird brain action

Just now, Jacfsing2 said:

Ok, maybe they want to be househusbands  

no they want to be playas with wifey doing the donkey work ... and then they also want to enforce it with violence/intimidation tactics like I will divorce/kill you if you don't do as I want.

6 hours ago, Jacfsing2 said:

I think men in general don’t really care how educated or how much money a woman makes when looking for a partner. I don’t think men and women should look for the same qualities in the other person tbh. 

not true panjabi guys are looking for girls who can pave the way out of the current panjab and become wage slaves in the new country.

elon musk's first wife on the Narcissist himself :

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JF-KrSnixr4

14 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

That's a VERY common tactic. The sob story. These nuts sense people's empathetic nature and rinse it out. 

At this stage in life, I realise that you have to essentially be an investigative journalist type (as well as a psychologist) and check everything out to reduce the chance of getting f**ked over.   

If you are the empathetic type, you need to realise you'll be attracting narcs to yourself, whether you like it or not. 

It's some strange energy attraction thing??

like moths to the flame ... it is a universal truth that goodness will attract evil that's why Guru ji armed us to not make us victims , bibek budhi, shastar  and gurbani weapons in every sense

7 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

I've got close family who are sociopaths, conversations with them are really weird. There's obviously an emotional dimension completely missing. What's really sad is seeing the kids develop, and them slowly realising something's not quite right with the parent. And then the contention they have to witness. 

Like I said previously, with hindsight, all the signs are there. It's a shame that people get caught out. Apnay need to create a profile of these types so others can be forewarned.

That all being said (as Gurjant sort of alluded to in another post), there are some females who seem to live intune with the narcissist type, they've probably been raised by one themselves?  So they like to play along with the dikhawaa and status obsession. It's normalised behaviour for them. 

I think in her case he sniffed out her desperation to get settled , blood in the water ... all it took was the right amount of flattery and flowery words and he was in . My Mum accompanied her to India to meet his widowed mother and little bro apparently they have nothing to do with the rest of their family either side (which is major nono for apnay). My Dad had warned everyone not to let her get married to him just before he died  (dad was heavy into bhagti and had said things which then came to pass). Unfortunately my Mum and Nana ji just thought to let her get married then and there so, I never saw my sister's anand Karaj neither did either of my brothers .
He isn't alpha to look at , or in status at the time  he just played on her sympathies for his 'sob story' , how his father died when he was young (at first we thought when he was little kid but no when he had completed schooling) and he was main support of his family working in Abu Dhabi and sending money back to Ludhiana  (except he was not doing it regularly as he was still trying to get money out of his employers after he arrived in UK) .

18 hours ago, dallysingh101 said:

That's a lame repertoire bro.

don't knock him he's miles ahead of the average jatinder

2 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

It doesn't just seem to be anyone - but anything (including animals by the looks of it).  

it is never their fault , even the inanimate objects are conspiring against them ...fitte muh

On 11/18/2021 at 10:32 AM, dallysingh101 said:

It's a shame that by time we've figured out these characteristics, we've already got stung. Narcissism or sociopathy were rarely discussed before, and just put down to a person's personality, but we've come a long way since then.

There are clear signs your dealing with one of these in their behaviour and language. They don't seem to have the ability for deeper abstract concepts, and I think that's where you can identify them quickly. If you question them on a deeper level on these things (like spirituality, bonds etc.), you can clearly see them squirm, do avoidance behaviour or give out text book answers that they've learnt to hide their emotional emptiness. When they think they have hoodwinked you, you can see them beaming with their smiles. Someone unaware is likely to mistake the smile as friendliness, and not elation at having pulled the wool over your eyes. 

Problem with a lot of people is that they mistake the narcissist personality of potential partners as confidence (which people are understandably attracted too), this coupled with the fact that these people often work themselves into good economic positions through deception and manipulation make them seem like ideal partners. They glean information about a person and then use the profile they've created to manipulate them (i.e. figuring out soft spots). So all their flattery is personally tailored from what they've heard and observed about a person, they also adapt their own persona to make themselves as attractive to their target as much as possible; trying to make themselves indispensable. They are like amateur psychologists in this respect. They create a false image of themselves that is the polar opposite of what they are really like. Only people who live with them see their true nature. Outsiders to the relationship would never believe what they are really like, because they've manipulated them too with some false image. I also believe these types can sense each other, and often form alliances against people not like them. This explains a lot of higher management in organisations too.  

If it's too good to be true, it usually isn't true. 

Also, they have a reset button, so they can move on from the devastation they cause in people's lives, without a second thought, and find the next victim. When they do this, they'll make themselves out to be the victims of the person they abused in the previous relationship.  When in a relationship, once they feel that they have constructed enough barriers to prevent the other partner leaving (financial, emotional, using cultural taboos, children etc.) from what I've seen, they seem to start testing the boundaries of just how much they can get away with - just how much they can break someone down to complete compliance. It's like they try and destroy the very soul and essence of the person. They try and make people completely dependent on them. From what you posted above, it looks like all these signs were there from the beginning with your sister. 

well the big tell was when she warned him that she was unhappy and wanted to end things (about four months before actioning anything) his reaction was not 'why? what did I do wrong ? ' but 'my mother would have died if she heard that' (mum died of covid and did not have a good relationship with sis)  'no one will marry my brother if I have a divorce' nothinng to do with his daughter nothing to do with his own relationship to her .  He is literally more  worried about not being able to falsely host in 'his' home and entrap another girl's family to his brother .
He was told by my younger brother and Mum if he wants to keep the marriage he has to work on it by going to counselling , he made no effort in that direction , carried on being spiteful about my sis's work and efforts in the home , ignoring his daughter on the regular , not even supervising her homework (kids bright just needs pointing) . He had caused my sis to have a nervous breakdown prior to her speaking up which resulted in her being signed off for a month from work .  Because she time to think and got assigned a counsellor she started putting the dots together and realised what she was dealing with and how he was never going to be a partcipant or support to the family life.

21 hours ago, dallysingh101 said:

Another potential tip, that might sound nuts at first:

I've noticed that many sociopaths/psychos seem to be uneasy around certain types of cats.

 

By cats here, I mean a proper one that hasn't had their feral instincts completely stomped out of them, like an overweight house cat. People says it's because these people are uncomfortable with the independent nature of cats. I also think that cats might be more psychically intuned to auras and the sociopath can sense that they see through them. Yeah, I know, it sounds nuts. lol

they have issues with anyone with independent thought and action

On 2/20/2016 at 12:10 AM, Guest XYZ said:

I have a question How come someone like me a Amritdhari Distar wala married to an Amritdhari Distar Wali Singhni have been divorced for the last 6 years after 17 years of marriage. It had nothing to do with cheating and stuff. If marriage is going to break it does not matter if you are a Sikh, Hindu, Christian, Atheist. You are just not meant to be with a person for life.

nice theory but Guru ji has said you will always look for a companion so that's the truth.

On 7/10/2016 at 2:09 PM, Guest Rajeev Agrawal said:

Yes i do believe that its true most of punjabi girl marriages to non punjabis end up in divorce, as not even punjabi girls but the whole punjabi community is very selfish & cunning so the same way thier girls...many of you will ask how can i say that? ans is that because my family had faced the same issue thrice... and now the foruth one is me....punjabi girls are cheaters...not even one or two but the all of them same ----

quite obviously you've never met Gujaratis

the way they quote Dhadriwale shows just what a stooge he is and how desperate the Godimedia is to destroy trust in sikhs . main mission of the culprits has always been to destroy the confidence and peace of mind of the sikhs by attacking their isht/ their Guru; Nihangs have reminded panth that we will not tolerate such things and most sikhs agree that they do the right thing , the only complainers are fake -sikhs/comrades/missionaries/ hindus with agenda; heck even Muslims agree with nihangs as do some sane brahmins

On 5/23/2020 at 12:34 PM, puzzled said:

See I thought i was the only one thinking that lol. 

But yh there does seem to be this odd muslim woman fantasy among sikh men of previous generations. 

Even during partition I think the number of muslim women kidnapped in east punjab was over 10,000. Though back in those days there were some proper feudal type pubjabi hindus in the pinds mainly the ones that did kethi  who probably did some killing and kidnapping during partition, most of it was actually done by sikhs despite being a tiny minority. 

Iv heard apparently it was quite a thing back in the days for them to have muslim women relationships.

In Sau sakhi it states that if a sikh man sleeps with a muslim woman then he becomes a muslim. I found this strange and my only guess is that it was to stop sikh men from keep on doing these things. 

Khuswants singhs novel train to pakistan the main character is a sikh man who is in a relationship with a Muslim woman. Then there is cm amrinder singh with his aroosa alam woman.  The famous dakku malangi was born into a muslim family but his  mother ran away with a sikh man when he was a boy and she took him with her. He then grew up to be a dakku and killed all his biological fathers brothers and nephews. 

that sau sakhi tale is based on Guru Gobind Sigh's bachan after Singh was carried off battlefield unconcious and  injured by Musley and they cut his kesh and tried to convert him: bytrying to feed him  Halal Meat (please note those who think nothing of eating meat in 'halal friendly' eateries ) , doing sunat (circumcision) , reading shahada and even marrying/offering a muslim woman to him. Because he did not take the last option up Guru ji said he was NOT a muslim and could do pesh and rejoin his sikh bretheren.

On 10/18/2021 at 6:17 AM, MisterrSingh said:

It's the belief that they aren't ashamed of what they did. Part of "Wanting to stand out in a crowd" ethos. Commendable but naive. Smart quoms understand the need for tactical retreats so they can live to fight another day. Poorly lead quoms such as ours tend to self destruct and eventually disappear under a procession of bad decisions.

it is not a matter of shame but the fact that the culprit actually removed a granth with him to do further beadbhi elsewhere .

he was beaten to death after being asked for details of his paymasters and others involved the nihangs got info that there is a core cells of 20 hired dirtyworkers  and THEN when dead his hand and foot were removed (not much blood lost at scene of death). He did not bleed to death as the indian godimedia would claim, it WAS NOT because he was a dalit but a perp .

If the law of the land is ccorrupt then it is a sikhs duty to stand against it not cower before it . This is why the sikhs of past went into the jungles and is the 'hard' part of sikhi; standing for something at personal cost.