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  1. JessieKaur perfect post there absolutely spot on!!! I totally agree with the views you've raised. Sometimes a couple (when they occasionally) have different different views will just think in the here and now and present time and not think in the future in terms of like you said bringing up children etc.. and just living different lifestyles as people haven't thought of the spiritual side of marriage and understandably not everyone wants that but for me that's what marriage is about. It's kinda odd as you'd think someone who is Amritdhari or Keshdhari would want the same in a partner but I'm seeing increasing numbers of marriages where they couple consists of one Amrtidhari / Keshdhari and one completely not.
  2. Hi I have tried the above but no one comes forward I've been told people are worried now that due to the increase in marriage breakdowns that the Vichola who fixed the couple up would get the blame. I'm unaware of any marriage bureaus here in the UK. I don't understand the problem myself which is why I've become rather disheartened by the process I'm a nice friendly person so do not feel my personality or practising Sikhi are an issue. I feel it's more an issue of Singhs I've spoken to wanting an 'ideal' vision of beauty and putting that before anything else. Has anyone else looking for a partner had similar problems?
  3. This has sparked quite an interesting debate - I find it sad if cases where a Singh decides to cut his Kes and remove his Dastar just to get married and fit the 'ideal' of what girls are looking for. I personally do not have an issue with a Dastar and untrimmed beard but that's because I've been brought up in Sikhi and understand the importance of maintaining such things. I think in some cases where girls wish for a clean-shaven look is when they perhaps haven't been brought up around Sikhi and therefore don't have it as a preference in terms of looking for a partner. Equally I'm not passing judgements (each to their own) but I've seen cases where Amritdhari Singhs or Singh's with uncut Kes and beard are married to girls who cut their hair and don't particularly follow Sikhi so I definitely think it happens both ways. I am saddened that the whole Hollywood / Bollywood falling in love has taken over the idea of what marriage is as opposed to finding a spiritual partner to help you become at one with God. I guess where to look is to for you to consider what you really want from marriage and what you're looking for if it's just for dating maybe it's more harder to find someone but if it's for the long run and it is a life partner you want maybe as suggested use Gursikhi matrimonial sites or approach any Gurudwara that might have matrimonial services. But I don't think you should compromise your faith we're lucky to be born into Sikhi so it's a shame if people want to forget that for the sake of marriage.
  4. Hi all I was hoping to see a bit of advice and guidance on the issue of marriage and our young generation. I've been looking for a Gursikh partner for almost 2 years and I've been extremely disappointed by the potential suitors I've been on contact with. My view of marriage sometimes differs from the norm we are presented with in the media and on tv. I don't believe in the whole Hollywood/Bollywood romances and that the only way to declare ones love for another is through overblown gestures and words. My idea of marriage is to find someone on a similar spiritual journey to me so we are able to support each other to become at one with God. I also believe other factors as having things in common / similar and shared interests is highly important too - therefore the way in which a person looks seems irrelevant to me (I did say my view on marriage may differ to the norm). As I'm looking for more of a spiritual connection with someone I would have thought speaking and meeting with Gursikh / Amritdhari guys they would have a similar outlook however I've been well and truly disappointed. Once photos have been exchanged I've ever been ignored or guys have turned around and said no despite us getting along and agreeing we have things in common. I even had one guy say no because I was 3/4 inches shorter than him?! I apologise if this has turned into a bit of rant and making me sound a little bitter but I would have thought people are able to see past ones looks and look at what will actually help make a marriage work this whole process has frankly left me broken and extremely disheartened especially as the 'rejection' following a photo exchange has come from Amritdhari guys and I know this shouldn't make a difference but I would have expecting a different mentality and ones search for a partner to be more spiritually based. I guessed I just wanted your views on the above is it wrong to want to find and hope for that spiritual connection with someone or is everything all just based on looks nowadays?
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