Kaur922

Penji is right it is infatuation, a crush, lust. You don't know him apart from seeing him at work. You have to think he is not yours, which he is not. Tell ur heart to be strong, do ChaupAi Sahib ji path for strength. Jealousy, (irakha ) is taking over.

Think with ur head not ur heart. You can do it, don't give up every time ur heart feels that.

Waheguru is seeing your control and commitment. Yes that u won't be with wrong guy and also you are being vunerable and letting feelings emotions (bhavna) take over.

It's not ur fault you are young and at that age where u go through all these mixed emotions, and u have to show yourself you are strong and will not be led astray as people can take advantage of you also.

Put ur trust in God, every time you get those feelings think you are a human being and so much more to think about and do instead of thinking about a guy.

Have u tried doing Seva? If u put ur mind in other activities and talk to friends about other interests that will distract u from him.

The thing is penji you are spending a lot of time thinking about him and her and u need to get out of that. What u are doing now is idolising him. It may not sound nice to hear but u got to think about yourself dear. You have a job and see you are doing something with ur life, focus on ur work, it's not easy him being there, this is the test though, you can do this, u can make ur heart strong, u have nothing to lose.

Why worry over what isn't yours in the first place? Why do u feel like this? Maybe it's a blessing in disguise that's why u feel jealous, Gods showing you, giving u red flags so u don't hurt later on.

Don't worry and relax, you have to learn as u grow and u will do it.

Hello panjee..thank you for your comment...i do seva when i go to the gurudwara like wash the pande..it makes me feel better about myself and that i have done a good thing...i am 22..so pretty young for all that..i will do my best to forget him now....thanks for your comment.. bless

Thank you very much for your comment back and your wishes panjee.....best wishes

Look it is an infatuation which has no place in your life because you are on a much better path , don't lose your way he should be seen as a test of your commitment to Guru ji . You cannot have both; try to understand, to follow the guy you lose this janam, are you willing to risk going through lakh churasi joon which takes MILLIONS of years to get back to this human birth just for that?

No i am not ready for that...but how do i stop feeling heatbroken inside whenever i see them and when other collegues talk about them....what can i do in this situation...i know he isint right for me and not much of a sikh from the inside..but what is the best way to forget about him panjee.. ??

when you say he should be seen as a test for my commitment to guru ji.. you mean waheguru will see my commitment and that i won't be with a wrong sikh guy??

Thanks

The more you talk about him the less suitable he seems if he drinks a lot it is obvious he is interested in 'having a good time' not settling with anyone . What you are feeling sounds like a crush, you are young and it can happen but honestly if you try to follow through with this guy he will use your naivety against you and then probably dump you. Stay true to Guru ji, read about the Gursikh Men of our history then you will understand what kind of character a Sikh is supposed to have , that will help you realise what you really want: temporary affair or a happy fully committed life partner in SIkhi.

This kind of office Romeo are dime a dozen... you deserve the best ...

Thank you for your comment....he once kept looking at me as i was tlaking to my manager..and i wasn't as i was really shy..never talked to him.. but i see his facebook... you are right in what you say that he likes to have a good time and not a true sikh...thank you for your rply panjee..means a lot

Okay..sorry if i offend anyone...also i know that guru gobind singh ji said something of a sikh to marry a sikh only..and the anand kaaraj ceremony is a bliss between two sikhs, right?

panjee, thank you for your reply..

whenevr i see him my heart beats really fast ...i think i love him...how do i stop this feeling..

he drinks a lot....i see him at work...so might see him a couple of times...

Thanks

So i know that in sikhi we are meant to marry a sikh......

Apparently i am in love with this sikh guy and i saw him with his girlfriend and it has been burning me inside....how do i stop thinking of him....

He wears a pugh but cuts most of his dhari...i myself am very religiou and love being a sikh....

can someone copy and paste the translation from the guru granth sahib ji about sikh marry a sikh?

Thanks