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  1. Never knew things were this bad. I appreciated youth from poorer families were drawn to drugs for various reasons, but girls and those from affluent households too? I'm genuinely disturbed. Would I be incredibly short-sighted to say that an element of personal responsibility comes into play too? Please, anyone correct me if I'm wrong. I mean, outside the home I grew up in a very rough area where there was drugs, gang violence, basically standard English inner-city living. Throughout secondary school there was constant pressure to spark up, start drinking, do cannabis, and even try some of
  2. What you've highlighted, brother, is something that does my head in. We should hold Punjabis to the same standard as non-Punjabis. To not do so is hypocrisy at best, discrimination at worst. Picket the marriages of the Punjabi couple who treat the Anand Karaj as something to be overcome and tolerated for the sake of appearances; why just target the non-Sikhs?
  3. It's a tough situation, brother, there's no doubt about it. I'd love for people to discover the beauty in Sikhi and flock to its path of their own accord, but religion (as a whole, not just Sikhi) has an image problem in this day and age, with people conflating strict adherence to a religion with dogma and extremism, and most people just don't want to be seen as extremists of any variety. Equally, we can't bend over backwards and chop & change our ways (which, of themselves, are more than reasonable) in order to accommodate fickle individuals who want everything molded to their own desir
  4. That's the thing, brother, when a Muslim man marries a non-Muslim the overriding feeling is that she is now in the Muslim fold (unless the Muslim male is ultra relaxed in his adherence to Islam), and any children born as a result of that union will be raised as Muslims. And there you have their ever-increasing numbers.
  5. Yep, it's the numbers game unfortunately; numbers that the other faiths have in absolute abundance. If we carry on the way things are headed they'll be very little left of us. In an ideal world of justice and fair play, yes, we should be able to marry people of other backgrounds and bring them before Guru Sahib so they can pay their respects, and begin a lifelong journey of acquainting themselves with Sikhi. But we know that in reality once the formalities are over, aside from another wedding or a death, none of these individuals will ever step foot inside a Gurdwara, much less raise child
  6. I agree with the above in principle. I edited the rest of my post because I was generalising too much, lol.
  7. So why exactly do you wish to marry someone who you equate to something as simplistic as an animal? So it's a case of, "I'll marry you, but by God, I'm not happy about the circumstances in which I'm marrying you." I won't pretend to know how difficult your life has been, but if you want peace, then you need to relinquish your anger, because it's practically imbued in every word you write. If I can sense it without having met you I dread to think what vibes you're giving potential suitors when you meet them. Either way, good luck.
  8. You'll have to be careful you don't allow your festering resentment towards Singhs to come between you and a potential husband. Even on a subconscious level it'll be apparent to any guy you'll end up with that there's something not quite right. Although reading between the lines and judging the mood is hardly a strong suit of the sub-continental male. You'll be okay, just tone down the passive aggression.
  9. I think I'll post what and where I want. Unless you "own" this entire forum nothing is really "yours." I made a humourous (well to me at least) comment and moved on. You brought it up again. You can filter out the silliness and read the sensible suggestions. That's not too hard is it? It's not as if "your" thread was inundated with replies. Now you've gone and made me really want to post silly stuff. Like this:
  10. I'd never be ignorant to claim domestic abuse or even things of a more subtle nature don't occur in Sikh homes. I've heard stories, as we all have, but I've also heard the same stories about non-Sikhs too. I believe Sikh women are a lot more vocal and vociferous than the outside world gives them credit for. They aren't wallflowers in any sense of the word. That's why I get a bit miffed when I hear the likes of Hundal projecting issues that are far more common in other ethnic communities onto Sikhs, when he should know better.
  11. Buddasingh Ji, your words and the work you do are inspiring. It reminds me that words alone mean nothing, but it's actions that are the most important. Must try harder.
  12. Of course It was a comment, if anything, on the type of attitude most parents possess whereby someone else's children are considered to be less tolerable because they haven't been sired by that person, whereas one's own offspring can never do any wrong generally speaking. That kind of blind subjective attachment is what's wrong with the world today. "Me and my own" is the only thing that seems to matter to the vast majority of people. I've never been able to understand it.
  13. Preet Ji, there's a kernel of truth in all your points (from what I can discern in terms of Gurmat), but it's surrounded by layers of other stuff that I haven't a clue from where you've picked up. You're presenting the sum total of this strange mix of ideas and concepts as Sikhi, and it's really strange to read because I've never heard or seen anyone else ever come out with it. We're all constantly learning - some of us wish to learn all our lives - so why not study Gurbani and put everything else you've learnt out of your mind? You're still young. Don't tell me you have all the answers alrea
  14. His brother's ardasaa are being listened to I think, hehe. But seriously, Sikhs are on the whole very accommodating and chilled out, and trying to portay us as otherwise is quite devious.
  15. I knew a wonderful Singh a while back. He was morbidly obese, but not through gluttony, rather a myriad of psychological and mind boggling medical issues which rendered him as helpless as a child. Yet, the guy would never, ever sit on a chair in the Gurdwara. He would do his matha tek and sit down on the floor, and then struggle back up to his feet when he stood up. Remember, this Singh was pushing 40 stone (well over 500ibs). Yet, there's middle-aged women (not even elderly) who are otherwise galavanting around the town centre, but when it comes to the Gurdwara suddenly they can't sit down
  16. There's still hope for him yet. And honestly, I really don't know why some people get hyper about Sikh women being oppressed. I'm not saying there's not the odd bad egg who gets up to that kind of stuff, but there's many, many types of those people in other cultures and religions too. I can say with my hand on my heart I've yet to meet an oppressed Sikh woman either in the UK or abroad. In some ways I think they oppress Sikh men, lmao.
  17. A bit of a turbulent existence will do that to a person, hehe. A tolerance of silly, meaningless things that seem so incredibly important to most people will seem inconsequential to someone who has experienced the darker side of human nature and life. But it's too easy to succumb to being in a constant state of perpetual cynicism. Before you know you'll end up like Scrooge. Gotta keep it fresh and funny. Gurbani helps me in that respect to gain perspective. But most days my internal dialogue is shockingly harsh, lol.
  18. I dread to think what my avatar says about me, lmao.
  19. I suppose it's a manifestation of moh and ankhaar, two vices that are especially relevant when it comes to how we view loved ones and the blinkers that descend when we refuse to see anything remotely negative about that person. I went to school with a few children whose parents were constantly massaging their egos and their accomplishments, always cosying up to the teaching staff, etc. Funny thing was here I am, this rotund (at the time, lol) little Sikh kid who'd routinely outperform them in classes with no encouragement and involvement from my own parents (great parents but no idea about mo
  20. They weren't cowards, bro. Our 5th and 8th Gurus accepted death willingly at the hands of the Mughals. There was no kicking and screaming at facing death, but a calm acceptance of martyrdom. When one of our Guru's very own brother was summoned before the Mughal emperor to explain a passage from our scriptures which was less than flattering towards Muslims, this brother basically changed the meaning of the lines when offering his explanation, because he was afraid of being executed or something similar. When Guru Sahib discovered this cowardice, he - if my memory serves me correct (and someone
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