MisterrSingh

A more pertinent question is "Why do Sikhs / Panjabi guys get so worked up about a sport that systematically shuts them out from ever reaching the top of that sport?" The suggestion is that only White and Black players possess the inate skill to make it in football? That's complete balls, no pun intended. In the 80's and 90's the scouts and managers would churn out the old excuses like, "Indian parents want their kids to be doctors, lawyers, etc, hence why there's not many choose to from," or "Indians have a poor diet or they're vegetarians, as such they lack the nutrition to compete as athletes." Again, nonsense in this modern context. Aside from the odd Asian player in the leagues below the Premier League, it's a travesty, and one swallow doesn't make a summer. By cheering on these teams we are implicitly lending credence to the belief that we can cheer on from the sidelines like a bunch of gimps but we aren't good enough to play. As for the original question... because we're glory hunters.

Jagsaw gets a bit upset when Muslims are criticised. As such nothing he says I can ever take onboard when he displays such a sense of warped myopia. He's only a few steps away from declaring we should conveniently compartmentalise into antiquity what the Mughals put us through because it was such a long time ago and we should "move on." The Indians are snakes. Devious and mealy-mouthed, with a streak of cowardice that runs through them like no other group of people on earth. But don't allow people like Jagsaw to convince you that Muslims and their fundamental creed aren't a threat to us. They're the auld enemy for Sikhs, and that will never ever be erased. I'll never forget.

After giving it some thought I think there are karams, but not free will. Free will sounds lovely as a concept, but it suggests God is helpless in some situations.

Yeah, can't disagree with that at all. Most we can do is put it down as a lesson learnt and move on.

Matchmaker. Usually pronounced as "b'choleh"

I knew a very decent Gursikh lad who got married. He was of the opinion that sexual relations outside of the need to beget children was off limits. Unfortunately, his Singhni didn't see it that way and she left him after 10 months, citing the usual, "He never touched me." You just can't win with some people! What can you do in a situation like that? If one side has a sexual appetite that needs to be satiated on a regular basis, whilst the other has one eye on the bigger picture, then what's to be done? It's hardly the kind of question you can ask the vichole to pose, can you?

So these social developments are Waheguru's will? And if, as you say, free will isn't entirely free, then the aforementioned events, etc, are known to Him? So why are we complaining, lol? But seriously, I too have struggled to digest free will in Sikhi? Does anyone have access to katha which examines the subject?

Who have you been talking to? I'll have you know that child is loved! I've named him Jagdeep Snow.

I've always wondered from a spiritual level: is this all hukam or Man exercising free will? And if there is no free will, then where's this coming from, especially since we Sikhs believes not even a leaf can stir in a breeze without the will of Akal Purakh?

Well you can physically have children outside of marriage.

Yep, they have incredible issues when it comes to sexuality, even hetero norms. But that could also be because we're viewing it from our perspective.

What if they want to get married and lead a dharmic life?

Where's did 'trans' come from? :o

Exactly! That's what I've come to realise. Gurbani is the great emancipator. It frees the mind and lifts the veil that clouds our mind and our judgement. It's why I feel so negative towards Baba / Jatha culture, because I truly think Sikhs lack the emotional intelligence to adhere to something without it becoming dogmatic and divisive. Without knowing, we've placed more obstacles between us and Akal Purakh when we should be eliminating as many as we can. Why would you willingly wander down a longer path when the destination is within touching distance? People invest too much emotion and effort in these leaders and personalities, and the thought of making it on their own terrifies them because they lack one essential ingredient: belief. I find the ones who shout the loudest do so to convince their own harrying conscience. But that's another matter entirely. My advice to Sikhs would be to raise disciplined and level-headed children. Instill a strong ethic of self-sufficiency. Encourage them to hone their minds; not everyone has the aptitude for book smarts, but that's no excuse for ignorance. Ensure physical fitness is a part of daily life. More than anything, guide them towards Sikhi and Gurbani; don't blackmail them or indoctrinate, but allow them to discover the beauty and the strength in Sikhi. To follow willingly and from the heart is the only way. Only once the above is achieved do we have a chance of navigating the tough times ahead of us all.

That's one question I'm honestly still trying to figure out. It's a very good question: what is masculinity in the context of everyday life? The agenda, as you mention, is to make us compliant and weak... well, the unwashed masses that is. I don't think the wealthy and well-connected have as much to worry about as the normal folk. To what end? I have no idea. Although if such plans come to fruition in the next 100 or 200 years and society will break down and become so terribly fractured on the grounds of race, religion, and gender that it'll be rendered chaotic and practically useless, then what's the point of any of it?

Whilst nobody is denying that some women have it tough (to put it lightly) at the hands of some men who lack certain principles and common sense, feminism serves to tar every man with the same brush unless he yields to its inflexible ideals. Under the guise of liberalism and progressiveness, the very notion of masculinity is under attack; it's called misandry and it's a very real and current problem facing men worldwide, particularly those in the west. Whilst nobody is defending the deadbeat fathers or the male equivalent of the "cheap and easy" for whom life is one big joke and women are mere playthings for their amusement - of which there are many - a hell of a lot of good men are being made to feel as if they should be ashamed of simply being themselves. There is a systematic yet incredibly subtle attack going on masculinity (and has been occurring for a few decades now) with the end result being the gradual emasculation of men. Whether women baulk at such a suggestion or dismiss it as paranoia because it somehow lessens their feminist cause is their choice, but the results are everywhere. The methods of attack? The media is the primary weapon of choice for the dissemination of such insidious propaganda. Outside of the media - which can be ignored if someone is incredibly wilful and determined not to succumb to its charms - the law has stacked the cards against the male. An example: does anyone from the UK recall that issue from last week when a woman absconded with her young child when she was ordered by a court to hand over custody of her son to her ex-partner? This woman fabricated claims against the father knowing full well they were untrue, so that she could gain sole legal custody. An investigation concluded that the mother had co-erced her little boy into backing up her lies. So, on the day of the ruling, with the help of her own mother and other people sympathetic to her cause, she runs off with her kid. Now this is where it gets interesting. The mother and her supporters used the media in order to highlight her case, painting her as the victim, as if there'd been a huge miscarriage of justice when all along she'd slandered and accused her ex-partner in order to paint him as an unfit father! But such was their complete confidence in the bias of the media they thought people's sympathies could be preyed upon if she did a runner for a while. She should've been sent to jail on her return, but the sob stories she weaved whilst she was on the run made the front pages of the Mail and Sun, and when she emerged from hiding she was let off any jail time. That's one exampke. Imagine how many countless cases never make the news. This isn't a "life is tough for men" plea or anything of the sort. I know being male has its benefits, and there are genuine problems for girls and women that are swept under the rug. But this modern bastardisation of feminism that even some d1ckless men are adopting is not the answer to providing justice and fairness for all.

This is a very complex issue but in some ways it isn't. You say you adore your hair and it makes you feel free, but guys are not accepting of this. If that's true then don't get married. If I had to compromise my beliefs in order to get married I would never do it. The question is do you have the strength of mind and determination to see out your life on your own? Because that's what it boils down to ultimately. It's a cruel world full of confused and cruel people. Don't let these nobodies dictate your actions and thoughts. What you suggest of cutting it to snare a husband and then hoping he sees the light and is OK with you regrowing it is fantasy; you'll compromise your Sikhi for a man? Nah, not worth it, sis.

It is Dubai after all. The Gurdwara is playing nice. Not saying I agree with it.

I find it amusing when the loyal chele of whichever so-called holy man has been caught red-handed doing things he shouldn't, start quoting the line, "Sant ki ninda, Nanaka, bahur, bahur avtaar." Am I wrong in saying the above line isn't literally saying, "Never criticise a Sant else you'll be stuck in the cycle of life and death," but it's more along the lines of, "Don't fabricate untruths in order to slander someone who is of a saintly disposition, i.e. a good person." Unless the meaning is actually literal? Either way, slander - justified or not - is nonsense. Human nature loves to revel in someone's downfall. It's easy to get drawn into gossip and such things. Highlight injustice and wrong doing, but don't rub your hands in glee at getting the opportunity to stick the boot into someone. That's undignified.

Kaam. It's dangerous stuff. The guy sounds like a complete tool BTW.

Yeah, I've come across so many of those. I mean fair play if they like that Christmassy feeling and they're integrated into whichever western society they're a part of. But at least try to teach your children about the essential Sikh dates and who the notable figures are on such occasions, etc. But they just don't want to know. It's like complete resistance to their own religion, as if their precious kids will get polluted with such knowledge. Some of these are good people, but when it comes to things like this I can only shake my head in disbelief. People knock some Gursikhs for various reasons such as their exclusivity and occasional haughtiness, but at least they'll pass on the relevant knowledge about Gurpurabs, etc, to their kids. Without them Sikhi would die out eventually. BTW, I'm not bigging myself up before anyone chimes in, lol.

There actually is a dinosaur (or was and they've named it after digging up its fossils) called Pakisaurus. That's hilarious. In the film, I'm guessing as I haven't seen it, there's a pack of these Pakisaurus'.The Irish use "Packie" as the shortened version of the name Patrick too.

I see, bro. Sometimes I need things spelling out for me, hehe, other times I'm more than fine. My brain gets tired very easily, lol. I wasn't getting your gist earlier on.