Dear sangat ji reading this and op, sat sri akal ji,
the 'divorce' you are talking about is part of the maya as is the 'marriage' that happened.
True gursikh 'marriage' never happened in the first place.
Humbly implying, it comes to divorce if the marriage didn't happen with gurbani in the heart.
If you a true gurmukh(as opposed to manmukhs, not as opposed to hair trimmers) then the marriage would have lead to spiritual growth of both partners. Even if one succumbs to one's ego and does undesirable acts, the other gursikh partner acts as the saint and the soldier to defeat it out of their life, under the guidance of bani.
Those undergoing a divorce situation should take a little bit time off, read sggs until the doubts are cleared and reflect upon the beginnings of the marriage and whether it was a marriage in accordance with gurbani? It will clear doubts and show the right path.
As to the question of in the eyes of god, god is not away from you.
Hukam is personal, so divorce being righteous cannot be generalized.
For eg; if there is adultery then it means at the time of marriage the present parties didn't understand the first laava, that says,
ਬਾਣੀ ਬ੍ਰਹਮਾ ਵੇਦੁ ਧਰਮੁ ਦ੍ਰਿੜਹੁ ਪਾਪ ਤਜਾਇਆ ਬਲਿ ਰਾਮ ਜੀਉ ॥
baanee brahamaa vedh dharam dhiraRahu paap tajaiaa bal raam jeeau ||
So the partners didn't remember that they have to renounce sinful acts.
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Guruji provides four steps on how one's soul can marry the lord in that song on pg 773 of sggs that is ritually read as 4 laavan.
1st round: Renouncing sinful acts brings fortune and happiness
2nd: Understanding the primal being(purakh), the fearless(nirbhau) ego is destroyed and one hears the unstruck sound (anhad naad)
3rd: Meeting the saints, their baani speaking of the unsaid speech(akath kahani), one understands the root(hari) and is filled with love
Finally: As a gurmukh(absorbed in truth) absorbed in the sweetness, one finds peace and the soul blends(liv layi) with the indestructible.
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Both, anger and expectation of love from one's partner(krodh and mamta) are pains of egotism says gurbaani.
