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anma

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  1. I know, right? lol ... I'm sorry though about what you had to undergo; I'm grateful my husband never had any need for that.. is why I posted my story to begin with. Blessings for you
  2. this.so.much... what I got from talks with girl friends and relatives who had watched those turkish series and soap operas (which I tried to watch to make my own opinion) is that when having a bad day, it serves as a sort of escape: "at least I was not forced to marry nor sold by my father to become the wife of a man I've never met", "at least I'm not beaten nor shouted at a regular basis", etc, pretty much like "my life is not so bad after all when I compare it with these grim, miserable ones"... but I consider them negative examples, not really inspiring, in terms of how most female characters on those soaps are divided between the "good ladies", martyrs (often to the point of idiocy) who endure all types of suffering, humilliation, beatings, etc, with total resignation, and their only way out is being rescued by a "white knight" (such a great example for young girls), always dependant... while the "evil ones" (who are smarter, but use their intelligence for evil, who even become popular due to their bad antics) spend their whole time plotting, scheming, and in general being nasty to other women in a perpetual game to gain the attention and favours from guys (a horrible example to follow)... and is not a surprise coming from a cultural frame which keep women relegated as second class persons, because promote the idea that to thrive in life they either have to put other women down, or wait passively to "be rescued", instead of promoting sorority, helping each other to learn things to make things happen based on their own inner strength, empowering them into taking control of their own life to become proper companions and partners of their men on an equal ground, being intelligent and virtuous... The historical ones may have high production standards, but just thinking at how those Ottoman hordes would end raping and slaving whole populations as they did (and Christians were not that much better at that time tbh) is not appealing for me to enjoy, and is certainly well crafted propaganda..
  3. well... I think I've used a gentle approach while writing, and haven't used any offensive, rude or gross terms, have I? ... and felt quite liberating to share views which I kept in private before, hoping it can be helpful for other couples or single men looking for their first experience, knowing there's nothing wrong with being natural, hoping to provide them reassurance and comfort... and that makes me comfortable enough to overcome my otherwise naturally reserved demeanor
  4. I agree with the thought that removing skin is not the answer, other solutions should be tried instead, and homeopathy can be one of them; a girl friend of mine who is a dermatologist shared with me some very interesting facts about the male foreskin, and upon learning those it really opened my eyes about how important is for both men and females to care about every part of our bodies... she explained how the foreskin is not really "skin", but just only in the surface, in the outside layer.. the inner side, the layer which stays in contact with the red shiny head, and which also has a pink colour itself, is pure sensitive mucous tissue, like the eyelids or the inside of the mouth, and is actually identical to the tissue which surrounds the clitoris and fills the inner labia for females (which is very sensitive itself), thus is filled with thousand of nerves meant to enhance the feelings in intercourse, and whose friction over the head causes a man to produce more abundant natural lubrication, providing deeper fulfilment for both parts... is why that zone should always be washed only with plain slightly warm water, avoiding soaps which cause irritation and are mostly responsibles of swelling in the skin due to their acidic ph, and special care should be put into keeping the foreskin naturally moist, since over-washing can lead to dryness and cracks which result in tears on the tender skin; to keep the moisture, aloe vera and coconut oil are great helpers... with those basic tips the foreskin should always stay in perfect condition, all natural and meant to enhance the enjoyment and erogenous communication for couples
  5. hello.. I'm a bit shy for being a woman and talking on this subject (so please, forgive me), but I thought of adding my little experience from the other side, as wife, since my husband has the same condition of tight skin, but which has not been a problem at all (and we've been gifted with two beautiful healthy sons); I'd certainly would never disclose any intimacy from my husband, but the anonimacy of this forum, along with an intend to share an experience which could benefit other couples, compeled me to write this.. When we first became intimate with each other, intercourse was a bit difficult for him, very similar to what OP said, but after a few attempts he found the right way, an easy technique which has worked wonderfully, so he never had to endure doing any stretching (nor any painful, traumatic surgery): it meant he just had to hold the base of his virility, and push the skin forwards from there, right when he was inserting, and once inside is all good... this way any forced pull down was prevented, and he never endures any pain nor discomfort ever since.. I thought it could be worth trying for OP.... As a partner, perhaps is because I love my husband and I always want to be supportive of him, while also thinking that all parts of our bodies are beautiful and perfect as they are, then I find his tight skin is part of who he is, just like his long beard or his hair (which I love), and would never want him to change any part of his (at least, not for my sake), I like feeling him "whole" in that way, fully uncut as he was born; that said, I do wonder if the phimosis couldn't be a visible sign of celibacy for men? I always thought it could be correlated with my husband's practice of strict abstinence during his younger days; he told me once how he avoided since his teens falling into the habit of masturbation (he rarely did it, and now he seems even less likely to, since as a married man, he enjoys plenty) and channeled those urges instead into his studies and sports (he excelled on kabbadi and wrestling, growing strong and masculine), and if all that is indeed related, I can't see anything bad on having a tight skin.. maybe it does mean it has grown his manhood the most pure, reserved for a woman only.. at least is how I see his member, making me appreciate it more; and perhaps what is truly needed is that guys learn those techniques which allow the enjoyment for couples on the most natural way, far from the damaging influence of pornography which treats human sexuality as a consumption good, setting unrealistic expectations... At last, the phimosis is not a problem for cleansing either, my husband takes good care of his hygiene, and is easy to flush slightly warm water through the skin opening (a rubber bulb is quite practical for that, the same type used to wash ear wax), thus it can be rinsed easily without any need to force the skin down; from a girl friend who is a dermatologist I learnt how soaps are made with such strong chemicals which damage the delicate tissue on genitals, which is not regular skin but mucous tissue, like the eyelids (actually soaps cause bad smell and irritations there), both on men and females, and thus is best to stick to plain water only.. if OP suffered from inflamation, maybe is due to applying soaps and forcing the skin too much? .. aloe vera has been known for naturally helping to restore the balance on skin areas, that could help as well.. I wish OP and all you guys all the best, and I just hope my little insight can be helpful for someone else.
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