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Dear Sat Sangat, I need your serious help on caste issue that I am having. I am Sikh male, 30+ and been dating a girl since past 7 months. We both live here in the states and really love each other. I met her parents and her sister family twice and they all liked me. She is from Sikh Jat caste and I am from Sikh Khatri. Although, I and her do not believe in caste system. My parents are completely okay whoever I can end up with. Her mom had issue with caste initially but she still met me and I guess that faded the caste issue for her. Her dad is completely fine with us but has less say in things. The problem is her uncle (mama) from india has a strong opposition on the caste issue. Her mom called off the whole things by saying her brother do not agree with our marriage. Her mom said she tried to convince her younger brother but he is not agreeing to this. She also says her brother had threaten to break all the ties with her if this happens. So, this is the dilemma. My girl and I are deeply heartned with this news and very depressed. She and I are still talking everyday and still love each other. She does not have any hopes and wants to support her mother decision. I respect her for listening to her mom but I don't believe this is right choice. I mean why the caste is a such huge issue. One side people believe in Sikhism and pride themselves to be part of Sikh yet goes completely against foundations of Sikhism. I am vey depressed with this situation and I do not know what should I do. I do not want to marry someone else. I would rather stay single. Please share your thoughts on what I should do to make this happen. Kindly apprecieated your help. Thanks!