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    Social anxiety and shyness

    Waheguru ji ka khalsa Waheguru ji ki fateh I am a 17 yr old amritdhari sikh boy . I have been struggling with extreme shyness, social anxiety and introversion as long as i could remember . I was always insulted by school seniors , students and other people. I never said anything wrong to anyone but still had to suffer from all this stuff. Nowadays, i am even so scared to leave my house . I always remain tense and anxious whenever am in my house or outside . Everyone of my neighbours , relatives seems like hating me or thinking weird about me . I dont know what to do . I recently have completed my 12th class . Now i would have to go abroad for higher education . But i am so afraid and terrified even at the thought of leaving my home and settling there in abroad . I have tried stone hard to change myself but constantly failed . I just dont know what to do and how to behave . I am just so anxious and shy that all times i just remain quiet . Please anyone suggest me what to do.
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    Suffering & Depressed

    I’m not sure where to start or where to begin. I am due to get married and live together with my partner soon. I have recently lost my job. I have been praying to Waheguru all week to help me but nothing has helped. In fact I don’t know why this is happening. I have prayed to Waheguru on a daily and wished him to help me but I just feel like it has gone in the opposite direction. I have spoken to my partner and she has reassured me that things will get better but I just don’t want to be here anymore. I feel so hopeless. Everyday I chant Waheguru to myself through the day weather I’m leaving to go somewhere to I’m about to do something. Why am I feeling like this? My body is so drained and sad. I literally shake on a daily basis over the past 3 days and have cried everyday. I have even taken off my Kura because I just feel so hopeless. What have I done to deserve this. I have always believed in do good to receive good. I don’t smoke and I do drink occasionally only if there is functions here and there. I want to just feel normal again. I have contacted my doctors but they just want to refer me to get therapy and give me medicine which I condone. My family is Sikh although they are not Amrit dhari they still have strong Sikh beliefs. I attend the Gurdwara when there is an occasion or when something good happens. My main question here today is to know what I should do, my family don’t believe in depression and in fact they look at it the wrong way. I don’t want to suffer anymore I just want Waheguru to help me. I’m 22 years old I don’t know which Paath I should listen to that can help me. I can speak and understand Punjabi but cannot read it. Is there anything I should read or listen or even do that can help me. I never thought I would suffer like this so young but sometimes I just don’t want to even be here. What can I do for Waheguru to help me I don’t want to turn to bad things such as alcohol abuse because I still believe in god deep down. is there any Shabad I can listen to that can help me feel calmer and happier. is it wrong to listen to Phaath through my headphones if I go to the gym? I hope someone can reach out and guide me in what I can do as I do want to learn more about my religion. I do the mool mantra but I only know up to Nanak Hosi Pi Sach. I’m Sorry if I mis spelt or have been rude.
  3. Hi everyone, I’m not sure if anyone else has mental illnesses or issues but I’m diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety. I think I have BPD too to an extent but never got that tested. Anyway does anyone else have any mental health problems. Don’t you feel that the Sikh community literally does not care at all if you’re struggling mentally and instead hide it or look down on you or pretend you don’t exist? For example a lot of Punjabi parents will straight up deny the existence of depression. I think this isn’t good because it octracises like 5% of our population…
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    Has any one here overcome anxiety issues? Interested to hear what worked?
  5. Guest

    Am I wrong? Advise please

    Vjkk Vjkf, Sorry for how long this is in advance I'm really struggling and could do with some advice. quite a few years ago I lost my mother to cancer. After she passed away I didnt think about her too much because I guess it was easier to block out the pain rather than think about her condition deteriorating and no longer being here also I didnt have any stresses of life at the time and so it didnt hit me that hard then. about 3/4 years later as I started working harder I started becoming more stressed and this is when depression and anxiety hit me. After a few months I started to take anti depressants and then I spiraled out of control completely. I overdosed multiple times, I self harmed drank smoke at times. I was also gambling heavily. During this period I wasnt taking the medication properly and I pushed my close family away. I harassed a girl which made me feel 100 times worse as I felt so guilty and eventually got in trouble with the law. I have gotten much better over time as I was advised I was misdiagnosed and shouldn't have been given those anti depressants especially which were such a high dosage. I havent drank/smoke or gambled for over a year or so. My relationships with my immediate family have gotten better over time also thankfully. I know myself deep within that despite some of my bad actions/choices it wasn't really me so I've gotten better at forgiving myself. However I'm still affected as I don't have any friends now my family all have wives/husbands and kids and I can't talk to my dad about how I feel as he is from India and he doesnt understand emotions. i dont know who to talk to and I keep hoping that this relationship I had with this girl will get better over time. She is now married but I didnt really care about that I was just happy that she was initially regularly communicating with me during my initial depression stage. She has completely blocked me off and i'm not allowed to contact her. I used to know her initially from Saturday school and had multiple friends in common. When I was struggling I was just really hoping that I could always help her or support her when ever I needed because I saw her in such a positive light. That harassing was due to me being sorry and wanting her to realise that i wasnt in the right frame of mind. I've never fallen out with anyone before this and the fact that i know she gets a long with other people i know makes me feel weird now. I constantly think of her and miss her which I know sounds wrong but its my depression kicking in telling me there is something wrong with me. I dont view her in any other way than a sister but as I've caused her a lot of stress I care about her more and every time she hurts me its like I think this isn't really her and she is only putting an act on because her parents don't want me to have anything to do with her. I know I should spend more time dedicating myself to sikhi but a part of me feels angry and upset and alone. Growing up in an Amritdhari family and going to keertan programmes when I was younger I've always had a wish to take Amrit hence why i've never cut my hair/beard off. I only know japji sahib which i was taught by mummy ji to do but I have an issue whereby I dont fully do it e.g. sometimes I would just listen to and I want to Amrit someday but when I start reading Jaap Sahib after 6-7 mins I struggle to continue and feel like its dragging on. I do simran when I wake up and at night. What would you recommend I do? Am I a bad person for still thinking/hoping this relationship with this girl would become better and I would feel better about myself? Is this attachment even though I have no desire to spend my life with her and it hurts badly when I think about it? I'd appreciate any advice you can give. Vjkk Vjkf
  6. WJKK WJKF! Recently I've been delving myself into the Sri Guru Granth Sahib slowly. All my life I've had issues with anxiety, not so extreme, but to the point that it causes great pain and suffering. I am always thinking that people are talking about me behind my back and that I am a victim of being targeted by co-workers. I have serious trust issues, especially sometimes with my own family. This is probably coming from my childhood upbringing (most likely). I want to understand this through the lense of the Sri Guru Granth Sahib and really overcome it. I've been trying to do more naam simran and it has helped put my mind at peace while I am doing it. I definitely need to incorporate more of it into my life. I learned about the costs of slandering others through the SGSS. I am consciously making choices not to gossip about others and slander others, however there are times that I do fail but I catch myself and ask Waheguru to keep me on the right path. Just even typing this brings great peace as I am reaching out for support from the online sangat. One thing I read was "Let your hopes and anxieties depart..Everyone asks for happiness; no one asks for suffering. But in the wake of happiness; there comes great suffering. The self-willed manmukhs do not understand this. Those who see pain and pleasure as one and the same find peace; they are pierced through by the word of the Shabad." Am I supposed to in some way embrace the pain and see it one as the same as pleasure? I consider myself a decent human being. Trying to keep myself aligned with the teachings of our Gurus day by day but it is an uphill battle with my own mind. I hate feeling anxious. I hate having conflicts with people because of my trust issues. I am trying to think about Love for the Lord and Love for all of his creations.
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    Depression, Help

    Sat sri akal, I am a Sikh but have been brought up in a western society so I do not speak punjabi well or follow sikhi as much as I could have. I am depply depressed and have severe social anxiety due to certain situations that have occured in my life. I am quite young, in my early 20s and I am struggling to see how I can live the rest of my life out when I am so scared of leaving the house. I hate myself in all facets and hence have no self esteem. I currently see a psychologist and a psychiatrist which has helped a little bit, but I don't think it can help me that much in order to allow me to live again. I have always believed in waheguru but have not done enough praying or anything of that sort. I can read punjabi/gurbani but I do not understand the words. I don't know what to do to get myself out of this. Suicide thoughts run through my mind but I don't want to do it and I realise that it is an unnatural death. Any help would be great, I'd like to become more religious and try and find god. I am just a mess so I don't know what else to say. Would me going to Punjab and living there for a few months be beneficial as I would be surrounded by sikhi all the time?
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    I am very anxious about a part of my life. I am in love with a girl and keep asking Waheguru if she is the one. I am constantly putting her name on a slip of paper, and placing nothing onto another slip. I then do Ardass and draw the slips as a sign of Waheguru's hukum. I sometimes draw multiple times so that I can get my desired outcome. I believe this is a false practice but have no other way ro reduce my anxiety. Need help plz
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