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Hello, I will start with the fact that I'm a (male) teenager living in Denmark. Officially I'm a non-confirmed Catholic but mostly I was describing myself as an Agnostic. At my school I have religion lessons but it's not so much about Christian religion as it is learning about any other religions. We had one lesson about Sikhism and I thought that the men wearing swords is an interesting thing and I began to make some research about it. Since then I was reading really a lot about it and I'm very fascinated about it, since then I have a very great feeling that I found something for myself. I really don't like the world like it is today, especially in Denmark (a Protestant country so not very religious) where people are beginning to party, drink alcohol and have sex when they reach the age of 13-14. I'm not such person so I don't really fit in the society, I'm a virgin which in a year or two might be seen as odd. I'm thinking about a conversation, the ideology Sikhism is presenting seems perfect for me, it exactly matches my view on the world. I'm still quite confused about everything, I read a lot of FAQ's about it and I would still like to ask someone who is a Sikh about an advice. I'm not an adult and it would be really hard to change my religion while my whole family is quite religious Christian (Catholic and Danish family Lutheran), could I do some steps in terms of Sikhism before becoming an adult and converting? I rather do such thing after I get independent, I don't really imagine my life today with Sikh looks. I also want to mention that I was able to get confirmed 2 times and soon there will be a third "round" but there is always something wrong and I couldn't, I feel like it might be like this with a reason, destiny or something. By the way I'm 15 and I still feel young for such decisions but still I'm confident, as a Christian I was able to confirm my faith already 2 years ago. I also would like to ask about few things: 1. Hair, I completely understand it and I'm ready to do not cut it, of course official texts say a lot about not cutting it but how is it in every-day life? When I type in Google "Sikh man" it also shows me men who definitely cut their beards a little. There is also the hygiene thing, today almost all women shave their armpits and other places, are Sikh women doing it as well? 2. Turbans, I read that men take them off just when going to sleep and taking a bath but again they are the strict rules, how is it in practice? 3. Food, I read a lot of information which is saying different things, I understand that vegetarianism is recommended but I think it also might depend on the place you are from, the religion has got origins in India where carbohydrate-based diet was the whole time but in Europe it's different - people are used to fat-based diet. I'm thinking about reducing the amount of meat I'm eating. I thought that fish (white meat) would be preferred than red meat but I read a text where it was compared to drugs - WHY? I wanted to ask here first but I'm thinking about going to a Gurdwara (there is a very small one near me) but then who should I ask and how should I behave there? I can speak Danish but not really on any serious topics, as probably the Sikhs in Denmark are foreigners I guess I could feel free to speak English? What do you think about my case? It was a lot of writing, thanks for all the answers