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**Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh** Link to original question Satsangat Ji, a brother needs help on another forum which isn't that active. He says he is fed up and want to cut his hair and even might commit suicide. **Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh** His question: Please forgive me if i missed to cut out any swear words.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh Some times when I can't concentrate on Path, I force my self to and then my head starts hurting. Then It gets really hard to carry on. Also I wanted to know that sometimes its difficult for me to recall meanings of banis, and then I start feeling down after I force my self to remember. Does Guru Ji care if on somedays when this happens I just like close my eyes and recite his banis ? Also am i right in thinking I have no power, about concentrating and remembering the meanings of banis. It will all come one day with his grace. Also is it ok if I spread Nitnem through out the day, instead of reciting it all in one sitting? Please forgive me if i said anything wrong offensive or wrong. Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

Guys, What should I do? A younger kid was forced to do pesh for amrit program by an adult by pushing harrasing and following him to place where it was held. When asked about kurehits he believed he didn't do any. Seemed like he was very afraid. However I think it may have been wrong and possibly have. He was put into panj pyare. He told me all this on the phone crying. Im not sure what to do. I've asked elders and they say he should go to panj pyare and tell them what happened and they can decide best advice. Any thoughts?

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh Recently negative thoughts have been destroying me inside. I feel like these thoughts are breaking me inside. I was so blessed by Guru Ji that over the year I was blessed with the gift of Kesh, I started to read some banis. But now I feel stuck/blocked. I can't even do Japji Sahib in less than 45 minutes, because either negative thoughts pop-up in my head, I worry about if im pronouncing Guru Ji's bani properly or Im not concentrating properly. And now doing path seems less sweet to me, It is getting harder to do. I just don't want to fall of the path. I love Sikhi and Guru Ji but im falling now. I can't ignore these thoughts anymore, it starting to hurt my head know. The way i do my banis is I go on YouTube and follow to my best the word by word videos, I wish i could do them from the Gutka Sahib Ji but if I do it would take me about 45 minutes to do Japji Sahib, and I have to go study as well. Im having so much trouble waking about at Amirt Vela, I sleep at 1am wake up and waste a lot of time in the shower thinking and getting ready I start doing path at like 11am. I sleep at 1am because, I have to study and haven't sat down and follow Guru Ji's bani so I have to do it latter. But I can't seem to sleep early and do my banis early. My exams are coming up as well, so I really need help balancing my time. Through out the day my mind says to say this bani for example some of the Rags from Kirtan Sohila, but it takes me ages to do say it becuase of thoughts coming in my end and me worrying about if i am saying it correctly, our if i understood the meaning. That it takes me a long time, and If i dont say it i feel guilty. I don't know what to do. Its so hard when I don't feel like doing a bani. I might not be able to do 5 banis properly in my life If i continue like this. And I hope Guru Ji blesses me so i can take Amirt. Please forgive this fool, if i said anything wrong or offensive. May Guru Ji bless you all. Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

VJKK VJKF Sangat ji, I took amrit when I was 15 and have since done kurehits - sexual relationship, drugs, alcohol and cigarettes a few years ago. Got my Sikhi back in line and connected with the Guru 4/5 years ago and the time has come for me to retake amrit as I am so much stronger now and in my early 30s to do so and keep rehit (I was in a weak and low point in life at uni when this all started) What do I say to the Panj Payre at the Amrit Sanchar? I tie a dhumalla - they put Amrit in Kesh so open top parna without boongah on the day? Need help especially by people that have gone pesh. Thank you all. VJKK VJKF.

Wjkk Wjkf When are the dates for the next Amrit Sanchar at the Gurdwara on Soho Road? I heard it was every 4 weeks but can anyone clarify? Wjkk Wjkf

Hello, I need help. I am a bad sikh. I don't work at the moment. I am on employment and support allowance which is for people who are unfit for work. I am claiming this at the moment for my mental health problem. I am only volunteering a couple of days a week. If I am honest, I don't want to work. I don't know what's wrong with me. I am apparently sad and weird which I believe is true. I sit at home and read stuff on the internet about religion and don't do anything productive. I find life hard. I am lazy. I can't face my problems like a man. I avoid being responsible. I wish I was one of the winners in life who everybody loved but it feels like people want to stay away from me. I don't talk much. I feel down and negative and angry. I am a coward. I used to walk with my head down. I now have been keeping it up. I had a good start in life, I think. I had alot going for me like I went to grammar school, then I got into Birmingham University to do computer science, but I couldn't handle it so I took a year out. I then worked at HSBC but didn't like it. I stayed there until I was going to begin Business computing and IT at Aston University. I don't think many people liked me at HSBC. I went to Aston and my four year course took me six years. It included a placement year which I messed up. I was running out of time to get a placement and a friend of mine who was my age was beginning a business. He helped me out and gave me an unpaid placement. It was a poor placement. I did the final year of university and left with a lower second. I am 30 years old. I finished university in 2009. I did some internships, voluntary work, then some paid warehouse work and now I am volunteering again. I think my personality is not strong. I am not proud of myself of the 'sikh' I am. I feel hopeless. I can't man up. I took amrit when I was 20 but I did not stick to rehat. I did read bani and study at university, etc but was not firm in rehat, i.e amrit vela. I even did kurehats of eating meat and trimming my beard. I now keep my beard and am vegetarian since ages. I read Japji Sahib after I wake up which is at 8am, and I read rehiras and do sohila before bed. However I am a lustful person who looks at bad stuff on the internet. But less than before. Today I felt so crap. I think I get angry when I have to do some work. It just seems so hard. I did ardas recently. I tried from the bottom of my heart to ask for the right things, just what it says in ardas and to keep me from the five evils. I also said to waheguru to bless me so that I always thirst for his darshan. I read at a gurdwara that Guru Ji encourages us to make this plea to waheguru so I try to do it from the bottom of my heart whenever I do ardas. I am a dull loser. I feel like I've been lost since I was young. I have no vision or dream. Can't see the positive side of life, or the good in life. I hate myself. I have a rubbish personality. I'm mentally weird. I want to look at bad stuff late into the night. What was the point of me? I am ashamed of whatever I am. Can anyone help?

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh This question is not being asked by me, but was posted on a different website. Heres the link I was wondering if the Sangat here can respond to his question, as this is a more active community, and probably can answer this much better than me. Heres is whole question: Please forgive me if i had said anything wrong or offensive Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

WJKK WJKF !! sadh sangat ji, i heard from someone say "curling dhadi" what does that mean ??? and how do they curl a dhabi so its perfect i was interested and wanted to know anyone has done it before or still doing it ? please let me know with a video or etc and if you do it and want to show me how Ill give you my whatsapp number ! thank you ji Wjkk WJKF

Hello, I need some help and guidance on how to control my urges. I know it's a disgusting habit and is lustful but I keep thinking about it. I've tried a few things including paat and simran but it hasnt worked so far. Do you have anything I could try to keep my mind clear of these thoughts and urges? Admin Note: Edited

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa Waheguru ji ki Fateh Dear Sangat, is there anyone in Delhi who can please help me, I need some moral and translation support. I'm not from a sikh family. Following a spiritual calling I became a sikh and I've faced extreme harassment and bullying from "family" members. I currently have no choice but to put up with having to reside in their home as I'm transitioning between careers and have nowhere else to go. Also I'm a native English speaker and do my best to speak hindi/punjabi, but quite honestly my broken punjabi leads me to being treated either suspiciously or condescendingly at any gurdwara. Mostly people I come across are rich stuck up "Sardars" who couldn't give a bit about anything holy, or are simply too culturally backwards to want to offer any assistance. I'm at my wits end. I hardly know anyone in this city to begin with. The handful of people I did know have turned their back on me after I became a sikh. So i need someone to help be my translator and offer me some moral support. I'm also in need of genuine sikh friends in Delhi. If you can help please reply. I will send to a pm. Thanks Waheguru ji ka Khalsa Waheguru ji ki Fateh

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa Waheguru ji ki Fateh Dear Sangat, is there anyone in Delhi who can please help me, I need some moral and translation support. I'm not from a sikh family. Following a spiritual calling I became a sikh and I've faced extreme harassment and bullying from "family" members. I currently have no choice but to put up with having to reside in their home as I'm transitioning between careers and have nowhere else to go. Also I'm a native English speaker and do my best to speak hindi/punjabi, but quite honestly my broken punjabi leads me to being treated either suspiciously or condescendingly at any gurdwara. Mostly people I come across are rich stuck up "Sardars" who couldn't give a bit about anything holy, or are simply too culturally backwards to want to offer any assistance. I'm at my wits end. I hardly know anyone in this city to begin with. The handful of people I did know have turned their back on me after I became a sikh. So i need someone to help be my translator and offer me some moral support. I'm also in need of genuine sikh friends in Delhi. If you can help please reply. I will send to a pm. Thanks Waheguru ji ka Khalsa Waheguru ji ki Fateh

Waheguru Ji Ka Khaka Waheguru Je Ki Fateh Please could i get advice on my dad. My dad swears alot and i mean a lot. Swearing is like breathing to him. He swears when we are doing bani and when Kirtan is on. Then he goes the gurdawara dressed in Bana and pretends to be into sikhi. I know that i sounds so ego and im just complaining but it really gets to me. Bhul Chak Mafka. Sorry Jee

Waheguru ji ka khalsa, waheguru ji ki fateh :D This is not really gupt but I need help, I am starting University soon and really want to wear dastar. I am looking for Voile and Rubia material for my dastar. I am going india soon and hoping to buy it there but how do you say voile and rubia in punjabi? ??? I know, a really stupid question lol but please help! Need to know what they are called in punjabi ? I even tried google translater, but useless LOL Please don't close this topic Help :D GUPT SINGHNI :D

Hello, I've been having a Masturbation addiction and I know it's not right and leads to Kaam, but I would also like assistance on how I can combat this issue, (I also know only Guru Sahib can help me, but I'd still like to try the best I can).

forgot my salai at home and my pagh is really tight, ehat can i use as an alternative lool? btw this is a serious question

WJKK WJKF Hi so I'm currently in med school and I should be finishing in September 2015, i'm not going to practice picking up the degree and my parents know this part and there ok with my decision. So as being in med school I have been being more and more intrigued into sikhi and was wondering if someone can start guiding me how to start preparing for amrit of course this will take time as I want to be certain I can live that lifestyle. I mean Like to be honest I don't know punjabi or gurmukhi all to well that's one of my main issue I feel more comfortable in english but I'm willing to learn gurmukhi. I hope a singh or a kaur can guide me and put me on the right path.Hopefully like have daily talks so if I have any questions they can answer it. I'm 22 years old and I feel like its just a calling for me and just that I need help who can practically be my teacher, and if someone does respond to my message I will gladly private message them.

Sangat ji, Does anyone know which 'tanti saaj' /'purtan' instrument is the cheapest? - apart from vajja, dholki, tabla what would the price be (in pounds) if you brought it from india? Any shops in Punjab that you would recommend? thank you!

Fateh ji I am in a serious problem, its my wedding this weekend and for some reason my skin which had no problem before has suddenly turned into a disaster for the past 2 weeks! :'( I am amritdahri so i always make ure whatever method i used does not do any beadbi and have been trying to leave it all to waheguru to sort it out, accepting it as his will. I have used the #1 face washes but no real diffrenece, i have the dark kind of left over marks..... i am really worried and there is no chance ill be wearing make up! sangat ji your my only hope... please help me out.....

Hello All, It seems a good platform to discuss my scenario and get proper guidance. I have been trimming my beard in past and recently I have stopped trimming my beard. I wished to take amrit with Guru kirpa, but now my beard length is becoming very long and it makes me think to reconsider my decision. I keep my beard open but don't know if will not make any difference in professional life to work in a company? With guru kirpa, I am vegetarian and do 5 baani nitnem daily. Please guide me if I am unnecessarily compelling myself for Amrit as bani says "Jo priye maane tin ki reesa, koorae moorakh ki haathesaa". rab rakha

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa Waheguru ji ki Fateh Dear Sangat ji, I need some help please. I may require an string instrument to be picked up from near Manchester- and either posted or otherwise carried by someone already travelling, down to London. If anyone is able to help please contact me. Thank you kindly. Waheguru ji ka Khalsa Waheguru ji ki Fateh

I play cricket and I want to make my gutti smaller in my patka so the helmet will fit easier, how can I do this? squash it? but keep it in the normal style but just smaller?

I am a paapi. I oscillate like a spring. One week in Gurmukhi and bani. The next I'm stuck in manmukhi and kaami actions. I do sangat of the most chardi kala gurmukhs. Gurmukhs who see and know more than the average humans. They know my actions even though they have physically never caught me red handed. And have been warning me over and over and they are just about fed up to the point of giving up on me. I I want to be good. I want to read bani but even my most earnest attempts are feeble and I fall back down. I understand that this world is a game. That we are all jot saroop. And that our karmic debts and maya have clouded our vision. Only with waheguru Jis help can we erase this and merge with the original. But waheguru Ji also made the five sins. He also made it hard for us to break through. I guess it makes the game more interesting. But the pain it puts us through when we fail over and over. I don't know about you great gurmukhs but I'm so tired of feeling inadequate. I feel like I'm undeserving of gods love. I've made bentis to this cyber sangat before but I just keep failing and falling. But if were are all jot saroop. Then why? Why the game? It seems masochistic. I have no budhi so it makes sense that I can't understand the divine. It makes me angry though. If waheguru Ji wants our love. If love for god and guru is the only way to get through this. Why is it made so hard. Why do we have to struggle through it at every turn. Where is this intuitive ease with which a gurmukh should be able to walk through life. Where is this protection from kaam krodh lobh moh ahankaar? Why? I know I'm ungrateful. I know I've probably made some angry by posting this. But I can't be the only one whose feeling like this. I'm almost ready to give up to be honest. Because I know I will get motivated by a post again and I'll be like I can do it. And then for a week it will be chardi kala. But then I'll have to make up for it with a week of paap and self hate. I've never been able to make it before. I've taken Amrit I've done sangat of gurmukhs revered all over the world. But I just come crashing down. And the fall is so painful. I don't know how many times I can get back up. I wish I was ignorant of my actions. Then I could have an excuse but I'm not. I dunno what else to say. I really don't. I'm just rambling now I guess. I don't know what I'm even asking for lol. Vjkk vjkf

Accidentally posted twice ji

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Kee Fateh, Sorry for any of my mistakes. I am only 14 years old and I hear a lot about how simran is important and it helps us attain waheguru. But I don't know how to do it. Whenever I hear a katha, they always explain why we should do it, not how ot do it. Please tell me what I need to do. I tried listening many times to Bhai Harjinder Singh Ji Sri Nagar Wale's Waheguru jaap kirtan because I like it but the problem is that after doing it, I don't feel anything. I don't even get that feeling like I did something. Please help me. Thank you very much.