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waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguruji ki fateh im a sikh boy loving a hindu girl i cant live without her plz help me waheguru ji . i want to marry with her only please waheguru ji do something i cant live with her

Hi I am hoping that you can give me some advice on this topic. I've developed feelings for a guy I've known my whole life, he feels the same way. We want to get married but the only problem is that his Dad and my Dad are from the same village back in India. How much of a problem will this be and why? I don't fully understand the issue as we live in the UK and we don't have the same surname. We've been friends for years and this is a much deeper emotional connection (not based on lust - as that's where we agreed to draw the line). We have tried to forget each other several times but this hasn't worked as we just end up back together. We want to take things further and get our families involved but I'd like to know what I'm going to let myself in for before I do so. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Sat Shri Akal Sariya nu. I am a sikh and i met a girl(sikh) a month ago and i love her and so does she. we are kinda great match n similar in many aspects. we understand each other so well. Everything was going well and i told her once to tell her mom about me because i did not wanted that she should meet me by lying to her mom n come hiding every time to meet me. Basically i didn't wanted that she looses her mothers faith in her(thats whats most important in a daughter and mothers relationship). So she did tell her mom and first everything was okay and her mom told her after knowing my caste and i am not a PR of Canada that just end it right here with me and no more meeting,talking,texting. I really love her and respect that she cant go against her mother because her mother has gone through a lot in the family just because of her kids, so she doesn't want to take any step which will go against her mother from relatives sides. I respect and understand her decision of obeying her mom but why is this caste system causing problem?? I thought sikhs are either 'Singh' and 'Kaur' and guru nanak dev ji apposed the caste system then why are many sikh family still into this caste thing? She will not see me coz her mom told her to focus on studies for 3 years and its not the right time n moreover i m from different caste. I and she didn't wanted to get married until we both completed our studies and become something in life but just coz of this caste thing she cant see me or hangout with me. She talks to me thou. I told her to tell her mom that i wanted to talk to her so that i could sit and explain her how much i love her daughter and i m not marrying her or crossing my limits with her before marriage. I also wanted to tell her that we are not getting married until we finish our studies and become what we want to but she refused to talk to me. I and her our suffering coz her mom thinks that if her daughter gets married to me then their families respect is finished forever and society and relatives will trouble them and taunt them every time about her daughter marrying a guy of different caste. What the hell is all this? Even in this century people r thinking like this? I understand this might not be the right age but why cant we see each other or hang out? Its hard not the see the girl you love the most. Does anyone can help me in this that how should i take my next step or tell me your opinion?

Sat Shri Akal ji.. i love a girl whose family is sikh , even she's Amrit thari(chhulla basically). And my family is arora , we basically go to gurudwara sahib , we even do path of japji sahib and we also go to madir. Basically we follow sikh religion , though am not the true sikh because i don't have long hair and wear tuban , but what i believe is " kite pandit kre bakhan, kite monna thari lave thyan " i really wanted to marry this girl , she also love me very much , we are in relation from 3 years, but we hav'nt done anything yet because we want that " whatever we'll do , we should do after marriage with complete right " . But i know her parents wont agree. Her dad wants to marry her in true sikh family because he don't want her daughter to loose her sikhism(which she wont and i wont let her , but still parents would be worried because its their daughter's life). i just want her dad to understand us... so pls tell me how can i make him understand us help us plz!