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I've noticed virtually every sikh woman who foolishly dated and married someone outside their faith have had their marriages end in divorce. Most of these women tend to have married white atheist/Christian men and it always ends very badly very bitter divorces. There was this one punjaban i got to know called [ModCut- NAMES ARE NOT ALLOWED] she married her white boyfriend and divorced 2 years later after she caught him cheating and now shes letting herself being used and abused by guys in clubs and one night stands in online dating sites. Another punjabi girl i knew who was from south england kent she dressed up like a goth and was into the satanic dark heavy metal scene she married her white atheist satanic boyfriend and 2 years later he died of aids after contracting it through heavy drug use through needles. Now she is online dating going out with all sorts ......a lost cause a shame on her parents and community. Now I've just read an article of a bitter divorce where the parminder nagra a punjaban british actress of sikh heritage married her white atheist/christian photographer boyfriend a few years ago. While I was reading the article I thought to myself is this the state of affairs these days that these moronic punjabans can think they will be happier with non-sikh guy after the lust and fun times are over? Maybe its a good thing that Indian parents prefer males over females in Indian and punjabi society as women themselves are not responsible for the future well being of the community no more and will exploit their freedoms and shun their responsibilities in a liberal westernised carefree hedonistic mindset and society.

Everyone knows our Sikh role models, so I am asking who you lot look up to?

Hello everyone, As the title of the thread suggests, I am currently exploring Sikhi as well as other religious beliefs (including Buddhism and Radha Soami, though I have issues with following a human master). I come from a Christian background, but I would not describe my beliefs as being particularly Christian, as I believe in an all-pervading God who is impersonal, and I believe in systems such as reincarnation and karma. So, I have many questions about Sikhi as I am on my search, and I was hoping that you all might be able to answer some questions for me. None of these questions are meant to challenge your beliefs at all, but merely to express my own doubts and challenges that I face in my search. 1. Buddhism and Sikhism I think are largely similar, but they have a major difference that I find hard to reconcile. Buddhism (at least Theravadan and Zen) teaches that the existence of God can't be answered for sure, and the same can be said for the soul. Instead the Buddha says that we should forget such questions, and instead focus on achieving Nirvana, as these questions impede our spiritual growth. Sikhi (as far as I am aware) states that our ultimate purpose is to merge with God, and reach Sach Khand. The problem is, I can see and understand the reasoning behind both of these positions, and I have a really hard time figuring out what to believe on this issue. How can I resolve this conflict? 2. Scriptures are obviously very important to Sikhs, as the SGGSJ forms the foundation for Sikhi. My question regarding this is, why is reading the Bani repeatedly so important? Is kirtan more beneficial than to practice simran and meditation on the atman inside? I can understand reading it for understanding, and of course reading scriptures at different times in our lives, we will receive different lessons. But is inward meditation not more valuable, provided it is done with a proper spiritual understanding? 3. As I am young and come from the West (I am only 18), I have certain Western values which I find hard to reconcile with both Sikhism and Buddhism, even though I may find the religion very appealing. Specifically, I feel very strongly about gender equality, and that differences between men and women are almost entirely (if not entirely) cultural rather than biological or spiritual in nature. This means that I am a strong advocate of homosexual rights, gay marriage, and transgender rights. I realize that Sikhi has done a lot to stand up for many of these things, but at the same time, I see that homosexuals are not allowed to be married with the Anand Karaj. As a Westerner, this seems to be the same religious dogmatism that I tried to escape when I left Christianity, but maybe I am misunderstanding it. 4. Marriages. As far as I understand, Sikhs do not condone love marriages, and instead practice arranged marriages. What is the harm in a love marriage, or in dating? Again I realize I come from a Western perspective, but I fail to see how these things are harmful to your spirituality. If all of your energy is focused on finding a partner, or on sexual promiscuity, or the like, I can definitely understand it. Also, why can an inter-faith marriage not be done with the Anand Karaj? If a Sikh wants to marry a non-Sikh, isn't that their choice? And if they want to do the marriage the Sikh way, is that not displaying the proper respect to Sikhi? For a long time, I dated a Muslim girl and we planned to be married. Sadly that didn't happen, but I can't imagine missing out on someone who may be the love of my life, because I am limited to only marrying someone of my religion. 5. Again as far as I understand, Guru Nanak Ji shunned religious labels. He stated "There is no Hindu, there is no Muslim." So therefore, why have his teachings started a religion? This is something I haven't been able to find much discussion about, and I am quite curious about it. Has Sikhism fallen prey to the same dogmatism that he taught against? 6. The SGGSJ was named as the last Guru for the Sikhs. Does this mean there will never be another Guru? What about when we move out of Kal Yug and into the next age, will there be another succession of Gurus? I'm sorry for the long list of questions. I look forward to hearing your responses. Thank you.

Check this out he blames Sikhs from aboard for sarbat khalsa and real punjabi Sikh leaders peacefully speaking out for their basic human rights as anti-nationals. Basically he is a Hindurstani atheist taliban terrorist who is oppressing the voice and rights of Sikhs. http://www.hindustantimes.com/punjab/punjab-govt-to-crack-down-on-provocative-sikh-sites/story-ESSNTFyHq66VoEfIxiRqTM.html

I study religions as I find they all have valuable lessons and during one of those periods I recognized that the bracelet a certain client of mine wears on his right wrist is a kara. I asked him if that was indeed what it was, and he said yes and told me the meaning of it. I told him that was what I heard it meant and that the idea of it is utterly beautiful to me, even though I am Christian. He said that Sikhs generally do not mind if others wear the kara respectfully and that the next time I saw him he would give me my own, which really touched me- he wears the really thick iron type In light of that, I was wondering what the best way to get familiar enough with Sikhism to honor his gesture. I'm not sure where to start with the scripture or if I should attend a temple service. Any help in pointing me in the right direction would be appreciated, everything I've heard of Sikhism has sounded wonderful, but I'd like to go deeper

My friend is Chinese Buddhist, but he doesn't practice. I've known him since middle school. I've been teaching him about Sikhi, and I took him to gurdwara. He said he wouldn't mind becoming a Sikh, but I don't know how serious he is because he is not a very religious person in general. He's been asking me for a Kara, so he can wear it. Is there anything wrong with this?

Just anything to do with them. I know Sant Mian Mir Ji laid the foundation of Harimandir Sahib, Sri Guru Ram Das Ji (I think) also showed great reverance for Sri Chand Ji, and many Muslims and Hindus fought for Khalistan in 84. Any other examples? And also, how did these great souls stay true to their own faiths and not feel as if they were abandoning their own faiths by pledging their head to the Guru as well?

Now I know we (and we should) have Guru Sahibaan, Bhagats, Shaheeds and several Gurmukh pyaare Brahmgyanis, Sants, Sant-Sipahis as our role models. Just wanted to know people's thoughts and opinions on non-Sikh role models. Relax, this isn't going to mean you're a "bad" Sikh. I personally feel (and I could be wrong) that the more role models you have, the more your chances of being a better human being as you would want to emulate the ideals they (your role models) stand for. Here are mine (in no particular order) Rabindranath Tagore Alaama Iqbal Subhash Chandra Bose Buddha Raja Janak Socrates Narayanan Krishnan (http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?/topic/69507-start-giving-see-the-joy-of-giving/) Ram Narayan Kumar Jhalkari Bai (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jhalkari_Bai) Dr. B.R. Ambedkar Anne Frank Rosa Parks Oprah Winfrey Abraham Lincoln Nelson Mandela Martin Luther King Malcolm X.... .....just to name a few... Please do share if you have any non-Sikh role models. You cannot name the Bhagat Sahibaan whose Bani is included in Sahib Sri Guru Granth Sahib Jee Maharaj, or other non-Sikh shardhaalus of Guru Sahib, or any non-Sikh Shaheed :D . They are our role models by default :D , I am asking for additional ones.