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Hi All, I havent been on this forum for a while but I thought id give it a try again as it helped me through some rough times earlier in my life. I wanted to seek for guidance on sikhi and marriage ... I noticed a post earlier on sanjog etc. and it got me thinking about my own life and marriage. For context, I have been married 3 years and things are not working out. When we met, I looked in to sanjog alot and it felt like it was written. However, as these years have gone by its become apparent that we no longer align with each other and our marriage is struggling. We dont seem to understand each other and things have fallen apart. We are at a stage now where separation/divorce is looking like the best option. Neither of us are happy and whilst we have tried to work things through in many different ways, after 3 years we have drifted away. What are the sikh views on this? is it written if we decide that we no longer serve each other? or is that a sin and should I continue to work at it? my issue at the moment is that it is draining me. I feel withdrawn from everything due to things going on between us including sikhi and going to the gurdwara. Breaks my heart to even be writing this but I do think if we are both not happy and cant see a way of being happy then what is the point in continuing? Or should I be continuing and is it paap if we dont honour our laavan? if that is the case, what does sikhi say about marriage? how do I continue knowing everyday I feel the way I do? Thanks

Sat Sri Akal ji I am 32 years old, well qualified and with a good professional future.My parents had been searching for quite a while for a suitable match groom for me, but due to some reason or the other I couldn't see any of those prospective grooms as my future husband. I prayed to waheguru every day to find the perfect match for me. I did Sehaj Path, woke up at Amrit vela, did mool mantra jaap, went to gurudwara sahib every day. In the meantime this whole finding a groom thing was turning into utter torture for me. Then finally about two years ago It seemed Akal Purkh had answered my prayers. Our parents exchanged our numbers and we started talking. This person was the ideal I had been searching for. He had firm belief in Sikhism, did simran, woke up at Amrit vela, had never been into a relationship with anyone, was doing great in his profession, was very understanding and a thorough gentleman. I absolutely worshipped him. I thanked God everyday for sending this man in my life. We talked about our future together, discussed spiritualism etc. All this while his mother kept putting of fixing a wedding date on some pretext or the other. Then finally she told my mother that she doesn't want us to be together. The reason she gave was a very frivolous one regarding my height. But what hurt me the most was that this man whom I respected and loved with all my heart and soul, whom I looked up to as my husband without there being any formal ceremony, he seemed to remain utterly indifferent to all this. He even refused to take my calls.finally he messaged saying he can't go against his parents. How can people who believe in waheguru act like this? I put all my faith in waheguru then why did God do this to me. I am utterly shattered and depressed. I am unable to concentrate on paath or simran. It's like I've lost everything. The future seems so dark. I keep on thinking about this guy and crying all the time. I feel so tired of life. I have resigned from my job, my health has suffered and I am afraid of what the future holds for me. I have never felt so helpless. I feel even waheguru is not on my side and is punishing me. Please help me.