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Vaheguru ji ka khalsa, Vaheguru ji ki fateh. I need serious Gurmat advice. There is one Singhni in particular who I have to see very often, and who I will be living with next year (I'm close to her family). It is very hard to put up with her. She has been brought up in a Gursikh family, but is not practicing Sikhi in the sense of having taken Amrit or doing Nitnem. She has had a very good upbringing, and has been spoilt with all the love and attention she could want. Now, as a young adult, she's self absorbed, temperamental and overly confident (ego). She is more concerned with popularity and taking pouty pictures than anything else. For example, she will constantly talk about herself and will never reach out and try to help you even if she knows something terrible has happened to you. But she will make an emotional display about her comparably small issues. You'll try to talk to her, but most of the time she won't respond because she's texting on her phone 24/7. She never has anything good to say about you. She'll take her birthday present and you won't here anything from her about it, not even a thank you. I feel bad writing all this, she is not all bad. The point is, I can't even have a short conversation with her, and I don't know how I will be able to live with her next year because of that. Her parent puts pressure on me to become good friends with her as they think it'll bring her further along her path of Sikhi, but I've tried. I dread going somewhere where I know she will be (and that's about 2/ 3 times a week). We have gone out in the past, and I've attempted to connect with her, but I feel that every time we talk I subconsciously make myself act more outgoing and worldly just for the sake of getting along with her. She is not interested in discussing Sikhi or general issues. The deeper issue here is not this petty one, but, how does one look at everybody as exactly the same? I've been trying so hard over the last year. I find myself having negative feelings towards her whenever she does something selfish or annoying. I try to make myself stop but it's much more difficult than that. How to truly love everyone equally?