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Is "Sikhni" an appropriate word to refer to Sikh girls or is it a slur as I've only heard non-Sikhs using Sikhni.

Interesting video I came across, made some very good points and research.

https://facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=433385067127360&id=298338120632056 And it never ends and wont end until sikhs call out the evil instead of being clowns, appeasers and cowards.

Just saw this today and the thought was even the Gorey Canadians want our girls to stop getting involved with the Islamic guys:

Now, lets look at 2 notorious, crime ridden inner city neighbourhoods : Crown Heights in Brooklyn New York and Hackney in London. Both these areas are similar as both have orthodox Jews living alongside blacks. Crime is endemic in both these neighbourhoods but the one constant is that the orthodox Jews in these areas suffer no crime or intimidation at the hands of their fellow neighbourhood dwellers. So why is this ? Well, it's because ib both these areas and in all other working class, inner city Jewish neghbourhoods, such as Stoke Newington near Tottenham etc, the Jews have what they call the 'Shomrim'. Every Jewish neighbourhood on earth, from London to New York, from Paris to Beunos Aires, has a Shomrim. The Shomrim is made up of able bodied Jewish men who take it in turns to patrol their neighbourhoods as a small group. They ensure the property of Jews is kept safe. They ensure elderly Jews are kept safe. They ensure the honour of their womenfolk is kept safe. Using the various north and north east London Shomrims as an example, they have the blessing and active support of the local councils and police. Now, lets look at our own Sikh neighbourhoods. Lets look at Southall. Southall is now officially London's hotspot for prostitution and drugs etc. As soon as it gets dark a drive down Southall Broadway would shock even the most broadminded amongst you. An absolute cesspit of immorality. The daytime isn't much better and its not much better in our other Sikh areas such as Wolverhampton and Birmingham etc. Our elderly Sikhs are attacked and robbed and our girls are openly targetted. So where are our able bodied men ? Where is our 'Shomrim' ?

All Sikh girls need to become fit & take up self-defense martial art classes and become proper Singhnia like Mai Bhago Today’s world is an evil cruel place for women where gender equality is not everywhere.

It really saddens me to see so much criticism and hatred against “sikh” Punjabi girls in this forum from our own brothers. Most of the posts end up with sikh guys blaming girls as not respecting our culture, becoming easy targets for non-sikh and rejecting sardars etc etc. It is very disheartening reading the picture you have painted of them based on your “extensive studies” and it has compelled me to write a few things... First and foremost if you are truly following sikhi then you will be aware that ANY GIRL (not just Punjabi or sikh) are supposed to be viewed as your sisters or mothers. Sikhi does not encourage that you go around hitting on girls and have gfs before marriage- it is a form of lust, it is kaami and it is one of the 5 chors- full stop. I see posters advocating sikh guys go find girls from other backgrounds and religious beliefs. Really, are you that desperate for girls and relationships? (Don’t forget that if you are amrithdhari then you have to marry into an amritdhari/gursikh household). Consider for a minute that maybe you’re wasting your time, effort and resources chasing the opposite sex and are forgetting why we were put on this earth for. You are chasing after a body which will deteriorate and rot in the ground one day and forgetting that which will always be eternal. Have some faith – waheguru will put the right girl at the right time for you, try to trust in him. Now most of you’ll say that u want to get to know a girl before getting into a commitment and insist that you won’t do anything physical, that your motives are pure (whatever way you choose to justify it). You complain that so many ‘sikh’ girls turn you down because of your turban and beard – question yourself which girls are you asking in the first place. Yes I agree there are SOME Punjabi girls that do and say the most disrespectful things against sikhi just as there are some punjabi boys. BUT don’t confuse ‘Punjabi’ with ‘sikhi’- they are two different things. Just as you toss aside ‘mona’s’ as being non-sikh these are the female version. Turn your attention away from these superficial girls and just maybe you’ll be able to see a ‘sikh’ girl. (btw sikh girls probably won’t easily go out, anyways) From the posts that I have read that discredit sikh Punjabi girls – most of the posters themselves admit to have non-punjabi and non-sikh girlfriends, which leads me to believe that it is form of validation and justification strategy more to themselves and to others. Others think they are doing parchar of some sort by dating non-sikh girls supposedly teaching them about sikhi, when in fact most of them will be the reason why sikh values will be diluted in the future when their kids have mixed beleifs or no interest in sikhi. You pride yourself that in many wars Sikhs with turbans saved girls from being raped and slaughtered – are you their descendants where you are now throwing dirt on our own sikh sisters? Don’t worry about what the other public’s views are of sikh girls, you should not share the same view. You are not doing anyone any favours posting about crap others are supposedly saying; actually your sexist views may be pushing these girls further away. Some even go to the extent to question if Guru Gobind Singh Ji gave sikh females too much respect? – it’s unbelievable that guys with such backward thoughts are taking our religion into the future. Learn to appreciate women- this is sikhi. If you pride yourself as being sikh – then make sure you follow and live the life of SIKH rather than bending sikh rahet to suit you. Understand true nature of sikhi at its core and lead by example – let your actions be what defines you. At the end of the day if you keep complaining about non respecting punjabi girls, that’s what you will end up seeing. Instead of complaining about such girls why don’t you celebrate the true singhni’s and singh’s out there? You need to increase your tolerance level of ignorant people and learn to be a better Sikh yourself. I repeat lead by example, show others so much love that your charisma attracts others to you rather then chasing after or trying to change others. Interested to read others views- girls and guys both.

Okay. So, I hear everyone around me saying Sikh girls are not supposed to wear makeup/nailpolish etc. because it hides what God really made them. But, what about something like a push up bra? It would alter my body, obviously not permanently (just like nailpolish and makeup). It makes me feel better about myself, as superficial as it may seem, and I am not hurting anybody either. Would this be considered "bad"?

I just got from some of my friend from India that There is an upcoming punjabi movie "YAAR ANMULLE 2" and the main Actress is playing a role of HOT KAUR and also We all Know western culture and Vulgarity are taking over Punjabi industry.....

Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!! Guruji said that rehat maryada is important. But tell me is the rehat maryada followed in true manner. Sikh girls::About more than 90% sikh girls these day go far hair styling,waxing,bleaching or other forms of hair styling and modification.....sikh parents also support this,it doesnt matter much as they need to cope with the society as they say. As we always insist on boys for keeping sikhi saroop,,is this not apply to girls....many girls wants to marry clean shaven sikhs and they do .. Those with sikhi saroop & some amritdhari sikhs::I also don't understand the concept of "Thatha & fixor" it almost costs Sikhs 2 hrs a day on an average. Now isn't it tampering with the natural form. The Urban sikhs follow it who pretend to be "true sikh" wearing thatha fixor & then going to pub shub, mad behind cars , money & sex . "is this what is preached in Sikhism" Now what is prime important ???