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I'm in my 20's, I'm from a very traditional family = don't go out much, no proper friends (tbh I am happy and used to that way as over the years I've seen its benefits) Recently, I've just been feeling like I've lost my personality. So now that I am going through a struggling period in my life and keeping positive/ trusting waheguru ji to answer my ardas (some of you may know my situation from my previous posts) I think its a great opportunity to find/build myself. Things I want to improve on: PROBLEM 1- lack of exciting experience kind of made me seem a little 'boring' at work and I don't go out much, I don't really like watching much TV and don't listen to many english songs which didn't help lol.... How can I become a interesting person especially? PROBLEM 2 - I really want to uplevel my vocab to sound sophisticated and articulate in my every day talk- (I sound quite childish lol) I've tried researching words etc but never seem to remember them haha PROBLEM 3- No hobby, as with my family structure 'going out' etc isn't accepted, I don't really have a proper hobby. I want to find a hobby which is useful to me and will help me present myself as an exciting/interesting person. My hobby used to be knitting LOL but obviously that didn't present me in the most interesting light haha. I know this sounds like I'm a dead boring person but in fact at school I used to be quite popular and within my wider family I'm loved... I guess it's now that I'm going out to work in the real world I meet people who are much older than me or have more life experiences, I just feel kinda zoned out. I know a lot of people will say - go out, go gym, enjoy life, dont be locked inside etc etc BUT that is not the answer to my questions lol. There will be a time I would want to do that (when im with my husband) but at the moment I want to build myself at home so when I do go out, I don't portray myself dumb or vulnerable. Thank you