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  1. Ocdperson


    So I uploaded a topic similar to this but I am still confused. So let’s get to the point, people say looking at videos of attractive females is lust because your not thinking about Naam and that your forgot my Naam. But aren’t we forgetting Naam when we take a school test or when we watch a movie. Because technically we are really focused on the test in school or the movie we are watching, so isn’t that technically lust too? When you take a test in school , the test take all your awareness towards it. Even when you watch a movie, the movie takes all your awareness too but people don’t consider both of these things lust, but they consider watching attractive females videos lust. Watching attractive females and watching a movie both do the same thing, they take your awareness away. So aren’t they both lust. Is watching videos of attractive females in moderation lust? Is masturbating in moderation lust? Because they are no different awareness wise than watching a movie or taking a test . No disrespect, I’m just confused.
  2. Dear Sangat Ji, I'm trapped in a very difficult situation, I have a very challenging wife and have to repeat that and a very difficult wife. My parents built a garage in a kitchen and my wife won't make food in the garage kitchen, she says it's too cold. My wife will complain and my mum won't listen. My father passed away, and now I have started getting anxiety attacks and am very depressed. Is there anything you would suggest
  3. So as a teenager, hormones are in full effect. And I’m not going to act like there aren’t beautiful girls around the world I feel attracted to. I am confused on masturbation, is it fine to do in Sikhism? I know that the main problem everyone has with masturbation is Lust. And from seeing different opinions from people, I am confused. Lust is the bad part because it makes you forget Naam. But doesn’t watching YouTube or a movie make you technically forget Naam too? The first thing I do in the morning is to pray to God and talk with God. Everyday I feel like I remember God and Naam. So I am confused on what is bad about masturbation done moderately. If forgetting Naam is a reason, don’t I do the same thing when watching tv or playing a sport or when I’m in school? Say this, If I daily pray and talk with God and remember God, is it bad for me to masturbate moderately to attractive girls in Sikhism? Because I feel like I remember God everyday. People say The bad part of Lust is forgetting Naam but I am confused, aren’t I technically forgetting Naam while doing things that take my full attention for example like school, sports, movies. Can I balance my sexual life and my religious within Sikhism? I mean no disrespect, just curious.
  4. Waheguru ji ka Khalsa Waheguru ji Ki Fateh I am a 20 year old girl living in Canada with my parents. A few years ago, we went to visit family back in India where I met my childhood bestfriend who I grew up playing with (they were our neighbors). When I came back to Canada, we started talking and became really close. When my parents found out I talk to him, they got extremely mad, threatened to kick me out of the house, and said I was gonna ruin their “izzat” in society. I don’t understand what I am doing wrong. I only lived in India for a few years of my life so how is this wrong? My dad says that everyone in same pind are siblings... but we are not related in any way, I am pretty sure my grandparents moved to this pind when they were younger from another place. I have been talking to him for 2 years now and we are each other’s happy place. I don’t know how I get my parents to understand, I have no one to talk to about this. Don’t know what to do. Just found this page, someone please help :(
  5. Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh. I have taken Amrit 4.5 years back and tried to follow everything from Rehat Maryada. Before starting daily errands, I take a bath and do the Nitnem. I am a software engineer and as a part of my job, I have a hackathon organized in my company, wherein we are required to work for around 24 - 30 hours continuously. I won't be able to take bath on Sunday morning in the company but can do Nitnem in the cabin through my laptop/phone. I went through Rehat Maryada and it is clearly written there that I should take a bath before doing Nitnem. What should I do in such situation? At one side I feel that I should fight with the company to leave me on Saturday night, this could affect my relationship with the company and on another side, it seems washing and cleansing face and hands should also do.
  6. ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਕਾ ਖਾਲਸਾ ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਕੀ ਫ਼ਤਿਹ !!! My name is Sarkar e Khalsa, i've been registered quite a while but have become a regular quite recently. That aside, I'm a Singh from Manitoba Canada, seeking virtual Gursangat that can help guide me, although I'm quite young I've grown toward Sikhi through some Singhs I met here that taught me shastar vidhya, and ithihaas, however I'd like to grow...Any help and any sangat would be welcomed
  7. Guest

    Sex before marriage

    Really Sorry for engine this topic up! I am 17 years old. I took amrit at the age of 12 because I felt very connected with the guru at the time and i knew and I still know that the main objective in this life is to become jot Vich jot with waheguru, and the first step to doing so is Amrit for a Sikh, that's why I took it at an early age because I felt like I didn't want to waste my time as we don't know we are gonna die, anyway..it was going well till I was about 14/15, at 14/15 puberty hit and I felt more prone to 5 evils, I got involved with the wrong crowd, and The effect of this was I stopped doing my nitnem and Simran and alot of things...I pretty much gave up being an Amrit dhari for a while and then this girl came into the picture... loads of guys liked this girl and the fact that she wanted me over them was crazy for me at the time because I'd never experienced that before, at first I thought I was getting way ahead of myself because at te end of the day I was still an Amrit dhari and a sikh of the guru and as I hadn't done anything to break it apart from stopped doing my nitnem for a while I didn't want to risk doing something that bad, but then I got encouraged by my friends to go for it and well I did it and I gave into lust after that I got depressed becoz I knew what I did was wrong, but I felt shameful so I resisted going to the gurdwara and stuff and took of my kirpan n stuff of because I didnt feel worthy to wear em and I didn't know how to face guru ji, I spent about half a year being shameful and depressed and then I started to fix up after that and start praying and everyday since then I ask guru ji for forgiveness even till nw, I got rid of my old friends and made new ones, good ones and I focus on school more, since that girl didnt go to my school I never had to face her again and from there I just started trying to become religious again, everyday I wake up at 6 and do my 5 bani's and I ask mahraj for forgiveness for being so foolish. I know I'll never do something like that again but I don't know what do now, do I beed to take Amrit again? My patens don't know anything about this, how do I tell them I need to take Amrit again? What would I say to the punj piare? I'm so confused ... Has any1 ever been thru something like this? I can't tell me parents because I just can't, they won't be able to take it.. I'm truly sorry for bring up this topic but I need help I dont know how to feel or what to do!? Wjkk wjkf
  8. Guest


    What should I do if I’m in the middle of my nitnem and have been force to eat something and then eat it to avoid an argument? Shall I carry on my nitnem? Should I stop reading bani? This happens to me on a regular basis with my mum who has anger issues. I can’t tell her no or else she’ll scream the house down and start swearing at me. It’s here way or there high way. I don’t know what to do! I need help! Tell what to do!
  9. WJKK WJKF I currently wear a patka and need to learn how to tie a dumalla. I’m 16. I only have 3 weeks to learn (let me know if the type I want to wear will be too hard to learn in this time frame. I have no one to help irl only YouTube videos). Firstly, I have managed to finally get some dumalla cloth and have at the moment left it to soak overnight as I was told this is what you need to do as I had great difficulty trying to learn how to tie one without it washed. So I have 2 lengths of 6m long 0.5m wide cloth. Is this a good amount for the type I want? (Photo will be attached below). I then saw I fold it in half to tie a dumalla in videos. I’m also having difficulty tying a base. Either when I tie my joora it sticks up too much and will make me end up with a massive dastar (I want to blend in at the new school I’ll be going to so don’t want to look overly big, my old school had no sikhs). Or it’s really really loose (I’m doing the thing where I wrap my Kesh around in the cloth then twist it up. Is there any secret to this or better way? I am not amritari also, I heard this is a ‘nihang dumalla’, I’m just wondering as a non amritari Sikh I won’t offend anyone by wearing this type of dumalla will I? The reason I want this type is I heard this is the type some people wear at my school I will go to (I am unable to contact them for help however). So here’s the photo below, for this type, perhaps a bit smaller, how many layers will I need? How much material length total? Do you know any good videos for this exact type in which case please send? And is my aim of learning how to tie this in 2-3 weeks achievable? Forgive me I left it so late I had difficulties. WJKK WJKF
  10. I heard this katha and I think it may help people who are struggling/stressing about unfortunate job situations.
  11. Guest

    Starting Again

    This has started off last year when I first started having the thoughts of cutting my hair. I let them slide and I was too busy to address them at the moment. But, now sitting in quarantine, I got to stop and think about where I'm going. i'm only 16 and I realize that I have a lot ahead of me and I shouldn't make any sensitive decisions right now. However, it's been getting worse where every morning I wake up with the same thoughts in my mind. I've been trying to push them away, may Waheguru Ji help me do so, but they don't stop. I have kept my hair since the day I was born and my family is fully amrit dhari. They say that when you take one step towards Guru Ji he takes a thousand steps towards you. I've decided to start again and rediscover Sikhi, not in the way my parents forced it upon me, but the way I should've done it before. In this hope that these thoughts will slide away and I won't end up cutting my Kesh. So, I tell you all this to help me, tell me where to begin again and tell me the best way to do it. Please forgive me if I have offended anyone or anything in any way, I'm still lost and trying to find my way. Thank you.
  12. Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh, I need help in saying I don’t want the relationship anymore or to end it but without insulting myself or hurting the other person. ok so there was this guy who proposed to me and I said yes because he wore a turban, doesn’t cut hair, is respectful and has a good career. He is from another caste but that didn’t affect me much, i knew it will for my parents with old mentality but I know I’d convince them. Being in a relationship for about 7 months but known each other for a couple months more because used to chat. We only met like 3 times only. He told me he rejected many girls because thinkings don’t match and thinks our does but Only I know they don’t match based on Sikhi or many other things our thinkings don’t match. I just go along with him agreeing on his thinking to not create fights or anything but deep down I don’t like it. I took Sri Hukamnama Sahib once for him thinking if it is positive it is a yes from Guru Sahib Ji to keep him and if not then no. I got it a little negative ( no Bani is negative but what I mean is Guru Sahib Ji weren’t happy not a Parsanta wala Sri Hukamnama Sahib) so it means it’s a no. Now I don’t know to say this to him or to back off so I don’t waste his time or hurt him. I am stressed about how to tell him. My friend told me to lie that your dad isn’t saying yes (he know my mom knows and his family knows about me just spoke over the phone with them only ). I am worried about insulting myself (he might say crap to me or his family will since it’s been a while together). I am worried about lying too because his family including hum might hate my dad for no reason. Also, he might say fight with dad or explain to him and fight for love. Please help me what should I do?
  13. Guest


    My marriage is struggling and on the stage of divorce. I have been praying to Guru sahib to save it as he is the only creator and destroyer. I have full faith in guru sahib that he will listen my ardas and no matter what stage we're at guru sahib is watching and will surely save his Sikhs honor as my partner has been mislead. I took a vaak from the gutka after nitnem. I just needed help finding translations please.
  14. Guest

    Hukam Help

    so .....heres the deal ,i took a hukam from mahraj.Here it is: DnwsrI mhlw 1 ] Dhanaasaree, First Mehl: shij imlY imilAw prvwxu ] That union with the Lord is acceptable, which is united in intuitive poise. nw iqsu mrxu n Awvxu jwxu ] Thereafter, one does not die, and does not come and go in reincarnation. Twkur mih dwsu dws mih soie ] The Lord's slave is in the Lord, and the Lord is in His slave. jh dyKw qh Avru n koie ]1] Wherever I look, I see none other than the Lord. ||1|| gurmuiK Bgiq shj Gru pweIAY ] The Gurmukhs worship the Lord, and find His celestial home. ibnu gur Byty mir AweIAY jweIAY ]1] rhwau ] Without meeting the Guru, they die, and come and go in reincarnation. ||1||Pause|| so guru krau ij swcu idRVwvY ] So make Him your Guru, who implants the Truth within you, AkQu kQwvY sbid imlwvY ] who leads you to speak the Unspoken Speech, and who merges you in the Word of the Shabad. hir ky log Avr nhI kwrw ] God's people have no other work to do; swcau Twkuru swcu ipAwrw ]2] they love the True Lord and Master, and they love the Truth. ||2|| qn mih mnUAw mn mih swcw ] The mind is in the body, and the True Lord is in the mind. so swcw imil swcy rwcw ] Merging into the True Lord, one is absorbed into Truth. syvku pRB kY lwgY pwie ] God's servant bows at His feet. siqguru pUrw imlY imlwie ]3] Meeting the True Guru, one meets with the Lord. ||3|| Awip idKwvY Awpy dyKY ] He Himself watches over us, and He Himself makes us see. hiT n pqIjY nw bhu ByKY ] He is not pleased by stubborn-mindedness, nor by various religious robes. GiV Bwfy ijin AMimRqu pwieAw ] He fashioned the body-vessels, and infused the Ambrosial Nectar into them; pRym Bgiq pRiB mnu pqIAwieAw ]4] God's Mind is pleased only by loving devotional worship. ||4|| piV piV BUlih cotw Kwih ] Reading and studying, one becomes confused, and suffers punishment. bhuqu isAwxp Awvih jwih ] By great cleverness, one is consigned to coming and going in reincarnation. nwmu jpY Bau Bojnu Kwie ] One who chants the Naam, the Name of the Lord, and eats the food of the Fear of God gurmuiK syvk rhy smwie ]5] becomes Gurmukh, the Lord's servant, and remains absorbed in the Lord. ||5|| pUij islw qIrQ bn vwsw ] He worships stones, dwells at sacred shrines of pilgrimage and in the jungles, Brmq folq Bey audwsw ] wanders, roams around and becomes a renunciate. min mYlY sUcw ikau hoie ] But his mind is still filthy - how can he become pure? swic imlY pwvY piq soie ]6] One who meets the True Lord obtains honor. ||6|| Awcwrw vIcwru srIir ] One who embodies good conduct and contemplative meditation, Awid jugwid shij mnu DIir ] his mind abides in intuitive poise and contentment, since the beginning of time, and throughout the ages. pl pMkj mih koit auDwry ] In the twinkling of an eye, he saves millions. kir ikrpw guru myil ipAwry ]7] Have mercy on me, O my Beloved, and let me meet the Guru. ||7|| iksu AwgY pRB quDu swlwhI ] Unto whom, O God, should I praise You? quDu ibnu dUjw mY ko nwhI ] Without You, there is no other at all. ijau quDu BwvY iqau rwKu rjwie ] As it pleases You, keep me under Your Will. nwnk shij Bwie gux gwie ]8]2] Nanak, with intuitive poise and natural love, sings Your Glorious Praises. ||8||2| So i just wanted help in deciphering the meaning of the vaakh and help in undersatnding what maharaj wants to convey to me /tell me.....i mean i do kinda understand it (not fully tho) so i just need a conformation as to whether what i hv in mind is right . Also another thing is that i've been doing vichaar on some of the things mentioned in the hukam also hv been watching some Basics of Sikhi street parchar video which have the same vichaars in them ( about the oneness and other stuff also mentioned in the hukam and also going around in my brain,in Basics of Sikhi vids and also in my vichaars,so..... ) a little help plzz
  15. Guest


    Wjkk wjkf Please pray for the chardikala of my marriage and save it from a terrible ending. What paath should I read. Please help sangat ji, waheguru ji resides within his sangat
  16. Guest

    Moving house Hukam

    Wjkk Wjkf I have been having issues with living with my parents over the past years, it has been effecting my wife and I mentally alot, my kids are also getting older and are aware of issues. I know my parents are stressed too. It's gone to a level where my parents are involing my in laws and now one of my siblings does not talk to me. Im thinking that I should move out, although I'm in 2 mins so I did a Hukamnama http://www.sikhnet.com/shabad-printer/2986 Please can anyone tell me what Guruji saying. Thanks
  17. SSA to all. Recently ive been wanting to do paath and include it in my daily routine but im not sure where to start? I am a university student and im very depressed, i also cant read or write in the punjabi language which is making it even more difficult for me to do paath. As of right now, i just play the live kirtan from youtube to help relax myself during the day and before bed. I understand that it is important not only to recite paath but to fully understand it too. Can you please help me, where should i start? how often should i do paath? what should i listen to, try reciting and remembering?
  18. ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਕਾ ਖਾਲਸਾ ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਕੀ ਫਤਹਿ I'm really confused about Harnam Dhumma. Is he Jathedar? At first he's been meeting with the anti Sikh Akali Dal and now he has sent a letter (along singh Nihang Jathedars) to Akal Takt to kick Clown Nidar (RSS guy in the UK pretending to be a Nihang Singh) out the Panth! Hypocrisy. His chele have reasntly atacked Nihang Singh Fauja at Mehta Chownk! Please help me.
  19. Guest

    Which Shabad to do

    Sadh Sangat Jio please can you tell me which Shabad I should do to ensure Waheguru Ji keeps my children safe and well. I am always worrying about them dying, coming in any sort of harm etc. Please help. Desperate mum.
  20. Guest


    At school all my friends have turned their back on me and no one listens to anything I say. I've always been nice to my friends but they just bully me and say I'm too weird to be their friend. Why is Waheguru doing this to me! I do paath and always help others. But now my life is so miserable! I'm a girl in grade 9. Everyday I cry and all I ever hear are rumors about me! No one listens to me and my mom thinks I'm lying! Is Waheguru listening to me? Is there any shabad or paath to help me? I feel so alone and miserable. I have restless nights because I'm scared to wake up and face another terrible day. Sometimes I wish I could just die in my sleep! I cry myself to sleep every night. Even when I do paath it's like Waheguru isn't listening. Please help me, what should I do? I have posted the same thing to another sikhi forum, I would really just like some advice. Thank you so much. Wjkk Wjkf
  21. Any gurdwara there? Heard that all religions are banned there or something?! Going there in summer for few months
  22. Guest

    HELP With BOOK

    WGJDK WGJDF Khalsa ji, i will be writing a book which has my views , question and answers , details ,resources and activity about sikhi .So, i request you to give me some questions about sikhi which i can answer in the book (you can also give answers ),topics i should give my views on in the book(you can give ur views too) ( i dont want people to fight because of different opinions so please dont do that )( even controversial topics) ,resources , activities,saakhis ,sikh stories (any good story with sikhs in it)that i can write about in my book . I wont write your names in the book though (not even usernames) ( privacy 100 %).Please help your brother in this mission. Also you can give me suggestions for the title of the book.if you have any doubts you can post below and ask me i will surely reply.I will see your suggestions and select from them . I hopee you will like this thanks, love, bhul chuk maaf peace Regards Daas Guest Singh WGJDK WGJDF KHUSIAAN DE JAIKARE GAJAVE NIHAAL HO JAAAVE, NIHAAL HO JAVE ,NIHAAL HO JAVE ,NIHAAL HO JAAVE ,BAIRI NU BHAJNA PAVE , KALGIDHAR SWAMI SAHIB SRII GURU GOBIND SINGH JI DE MAAN NU BHAAVE ,SHAHIDAAN SINGHAAN SINGHNIAAN DE MAN NU BHAAVE NANAK GURU GOBIND SINGH DE MANAN NU BHAAVE NIHAAL HO JAAAAAAAAVE SAT SRII AKAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAL
  23. vaheguru jee ka vaheguru jee kee fateh iam singh in uk and i'm in my late teens i am amritdhari and i face a huge pornography addiction iknw its wrong but i really need help iam scared of telling anyone cuzz i know ill be judged. its an addiction its not even jus hindering my sikhi but its ls also making me fail my a levels. cuzz of the pornography addiction i cant complete my assignments and iam failing and my parents just think iam lazy thats why iam failing as humble brother i need in the dark age of kalyug can anyone help me please i would reallly appreciate vahegurooo jee kak khalsa vaehguroo jee kee fateh
  24. Wjkk wjkf, i am 12 yrs old and I want to take Amrit but my parents won't let me. 1. They say u r too young. 2. You might cut your hair when u grow up. 3. People don't hire amritdharis. 4. When will u get if u take Amrit. 5. You don't need to take Amrit to be a true Sikh. (I know this but I said u r not a complete Sikh) 6. God doesn't give anything to amritdharis These r some of the issues I am facing please help very depressed
  25. Guest

    Im scared of the dark

    Ever since i was little I've always been scared of the dark and i still have to sleep with the light on cuz its scary and what if a monster or ghost is going to get me so i have to keep a look out for them. What do i do?
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