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Has anyone ever experienced this and can send me relatable advice: I am into sikhi, my husband is not. He seemed like a normal guy for a person you would label as who identifies themselves as sikh but doesn’t practice. I always thought a sikh would always root for someone to progress on their spiritual path. Not be miserable that I no longer want to do the same things. He finds it hard to accept that I want to wear a dastar. Now with Guru jis kirpa I have got more and more into my sikhi but he keeps insulting things, he’s always negative about anything to do with it. Says ‘he’s not interested’ or he’s ‘sick of hearing about Waheguru’. We saw a Really inspirational Katha and he said I don’t care I’m not interested... it’s upsetting as I feel, ok you don’t have to feel the same as it’s Upto Waheguru when you are blessed to see the truth, but to say unsupportive comments all the time doesn’t help our marriage... and critical comments towards something about Waheguru like Katha just raises my anger. Something I’m trying to keep low but he’s making it so difficult! If we meet someone spiritual like a relative who is really gursikh, he doesn’t make an effort or talk as nicely as he would to some <banned word filter activated> talking about football. I think he cant comprehend my love for something he can’t see and he can’t handle that my world doesn’t revolve about him, that something else fulfils me.

Wjkk wjkf Long story short, my mother is orginising aranged marriage. I have told my.mother I not getting married unless the singhinis rehit maraydha is as strict as mine or close to it. I want a singhini who recites alot of bani and does alot of naam simran or as much as me. I dont care about how beautiful whatever she is but my parents dont understand. Im am willing to be behangam (not married for life) for life. I dont care either way but im not getting married unless singhinis rehit i strict, i want a naam simran bani reciting wali singhini otherwise no Im meeting girls family soon what do i do ??? Shes not how i want her to be ???? How do i say no without being disrespectful??