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Hello everyone. I know I will be heavily judged for this post but I’m prepared for it and could do with some honest advice/ help/support. I have been dating a British born Sikh gentleman for the last year. He is in his late 40’s and married ( although separated& has 2 kids- 16 &21) . I’ve known him for 10 years and always known he was unhappily married. It was an arranged marriage when he was 17. Now I know you will all judge him but he is a genuine, decent, caring individual who respects all sanctities of life. Similar to myself I so many ways. He is also a good dad. I am I white British and not really religious but the beliefs I do have are very similar to that of the Sikh culture. In the past week my partner has finished all his studying, during which time he has lived away from the family home. He has now told me that he needs to move back into his family home (with wife )otherwise his parents will outcast him from the community. At which point we have split up. I am devastated that in such a day and age this is how things are. I also feel sorry for him because he tells me that he and his wife have nothing in common and by all accounts it would seem that she has a different partner too. He also stays with me every weekend and goes home to visit his kids during the days which leads me believe that they must know he’s with someone else.What I don’t understand is how when 2 people love eachother so much and are so right together the rest of the community can’t see or agree to this. Surely your children’s happiness of utmost importance?We are good people we love volunteering in areas of need and always try to be kind in any way in which we can. I guess I’m asking if anyone could advise On whether it’s possible to work past these issues? Also has anyone ever had to deal with something similar. Thanks in advance