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Fateh I have a cousin who seriously believes there is a family problem where the spirit of a deceased relative is creating problems for everyone. She’s had arguments in her marriage amongst other things and now refuses to see family members as she believes they encourage the bad spirit and keeping away keeps her in a better place. Apparently her and her husband both hear things in their house. I don’t exactly believe that but I’ve recently had a disagreement with her, really she just couldn’t accept I wasn’t on the same page with her views and judging by her messages they both got annoyed and immature in the messages they sent me. I told them there’s nothing wrong in my life etc so not possible to believe what she is saying- I shouldn’t have said that. Since then my spouse and I keep arguing, it’s like nothing happens and then suddenly blows up and can even become violent. It’s not like us and I can’t help have they cursed me or has their bad luck jumped on me? If so what can I do? Any particular path? Thanks
Hi everyone, I'm a 19 year old female with polycystic ovarian syndrome and this is my problem. Ive never been on a Sikh forum before but I thought about sharing my story anonymously to get some much needed advice before I turn my back on the sangat. Ok, so ever since primary school I've had very hairy arms, legs , back and buttocks. I've been bullied to the point that no one should ever have to experience. I've had boys call me names like hairy mary, monkey, gurilla, the beast ect. I've had girls pull my sleeves up by force to laugh and draw all over my hairy arms, and boys push me in the playground so I'd fall over and graze my knees. I remember felling so hot and sweat in school and being unable to take my jumper off or wear socks to school instead of tights so the bullying would be low. Moving on to secondary school the bullying got worse, I'd have Sikh boys in ramals and gottis calling me moustache girl and hairy and telling me that they'd beat me up and kill me. A lot of the boys and girls would give me dirty looks, push me in corridors, not give me my school book when they were handing them out in class. All of the singhani girls who took Amrit also bullied me despite themselves bleaching their own facial hair and sideburns. Not even the teachers helped because frankly they didn't care about one student with a problem. My mom has no body hair neither does my nanny so they don't understand what I'm going through. Every time I mention my suffering with bullying and body hair as a female to them they clash with opinions. My nanny is amritari and says I should leave the hair alone and it would naturally (she doesn't understand the scientific hormale side of it) and my mom argues with me saying I should continue with the laser hair removal (I've had 6 sessions on my face last year which were not effective) despite my GP saying it was pointless since I'd need hundreds of sessions before it becomes even a bit effective as the excess androgens (male hormones eg testosterone) mean the hair follicles keep regenerating too quickly. I'm at my ends, I've cut my hair which was down to my knees in year 11 to take attention away from my facial hair to make myself look less tradition which I deeply regret as the pcos means I also have male pattern baldness so I have to use planter hair wash which is for women over 40 to stop the alopecia and thinning hair (it is currently chest high). I want to go swimming so bad but my hairy legs, buttocks and back mean I can't cover up those areas in a full sleeved bathing suit and I hate that I can't do one of the very few things that make me happy. What's surprised me the most I believe is that my own community, the sangat have let me down, instead of embracing a trait God has given and giving me support they have abandoned me, 90% of my bullies were Sikhs, most were boys who wore ramals and gottis and turbans, they all physically and emotionally abused me to the point were id cry every night to my mom contemplating my beliefs in God since I'd been given so much body and facial hair as a female. I'm looking for solutions and reasons to why the Sikh community were my bullies. I've tried bleaches, wet shavers, hair removal creams, laser hair removal, I'm currently on the dianette pill for acne and hiritism but it takes 8 months for full effects I believe and its side effects make my mood lazy, anxious, suicidal. I am an only child which adds to my unhappiness because I can't share my pains with anyone. My mom is a single parent who doesn't understand or want to understand pcos (I made full paged notebook full of my own medical notes of pcos and treatments from hours spent researching online and she hasn't picked the notepad up once) she is too busy talking about her ex bf to care about me, I have never met my dad who apparently lives in Canada with his new family, and my Punjabi isn't that great so I can't really talk to my nanny about it, I feel so lonely I have no cousins nearby or many friends to talk to because most of them think I'm akwardly shy since I'm only 4"11 so lack a lot of confidence and also because of the hair they don't want to be seen with me much so I'm very often at home alone in the summer holidays because my mom and nanny don't let me out of the house much anyway because they say it looks bad to the family if ppl see a girl alone walking outside as it makes her look bad to potential in laws in the future. My mom has bipolar disorder and she takes out her mood swings on me very severely, for example when I was 13 she told me because i wasn't studying 12 hours a day she was gonna wish God gave her cancer and that the next day I'd wake up without a mother and since I already didn't have a father or siblings I would have no one. She refuses medical care and my recent passing of my mama, her brother last year has triggered her depression and anxiety as well, so I don't know what to do. I've mentioned many problems, however I would like help with the hiritism side of pcos if any of the sangat would be kind enough to help me. Thank you if you have read my whole querry, I really appreciate it. Waheguru Ji Khalsa Waheguru Ji pateh
Hello brothers, I am 24 yrs old amritdhari Singh, good health but many of my beard and moustache hairs are starting to become white, I am studying now and tomorrow or day after tomorrow I have to grt marriage. I will look old in marriages, other family functions as I am too young to get a white beard and moustache. It is also important here to note that whatever mentioned on internet regarding diet, I am already eating all those foods. (hairs started turning white just 2-3 months now) i drink lots of water, sunflower seeds, other seeds, almonds cashews raisins , orange and carrot juice with ginger lemon juice, milk and all vegetables and other fruits, my diet has always a good protein, green leafy and pulses ( i am eating it from years but hairs whitening started now) Now almost 30-40 hairs are white in beard and moustache which looks bad, i know its natural process but don't u think i am too young for white dahda and musha? many of you sikh brothers have experience this issue( may be ur friends or knowns) please share some experience that can help me. I am getting worried every time I see my face. I haven't tried anything like lemon jice on face or banana peel on face( as doctor says its just for out skin and not beneficial for whitening of hairs), i have read a lot about melalin and hair pigments flow and all that but nothing helped me. I cant color them, trim or pull as Singhs are not allowed for It, so please give me some serious advice.