A Question!

[SSM]

awww bbhenji congrats ur getting married!

well why dont u have a simple wedding, go home and then the next day have a party?

or is that just as silly as having a party on the same day?

look bhenji when u get married to someone u need to try to keep them happy too so u need to be aware that he likes parties so u have to let him have something but then i was thinking that it aint appropriate for u to have one if u dont attend so im stuck not that u asked for my advice.

so my final advice is have recep one day after shaadi and have a fun one.

[proud_to_be_singhni]

ssm penji thanx but do you not think if the someone gives in this time to the others demand, then down the line will need to keep compromising each time...

...thats not how it should work hana.....or should it....damn i dont know....

this is so complicated ......for any1..... things shoulkd be straight forward, course they not....soooo

vaheguru will sort it......please?

[singhni84]

Instead of a reception, most Gursikhs have a Ransubhaaee Keertan in the evening. Would your to-be go for that?

[SSM]

be thinking abt ur partner all the time and what keeps them happy but also keep an eye out that they too feel the same way and that they too value what u want.

it really depends on both ppls attitude.

[singh_sandhu]

I rekon thers no harm in receptions as long as their is no meat or alcohol. I've been 2 like bare receptions, well actually not bare, but majority I bin 2 have alcohol n meat !

Once ther was a reception I went to & this Bibi was consuming alcohol .. I woz lyk

N e wayz on my wedding I wouldn want reception, I's prefer Rehansbhai Kirtan instead :wubc:

But Penji ! you sure it a scenario or u in the situation?

Meri Penji Viyohn Vali ho vee gayee ? ? Jus mesin !

[curious_man]

i want to be in her viah... i wanna see her acting hyper tht day..

but behn... compromise... he needs a reception...

ok... then no meat..no alcohol..no balle balle songs... if u need music..thre r soothing ones also...have a short reception...with main idea of foooooooood!!!

and yeah.... in reception... thre must be gajrelaaaa... or elese i'll be hyper!!!!

[amarjeet_singh_1699]

forget the reception. and if he dnt agree to a rainsbai instead, his sikhi isnt looking very strong. and if someone with a strong sikhi marries some1 with weak sikhi, the person strong in their sikhi will be pulled down as when you are married, evry thing u do affects both husvabd and wife. y does he want a reception thing anyway? sounds rubbish to me

[SSM]

ah im editing this soz

[proud_to_be_singhni]

forget the reception. and if he dnt agree to a rainsbai instead, his sikhi isnt looking very strong. and if someone with a strong sikhi marries some1 with weak sikhi, the person strong in their sikhi will be pulled down as when you are married, evry thing u do affects both husvabd and wife. y does he want a reception thing anyway? sounds rubbish to me

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compromise, compromise ,compromise,.......cant think no more

thanx to all responses, i have enuf to ponder over, by all means any1 else have anything to add please add.

this is a big thing.....a decision which relies heavily on the balance of this relationship, its not exactly straight forward.....why i can't make my mind up.....i dont know?...its not so simple.

Anyways............! (note to self) >>>Lighten up Already!!!!! @

Thanx evryone.

[Mehtab Singh]

PTBS bhenji, u still havent told us if ur the 1 getting married