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DUDEEEE I HAV LOADSSSS RESPECT FOR YOU MAN

AND I THINK MOST PEOPLE WHO REPLYED DO

YOU ARE A GREAAAAAAAT GURSIKH !

BE CONTENT AND HAPPY WITH WHAT YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU HAVE, COS I DEFINATLLY LOOK UP TO YOU !

AND I'M ONLY 16, NOT EVEN AMRITDARI, EVEN MY MATES HERE ARE PRAISING !

YOU GOO GIIRRRRRRRRRLL !!!! :lol:

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wow ..

bhenji ... i dont know what to say but.. dhan dhan guru pyaaarai !! bhenjiss go through soo much and we dont even show any respect to them ... no.gif

here is a moorakhs advice ....

your a bhenji .. other bhenjis would say all they can that they know about the situation .. what you can do is go to an elder gursikh bibi.. and get there advice .. not only advice i bet they would make you feel MUCH better .. they wouldnt even have to try .. pray.gif

there was this one bhenji i saw at india at a samagam .. ji trust she had A LOT of facial hair.. prob on the same extent you are describing.. and well she did TONS of seva .. TONSSS ..and whenever i would walk past her she would only do one thing .. SMILE !! pray.gif

just like the other bhenji said .. smileeee .. remember guru ji ..

but then again im only a guy i can only imagine what you could be feeling.. what you would be going through .. vaheguroooooo .. please make ur gursikh happy pray.gif

btw.. proudtothesinghni bhenji .. nice pic :lol:

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Altering the natural state of the hair, yeh it is forcefully coz, i used to bleach and your hair need to be covered with it and done like every month or so, and so its a big hassle for the hairs naturalness.....! Thats one point.....

any body else care to jump in with a view?...

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"Guru Ka Soulja", Bleaching is a Kurehat in the same way that dying the Dhari is a Kurehat, or any type of alteration of the hair is a Kurehat. This is not difficult to understand or even controversial. Any true Panj Pyare during the Amrit Sanchar will tell you this.

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Dear all,

Before you read this please do not just tar it with the same brush and say go and do a search on the subject, I really want you to try and understand my situation

I am 25 year old amritdhari woman and I am in despair over my facial hair, to set the record straight I would like to point out that it is not your ‘average’ amount of rom as in the soft hair that covers our bodies from head to toe, my facial hair is thick and coarse and ranges from 3-4cm the shortest to about 6-7 cm the longest. I have recently completed my masters degree at university with a good result and now I am looking for work after having several interviews I have been tuned down for posts and I put it down to the way I look. My parents are also distraught because I have had no marriage offers and they themselves don’t know where to start finding me a husband because of the way I look. It is a harsh reality but looks do affect the way people behave around us. I am so depressed and I hardly go out no more, maybe once every few days to the local Gurdwara but even then I don’t go when I know there will be a lot of sangat. I keep myself to myself and you can forget about socialising. I feel so hideous and hurt and I am so afraid. My parents have suggested I go to India to get married but I thought to myself that by going to India I am just going to end up marrying someone who is marrying me not for me but just for the sake of coming abroad.

I cannot wear a dastaar in fear of being mistaken for a man; once in the women’s changing quarters I heard a girl say to her friend “what’s he doing in here?”because she genuinely thought i was a man and it hurt so much, now you can sit there saying “bhenji be strong” but you just don’t know how hard it is!

I am so badly in despair that there are days that I contemplate giving everything up, I mean what is the point if all I am doing is being an extra pressure on my parents, I can’t get a job, I cant get a husband, what kind of future do I have? I am strict in other parts of my rehat with my daily banis and things, I have no problem with hair on my body as it is covered at all times, even my eyebrows are fine, it is just the hair on my chin and face at it’s worst ( if I can say that). I have had hormonal problems as I was going through puberty and my doc told me to go on the pill but after a while I stopped taking it as I learned it could have other side effects. I feel confused as to why I have to put up with it, I ask myself would my Guru want me to feel bad about myself but at the same time I know people are going to say God gave you that hair, and yes, yes He did, but did He want me to look grossly hideous and have such difficulties arise in life or did He also give me the free will to do something about it? Like if a woman was raped she would have the choice to abort the baby; or someone was disabled in such a way that by operation they could be better. I have learned why hair on the head, legs, and other body areas is important but why is the hair on a face of a woman important? If this question could be answered well it would make me think a few things over. For now I am seriously considering giving up, leaving home and moving away from my parents so as to not have them worry about me.

Can anyone please help?

And if all you are going to do is post guidelines from rehat maryadas and tell me to be strong then please don’t waste your time, they never covered the topic of “abnormal hair growth” in my amrit sanchaar so views on that would be better acknowledged

Thank you

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i read your article today...i know its too late...dont know u will read it also or not...i know it is difficult to live like this but it is not impossible...its just in your mind...if you think you are ugly then yes you are but if you think you are beutiful then you feel beautiful and gain confidence.....physical beauty is artificial a person can only be beutiful from within...

i know it is a world where physical beauty is given importance but trust me it is not evrything there still people who appreciate a humna being rather than how he/she luks. they more keen on their inner beauty and their work.

well this all philosphy. you have some hormonal imbalaces and nothing else. it can be cured. there are medicines which can help you without side effects. and waxing or threading is not the solution as tey will never be permanent amd you have to do it again and agian. secondly it will be against sikh reht. me i am a sardarni and i can understand what you are going through. my father is a doctor and he has cured a few cases like yours. it takes time but is surely curable.

i would really be happy to help you cure your ailment. be strong and dont indulge in wrong habits. if u you read this post plz contact me on my email, which is: chanpreet.singh.04@gmail.com

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