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I have been dating a Sikh guy for 9 months, (I am a white american girl) we had a bit of trouble nothing to do with his religion, I admired him for being so strong in his faith and even accepted it for myself) however, his niavete and immaturity got the best of me, possibly I could have overreacted, I thought that we had a chance of a future together, but with much thought I realized that he should be with some one of not only his culture, but religion, age, etc...

I feel horrible in a sense, but a sense of relief in the other, relief that he does not have to deal with an american girlfriend, cause I am sure that is hard in itself and time for him to find himself, what he wants in life...

I am not sure why I am writing, but I have been a lurker here for sometime and have always enjoyed the words of inspiration...

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You did what you felt was the right thing and now that the decision is made, try to move on.

If you feel some kind of a connection to the Sikh religion, then I would encourage you to read more about it. Maybe read passages from Sri Guru Granth Sahib (the scripture) at www.sikhitothemax.com or www.srigranth.org.

I don't believe in taking on a religion just because your partner is one, only if you have a genuine conviction.

Also, Sikhi is a faith that is not bound by race/caste/age/culture.

Anyways, good luck to you and hopefully everything will work out for the best (with God in charge, that goes without saying I guess...)

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I did not mean I was that I was interested in Sikhism just because of him...I was introduced to it by him, I would probably never been exposed to Sikhism otherwise, and did research and went to the temple myself. Anyhow, I do still love him, we maybe taken our relationship too fast. Breaking up was the last thing on my mind, but I had already said it, and it was done...I feel quite stupid now, because there is no genuine reason other than my overreaction.....

thanks for all the kind words

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