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Vaheguruu ..

Bhen that is a tough decision to make but at the end of it you need to decide for yourself what is important. Both are important for you so you must take ways in convincing your parents, your dad, in a good manner. They will give in. Show them WHY your dastaar is important to you, that its a part of you, and you are not ready to take it off just like that. There are other bibian that wear dastaar in that sangat (or probably some that want to but cant cuz of the same situation) talk to some of them and see how they adjusted with the situation. And hopefully, guru saahibs kirpa, more bhenjees will start coming into sikhi by seeing role models such as yourself... thats how it starts! In terms of kirtan/keski, Parents cant just take that away frm you. Explain to them the meaning of a dastaar, that theres not just a 'male aspect' to it. Educate them, but do it with an approach they wont get too iritated with the situation. With pyaar.

My advice in summary, do not give into either one. Keep both your crown and your sangat. Do not leave either one.

bhul chuka maaph

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try explaining the importance of it to them until he understands

i know many in the same situation with thier parents disagreeing with the concept. its tough but you have to stay strong

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maharaj is testing you to see if you have faith in him, and how much respect and pyaar you have for the crown maharaj ji has blessed you with.

you need to remain strong with maharajs kirpa and ardasah!! and not take it off STANDARD!!!....and keep having faith in guru ji ... and he will do the rest:) so dont worri about it sis ....parents always get funny my mum was like that with me when i started wearing dastar...but maharaj does so much kirpa makes the impoissible possible and helps his gursikhs... so keep the pyaar and faith and loeave the rest to guru ji ...TRUST ME!!....

....cus if we doubt guru ji it always gets trhown back in our faces then we think maharaj how could we have doubted you even for a second!...also penji make your gutka sahib your sangat always works:)!!!

dhan dhan sri guru granth sahib ji maharaj!!

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Waheguru ji ka khalsa Waheguru ji ki fateh

Bhen jee just keep strong man. You have to respect your parents and they do care about you. Perhaps you can sit down and talk to you parents and explain to them why you wear a dastaar. I dont know if that is realistic.

Just a question, did you talk to your parents before wearing a dastaar about your decision?

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Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!

ohh bhenji i understand how you feel. ive had the dastar conversation with my parents many many times and it usually doesn't end well. explaining can be hard, but never the less bani tells us to respect out parents and for good reason too. when it comes down to it they just have your best interest in hand. but at the same time someones their more worried about how other ppl with react and talk then trying to see how much it means to you. when they say but what about what so and so will say, ask them if your hurting that person in anyway, or being disrespectful...all you want to do is respect your gurus wishes, hes calling to you and your answering.. be patient, keep explaining and do ardaas, guru jee is always with you. and with this may you only continue to inspire the singhs and kaurs around you!

remember your Guru Gobind Singh Jees daughter!

roar kaur roar!

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please forgive my ramblings

waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!

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Hershi, you have to talk to uncle and try to keep your cool while talking to him! because your dastaar and sangat are extremely important! I am shocked that this is happening...you have to explain to uncle that what he has heard and the experiences he's had should not affect your sikhi! talk to aunty...i know how mad she gets if you dont go..so tell her to talk to your dad!!

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