Caste? Marriage Within Jaat?!

[Guest peacemaker]

Love has to be natural. One canot force love.

Then love in an arranged marriage is sometimes forced, right? I'd be interested in knowing the divorce rate in arranged marriages.

[Balwinder Singh]

Love has to be natural. One canot force love.

Then love in an arranged marriage is sometimes forced, right? I'd be interested in knowing the divorce rate in arranged marriages.

Love CANNOT be forced. Do you think that "forced love" is love?

Absense of love doesn't mean divorce.

In societies where arranged marriage exists, divorce is a tabbo.....that may one of the reason for lesser divorce rate.

I know women personally whose husbands use to drink and hit them....but they never filed for divorce.

Love in arranged marriage exist but its not forced. Its natural.

[Guest peacemaker]

Love in arranged marriage exist but its not forced. Its natural.

How can there be love if the two individuals hardly know each other? It's almost like an extended blind date to me. Keep in mind, I am talking about people who have never met each other face to face until the wedding ceremony. Doesn't love take time to cultivate? I believe people who are only truly in love should marry, shouldn't they? Not because some matchmaker set you up.

[Laadli Fauj]

u sayin my parents dont love each other?

U WANNA FIGHT?!

lol jk

i see what ur sayin tho bhaji

[Guest peacemaker]

u sayin my parents dont love each other?

U WANNA FIGHT?!

lol jk

i see what ur sayin tho bhaji

LMAO!!!! Love you man!!!

[Balwinder Singh]

Love in arranged marriage exist but its not forced. Its natural.

How can there be love if the two individuals hardly know each other? It's almost like an extended blind date to me. Keep in mind, I am talking about people who have never met each other face to face until the wedding ceremony. Doesn't love take time to cultivate? I believe people who are only truly in love should marry, shouldn't they? Not because some matchmaker set you up.

I dont know if we are on same plane.

"Cultivation time" is not a requiement for "Love". I very well beleive in love at first sight. There were many saints who fell in love with their guru at the very first sight. Love is so vast that we cannot define it in terms of circumstances.

It is highly debatable that love exists in so called "love" marriages....where people spend loads of time together. Do you agree?

Love is not conditional. Love doesn't require compromises. Love (and devotion) is so powerful and forceful that it can perform miracles.

[Guest peacemaker]

I dont know if we are on same plane.

"Cultivation time" is not a requiement for "Love". I very well beleive in love at first sight. There were many saints who fell in love with their guru at the very first sight. Love is so vast that we cannot define it in terms of circumstances.

We are now!

[9unjabi_Kuri]

What if i was just to remain friends with him? Is that okay?

And coming back to my original query....

... Marriage in differen jaat to what you are known to...

eg. Bhatia... To a .... different one is that wrong? Whe i say different one, i mean,of one which is not of your community... If that makes sense?!

---> Potiwal and Mattu?

Or

CAN IT ONLY BE...

---> Potiwal with a ... Digwa, gojra, Lohia, Lakhanpal... etc...

If this makes sense at all?!

[Mehtab Singh]

For the umpteenth time, please talk to your parents. They will not eat you up. Talk maturely and tell them clearly. Don't start crying in front of them like a soul in distress as if its the end of the world. Being parents they want you to be happy and want the best for you, and will not brush aside your choice (I hope). People on this forum can't really help you out much. You have to do it yourself. Wake up, get up, and go ahead. Do what your conscience feels as the best thing to do. If they are too strict about caste, then God help you.

I don't understand why there are 2 threads on the same issue? Is this a new way of getting attention?

[sitargirl]

I know I shouldn't say this....but everytime Punjabi kuri writes it makes me laugh loads....I actually think its the way she types. Its so hyper and funny. lol

I agree with mehtab above plus marry who ever brings u closer to ure guru. It may be same or different Jaat - it really doesn't matter...eg u can marry pink/blue or orange person!

I honestly don't know much about Jaats so I have no clue about all those names u wrote out. However all I know is that you should not be prejudiced or discrimate against someone due to caste.

So for me its more of a historical heritage and in the future for everyone worldwide its gonna become ure historical heritage too...so I imagine I will sit down and tell my grandchildren stories of the family tree etc....other than that it has no purpose in our society...