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ਕਰਿ ਅਪਰਾਧ ਸਰਣਿ ਹਮ ਆਇਆ ॥

Kar aprāḏẖ saraṇ ham ā­i­ā.

I sinned and made mistakes, but now I seek Your Sanctuary.

ਗੁਰ ਹਰਿ ਭੇਟੇ ਪੁਰਬਿ ਕਮਾਇਆ ॥੫॥

Gur har bẖėtė purab kamā­i­ā. ||5||

The Guru led me to meet the Lord, according to my past actions. ||5||

ਗੁਰ ਸਰਣਿ ਨ ਆਈਐ ਬ੍ਰਹਮੁ ਨ ਪਾਈਐ ॥

Gur saraṇ na ā­ī­ai barahm na pā­ī­ai.

If one does not enter the Guru's Sanctuary, God cannot be found.

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Can I ask something? Now this thread is called "love marriages", but the kind of marriage that most people have in sikhi is called an "arranged marriage", right?

Does that mean there is no love in an arranged marriage for your partner since you kind of got hooked up by your parents and never really got a chance to know them very well? Is it kind of like forced love? You be with someone for so long and hopefully you fall in love with them.

A love marriage seems like you fall in love with them much faster, without the help of your parents. Just an observation I'm making and I have not given my opinion, so don't pm me later and say "Oh, why are you condoning love marriages!????"

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Can I ask something? Now this thread is called "love marriages", but the kind of marriage that most people have in sikhi is called an "arranged marriage", right?

Does that mean there is no love in an arranged marriage for your partner since you kind of got hooked up by your parents and never really got a chance to know them very well? Is it kind of like forced love? You be with someone for so long and hopefully you fall in love with them.

A love marriage seems like you fall in love with them much faster, without the help of your parents.

"Does that mean there is no love in an arranged marriage for your partner since you kind of got hooked up by your parents and never really got a chance to know them very well? Is it kind of like forced love? "

Actually, without all that love and dating issues, it CAN make things easier, assuming you're alike. no heartache over who to go out with, and even if you don't love each other, imagine if you could both meet each others needs as very good friends in a marriage situation?

it's easier to respect someone a s a friend, more then the idealized way we imagine things to be, as lovers.

I just wish i made the right choice long ago. tongue.gif

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penje! we all are our guurjees children, instead of wasting precious time 'LOVING'.. falling in love, thinking in that way, instead forget it yeh, theres no point, as i said, and will keep saying, love marriages are not right.

sorry.

:)

BUT I LOVE HIM MORE THAN MY JAAN ITSELF!! I CANT LET GO OF HIM. HE MEANS EVERYFING TO MEE!!!!

;)

belive it or not....ur obsessed with this dude

when he ends up walking off or w/e, ull snap outta it

Eventually u will.

p.s u also need to notice that u keep ignoring the fact that its wrong and keep looking for sum "hope" (which u got no chance btw) so chill out... rules of the game wont change so put up with it.

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Someone suggested earlier.. that i should Run away!?? :) Please none of these sort of opinions help. And i would never do anything as such. EVER!

Please, i would much appreiate views and opinions that are not of that sort of nature.

Thank you.

People who say its wrong phenji, believe me they are just jealous that you have got something to love and perhaps would get in to long term relationship i.e. marriage. This is how things happen, and one way of finding a partner. I know someone who is amritdhari, who fell in love and just got married, so dont listen to others, think about your heart and what you do. Bear people are just jealous because they can't fall in love, you can fall in love and get married as well as having your sikhi intact.

If your in a prime age, then go for it, if your too young, then live a little, but people with this kind of mentality only get married when they are budday. No wonder, no one gets married these days, cos they think its wrong to fall in love etc, which is pure bu"!£$"£$"£$ if you ask for my opinion.

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Someone suggested earlier.. that i should Run away!?? :) Please none of these sort of opinions help. And i would never do anything as such. EVER!

Please, i would much appreiate views and opinions that are not of that sort of nature.

Thank you.

People who say its wrong phenji, believe me they are just jealous that you have got something to love and perhaps would get in to long term relationship i.e. marriage. This is how things happen, and one way of finding a partner. I know someone who is amritdhari, who fell in love and just got married, so dont listen to others, think about your heart and what you do. Bear people are just jealous because they can't fall in love, you can fall in love and get married as well as having your sikhi intact.

Exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :WW:

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