Battle To Be Wed

[Guest balwinderkaur]

nice read.

[DhadiMania]

i think we shud get united once again!

[Son of Guru Gobind Singh Ji]

well said Khalsa 4 ever

[Guest SikhForLife]

can anyone here define what should be done at a wedding and what shouldnt

i disagree with the mehndi stuff.. that brides put on..

also disagree with the show off stuff.. jewlry and what not..

[warrior*princess]

Putting yellow stuff is completely a blind ritual and only started with Hindu's. Guru jee is not accepting of this, so it is important that we do try to put a stop to such nonsense and pointless activities.

[S1ngh]

i only been to like 2 or 3 weddings in my life so i have no idea what those yellow and other stuff.. i agree with that their should be something which shows us what real sikhi wedding supposed to be like..

[Guest SikhForLife]

k so how does it work

you decide u wnna marry someone.. and u do an ardaas

set a date for marriage

engagement?

then keertan and akhand path bhog on the day of marriage

laavan at amrit vela

thats it rite?

no mehndi.. no parties etc no choora (red bangles brides wear for 40 days)

no washing with milk or w/e .. no flower garlands exchanged..

wat else?

[Son of Guru Gobind Singh Ji]

another thing I find very disrespectful is when some ppl put on a chaddar for the bride and groom to sit. This shouldn't be done as it was and still is a hindu custom and has no place in Sikhi. It makes u sit higher than the sangat so watch out.

Choora has no place in Sikhi. We wear the choora (karra) when we marry Guru ji... to wear a different choora is disrespect to Guru Sahib and neeshani of gulaami.

[Khalsa4ever]

vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

I totally agree SoGGSJ. Half the stuff we do is rituals. I mean, the average "Sikh" wedding takes like a week (receptions and stuff), whereas the only statement for marriage in Sikhi is the 1 hour anand karaj ceremony. That's it. Anything above and beyond that is plain stupid. (and stuff like those yellow dots is waaay dumb)

vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

[Son of Guru Gobind Singh Ji]

Another stupid thing is when the brothers get up and stand by Guru Sahib Ji to 'hand' their sister... so stupid!

I'm going one by one