Questions On Marriage And Religion V Culture

[Khalsa4ever]

thanks everyone for all the help!

yeah i agree he needs to get a life lol, very immature person.

well here's an update:

My parents tried to call it off but now his parents not really listening so we just ignoring them. he called to say sorry and stuff but not sure if i should accept apology or not? i think i shouldn't but i'm not sure if i should give him benefit of the doubt. I'm pretty sure that i will tell him i accept his apology but i think it is best not to marry each other. why some people need to be so dramatic with these things lol? his mom was all crying and stuff.

If its causing so much trouble with their parents and yours, with you and him, from something as small as this, I think you already know that its not going to work. When people get married, it must be to someone that shares similar beliefs as themselves, culturally and spiritually, especially when it comes to issues like this. Good luck Bhenji!

[Guest GUEST]

thanks everyone for all the help!

yeah i agree he needs to get a life lol, very immature person.

well here's an update:

My parents tried to call it off but now his parents not really listening so we just ignoring them. he called to say sorry and stuff but not sure if i should accept apology or not? i think i shouldn't but i'm not sure if i should give him benefit of the doubt. I'm pretty sure that i will tell him i accept his apology but i think it is best not to marry each other. why some people need to be so dramatic with these things lol? his mom was all crying and stuff.

Hi there,

Really feel for you right now, I went through similar issues and would advise you to consider very carefully whether you want get married to this guy. I was engaged to someone I thought shared the same values, etc and thought he would respect and look after my parents and vice versa. Prior to our engagement we had decided to get married and live separately but still look after both parents. After getting engagement he changed his mind and said we should stay with his parents. As I had been honest from the start I didn't want to argue and said we had decided to stay separate and that's what we should do. His parent have a daughter who refuses to get married and says she will never leave home so we would not have to be worried about anyone looking after his parents. However I still felt that we would always be there for our parents. I felt so strongly about this I tried to call off the engagement but then he changed his mind and said he was sorry. His parents even came to see mine and said they had no problem with us not living with them and they were happy for us. Basically we got married and then everything changed. For months I insisted on ensuring we see both our parents regularly and even call them all round to ours for dinner. Then his parents started getting difficult saying why should they come to ours for dinner - we should go to theirs!! Though we had no problem with this but they just kept making issues. Recently his parents have become very distant and as has he. Bottom line they want us to move in with them. I feel cheated as now I feel they agreed with me before and thought after marriage they can then have it their way! Therefore would really advise you to think about this - not saying the same would happen to you but I feel if an issue arises prior to marriage it may re-surface after.

Good luck with whatever you decide

[Guest Guest]

thanks everyone for all the help!

yeah i agree he needs to get a life lol, very immature person.

Yes and that comment of yours shed all the light needed on your maturity level as well :rolleyes: