Advice On Friendship!

[Guest _confused_]

WJKK WJKF!!

Basically im a 18 yr old Amritdhaari and i been speakin to this Singhni for about a year now or just maybe under. She told me about 2 months after that she "liked" me in that way. She said she would get over it and it was just a phase so we left it and carried on as normal. However she told me again today that she still got feelings for me and wants to see where it would go.

I dont see her like that at all, she really just isnt my type and we would be betta off being friends. It could easily ruin our friendship that we have. And im a person who cant say "no" to anyone so i had 2 put the phone down and pretend it ran outta battery! Help me i dont know what to do!

[Nehmat]

Hmmm...So you are the 'type' of person that can't say NO to anybody?

Lemme see..."Can I hit you with a baseball bat?"...Yes or No? okay okay, Just kidding =)

Tell her: 'NO'--- right away...but nicely. Don't play with her feelings. She'll be hurt first but then she'll get over it ---Don't worry. And It's better if you stay away from her because she is still a kid and basically, so are you. YOU are 'still' kind of 'young' to be involved in this sort of stuff anyways ---YES, you heard it right. So just ignore the pressure that your hormones are putting on you. And don't ruin her life. Stay away from her.

[Guest Guest]

Call her bhainjee next time you talk to her and she'll get the hint lol

[CaptainQ]

This is the problem with "singh & bibi relationships". nothing is ever innocent anymore. All these 'crushes' and 'relationships' are all false. Just tell her to her face and dont be such a softy lol.

although im not a fan of this guy, but this video is worth a watch. :TH:

[Guest me]

my advice my friend is dont get into it... ive been in the same situation and we got really close then down the line she tells me she just wants to be friends again. its a waste of time and you end up gettin hurt. so my advice keep your self to your self.

[Barfi n Mithai]

When reading this thread I felt very disappointed that this thing has also plagued our amritdhari singhs and kaurs....I know it can happen to anyone but suddenly it seems very common amongst amritdharis. I have heard many stories and seen amritdharis with gf, amritdharis checking each other out etc....very disappointing that amrithdari's are getting affected too.

I think the amritdhari boy should say no clearly so that the girl understands because from what you have said your kinda leading her on by sitting on the fence. I am pretty sure if you make it clear that the feelings are not mutual she will get over it. But if she cannot get over it then you have to stop talking to her. It's for her own good.

[princess84]

WJKK WJKF!!

Basically im a 18 yr old Amritdhaari and i been speakin to this Singhni for about a year now or just maybe under. She told me about 2 months after that she "liked" me in that way. She said she would get over it and it was just a phase so we left it and carried on as normal. However she told me again today that she still got feelings for me and wants to see where it would go.

I dont see her like that at all, she really just isnt my type and we would be betta off being friends. It could easily ruin our friendship that we have. And im a person who cant say "no" to anyone so i had 2 put the phone down and pretend it ran outta battery! Help me i dont know what to do!

Vaaheguroo jee ka khalsa vaaheguroo jee kee Fateh!!

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Pajee, firstly I think u are too young to be involved in such matters, and at this age, u both should really be concentrating on ur studies, and on sikhi.

And u saying u cant say no to someone, aint right, Does that mean if someone is doing something not accepted in sikhi, u would not be able to stand strong and make the other person realize also?? Despite the fact that u are amritdharee?? – Putting the fone down and pretending it ran out of battery don't really solve issues!! .

If u have pyaar for Guru Gobind singh Jee, then u will definitely make this penjee, who is on the wrong realize, she aint doing the right thing- she is too young to be involved in such matters, and she should be working hard at school, and getting the grades to get to university etc, also tell her she should be concentrating on sikhi, ( ask her to read history of sikh women like Mata Bhani jee, Mata Gujri jee, Mai Bhago etc ) make her clearly realize she is like a sister to you and no more, and I don't think you should be talking to her really over the fone after that. It is not right to form a relationship before getting married.

Bhul chuk maaf

[ANT4RJ4MI]

Pyar vich hi Rabb hai : )

[G. Singh]

Pyar vich hi Rabb hai : )

but he doesnt love her :gg:

[singhni wannabe]

Tell her straight you dont see her that way. Its not fair on her otherwise, you're kind of leading her on by keeping in contact with her etc.

You need to keep your distance, and avoid such relationships in the future.