Anything that fans our ego is not good for us. Name doesn't have to add to our ego, instead it can provide us inspiration, in which case it is a good thing, and can become "a great connection to your self identity and individuality" as claimed by the Singhni in question. Throughout our history, our Gurus have given new names to many Sikhs to inspire them, and these people went on to become model Sikhs. We must remember that oneness and equality doesn't mean uniformity. Gurus and saints have wanted people to be "Nirale" -- Tyrants have wanted people to be uniform. Unless you know for sure that Singhni in question is on an ego trip because of her name, why pick on her?
Waheguru ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji Fateh
So I was on linked in today, one of my connection a Sikhni with phagg, so she looks like a follower of Sikhi, had a post 'the importance of your name' wherein she goes on and quote "Your name is often your greatest connection to your self identity and individuality."
I responded with, quote " why get caught up on ones name? Are we not supposed to get rid of attachment? Such as 'self identity' or 'ego'.
She then replied with quote "That's another view on it - thank you for sharing your thoughts. For many of us it's about courtesy and showing each other respect."
It got me thinking are we now in situation, where we think we know better than the teachings of Guru Granth Sahib Ji? Or am I making a mountain out of a mole hill.
Would like some other people's thoughts on it.
Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh
Why are you fishing for respect? If it doesn't come naturally to them, is it really worth anything if it needs to be demanded? See, that's the kind of mentality that a banda wouldn't give two hoots about in all honesty. Obsessing over such trivialities is a female trait. Is your mother putting these thoughts and perceived micro-aggressions into your head? Stop it. It's not a respectable form of behaviour. It makes you seem weak. Don't get so familiar with your in-laws. Be polite, be honourable and respectful, but don't talk about nonsense like you've mentioned. It's embarrassing, bro. Maintain a respectful distance.