My Brother Cut His Hair

[Amrit79]

lol true true....but what better thing do I have after class then mass around with women .....

Uhh there's lots you could do, get some exercise, go for a run, join a gym and lift weights, join a martial arts club (Muy Thai recommended). Not only will you feel better, you will also look better and hopefully that will give you a much needed confidence boost.

All ready fit and don't have time to join a club and work out to much work some times...

[Guest Karan]

my brothers and I were all brought up in a super religious house... he went to college and this is his 3rd year. He cut his hair. I don't even know what to do. My parents are so shaken up and crying nonstop. We all did shabad, path, kept out K's and seemed to live care-free lives. Then he randomly phoned and said he cut his hair and shaved his beard.. I don't want to see his face anymore. He said he will not grow it back. He didn't tell anyone before going and I don't even know what to do.

I am currently in college in my second year, I really want to cut my hair and I know that you think your brother did a wrong thing, but think about him. think what he wants. I really really want to cut my hair, but i cant, and i will the day i get a chance. So think about him, i know it might be hard for you but its harder for him.

[apnepart2]

why do you want to cut your hair? to appear more attractive or is there another reason?

[Guest Jagjeet]

Karan try to find a way to get around it... I'm the original poster of this topic. What has it been.. 5 months?

5 Whole months and my mom is still completely mentally messed up. I still can't look at him in the same way as I did before.. my dad and grandpa hardly ever talk about him. Think about your family before you do it... think of how you can tie a good looking dastar or pataka (there are ways). Think of how to make yourself look better and think of what a waste it is to throw away the past 20 years of your life..

[sonearyetSOfar]

oh, i had my hopes up for some good news

well part of my previous post

''does he go more the side of 'maya'. a lot of socialising (not the religious kind), spending money etc etc.

Also is he a bit selfish, again both things i've said from experience of someone like that, because he hasn't thought about what it would do to the family or anything, or looked at what's good, he's looked at what is easy.''

Karan, have you tried to understand more about sikhi, and why you shouldn't cut your kesh, or have you just thought i don't care what anyone says i'm just gonna do it my way.

maybe you want to do all sorts of things, and you want to cut your kesh etc, and you've seen how 'easy' it would make things and you're just looking at that perpective. have you tried, please try, just a little bit, to look at the spiritual side of things, to see what gurbani says, to go to a summer camp or something or a class and pose the questions that you have.

it can be seen in the world that people who work really hard are the most successful, people who make sacrifices like great sportsmen or soldiers in the war, they are saluted by everyone. those are usually the best people in western society (did you see the armed forces awards). in life i guess sikhi is that path of hard work which can lead you to success at the end

- maybe i think, maybe you want to see how sikhi can be cool, how it can be fun and chilled out - i'd say go to a sikhi camp in the summer first and see how it is. maybe you don't care about anyone talking like they know it all and thinking they're of a higher intelligence. maybe you just wanna see how you can be a sikh and be chilled out. maybe the way your parents brought you up in sikhi you felt it was too strict, maybe you need a viewpoint of some sikhs who are chilled out.

Q. do you believe in god? if so what are your views.

[Only five]

my brothers and I were all brought up in a super religious house... he went to college and this is his 3rd year. He cut his hair. I don't even know what to do. My parents are so shaken up and crying nonstop. We all did shabad, path, kept out K's and seemed to live care-free lives. Then he randomly phoned and said he cut his hair and shaved his beard.. I don't want to see his face anymore. He said he will not grow it back. He didn't tell anyone before going and I don't even know what to do.

I am currently in college in my second year, I really want to cut my hair and I know that you think your brother did a wrong thing, but think about him. think what he wants. I really really want to cut my hair, but i cant, and i will the day i get a chance. So think about him, i know it might be hard for you but its harder for him.

His brother did do a wrong thing. What he wants isn't important. How selfish can you be. You're scared of humans that won't let you cut their hair, then just imagine how scared you will be in the after life............ Enjoy the ride