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9. Never lived out

can i ask why?

what if she lived out, but never had a boyfriend, never went clubbing, never drank alcohol, basically never did any "putteh kam" and still knew how to live within a family environment?

not everyone who lives out at uni wants to go wild. some people do it because they NEED sangat desperately and want to get a great education at the same time.

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9. Never lived out

can i ask why?

what if she lived out, but never had a boyfriend, never went clubbing, never drank alcohol, basically never did any "putteh kam" and still knew how to live within a family environment?

not everyone who lives out at uni wants to go wild. some people do it because they NEED sangat desperately and want to get a great education at the same time.

Living out automatically in my eyes puts the girl in the category of the "undesirable loose women" I do not know one girl who has lived out yet never indulged in filth (ie had guys back at her place or went to guys flats). It would be very hard to trust someone whose lived out, though they maybe some women who are totally chaste and are clean the vast majority who lived out unfortunately always get influenced to partake in bad things usually because of sheer boredom.

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Living out automatically in my eyes puts the girl in the category of the "undesirable loose women"

i think that is a highly judgemental and unfair stereotype.

I do not know one girl who has lived out yet never indulged in filth (ie had guys back at her place or went to guys flats).

you havent met me. or about 100 other bibia i know.

It would be very hard to trust someone whose lived out, though they maybe some women who are totally chaste and are clean the vast majority who lived out unfortunately always get influenced to partake in bad things usually because of sheer boredom.

i agree that a large number of girls who live out do some extremely stupid things, but just be careful not to tar everyone with the same brush. some of us know how to behave with dignity and self respect.

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gupt singh my panj pyare never told me to marry another amritdhari or even she has to have a keski.... interesting.

even as per sgpc rehit mariydha, amritdhari sikh is only allowed to marry another amritdhari...

as far as my little knowledge goes, for those who take amrit after marriage, their partner must also be there... in few cases panj with bless only one with amrit, but will also give hukam of not maintaining relationship with spouse as if this is done, one is become tankhaaeeaa

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i agree that a large number of girls who live out do some extremely stupid things, but just be careful not to tar everyone with the same brush. some of us know how to behave with dignity and self respect.

Okay so agreed I'd say prob 90-99% of girls who live out do stupid things. And Genie said he didn't know a single girl who has lived out and not messed up so I'm thinking he has the right to be this weary of girls who live out, I didn't hear him branding all girls who live out to be like that he just said in his eyes that's how it is as that's what he's seen to date.

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I could say the same thing about guys,

I could say i dont want to marry a guy thats lived outside, becaus that could mean he could have girls over n do stupid stuff at uni/college, really its the same thing for both sides,

But i would give more props and respect to that girl/guy who has lived on thier own and have kept 100% good character, which is impossible without sangat,

As ppl who have only lived at home, they could look innocent but have crazy thoguht and want to do crazy things but never got the chance,

Kaljug man, we are surrounded by this fire, Mahraj apney bacheya dee laaj rakho ,, Good character baksho! Apna Piyaar Bakhso!!

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HELLOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOo,

can anybody be talking about boys living even with parents and still messing around.

NO, I am not favouring girls messing around staying in or out, BUT I am just bringing to you guys notice that don't point fingers when most of you BOYS (yeah the ones who specifically pick on girls) also do mess around.

I just hate the current society we have where we kinda indicate that boys messing around is ok, but girls not.

In my opinion, nobody should, boy or girl, living in or out.

BUT as I said few months back, a boy who messed around with one girl, should get a partner who also messed around.

Don't look for a perfect girl when you are not perfect yourself.

I was going to write it yesterday, but held on. But today I will write that. People who have list of things for girls or boys to qualify, please go through that list once more and see how many qualities you possess yourself before you go hunting those in someone else.

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